How to catch a Liar... Top Five ways..

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India
July 2, 2008 11:03am CST
Again it is an interesting piece of information to be shared with my comrades here...How to find a person to whom we speak is a liar or not.. 1) Tricky Tilt : The liars most often sit with both arms and legs crossed with their legs frozen.. 2) Imprecise Pronouns: People often pepper their tales with second- and third-person pronouns like "you," "we," and "they." 3) Heavy Hands When telling the truth, people often make hand gestures to the rhythm of their speech. Hands emphasize points or phrases--a natural and compelling technique when they actually believe the points they're making. The less certain will keep gesticulations in check. 4)Nervousness: They often avoid eye contact, have heavy perspirations..and breathing.. feel some what unrestive.. always willing to close the discussion.. 5) Curious questions: They often stress the lines that " to be honest with you.".." to be frank with you"... and most importantly they avoid answers to the direct questions asked to them.. Certainly.. i use the fifth point that i have described here.. as a ,measure to.. find the truth in the person to whom i converse.. Have you observed any of these in your day to day life to mark out the liars... Thanks for sharing..
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@Wolfechu (1193)
• United States
2 Jul 08
One way that almost always works (Taught to me by Scott Adams, creator of Dilbert): Ask them outright what it is you think they're not telling you, or lying about. Do it quickly, and do it without warning. For example - "Are you cheating on your girlfriend?" Watch the answer. If it's something like "What the hell!?" or "No!", or "What?", they probably aren't, and they're reacting instantly to why on Earth you're asking such a question. If they answer with a measured response, or a return question, like "Why would you say that?", or "What makes you think that?", be concerned.
• United States
3 Jul 08
That can be faked ^_^
@Wolfechu (1193)
• United States
3 Jul 08
It can indeed, if they're expecting such a question. Which is why the important part is catching them off guard.
• United States
3 Jul 08
Frankly, thanks for sharing, but i think those ways won't really work. Well, they won't work for experienced liars. 1) Experienced liars tend to leave their body image open (hands wide apart) so they will be more believable. 2) They use 'I' so that there will less chance to bust them by asking the person what was referred to in the 'we' and 'they'. But I agree with the 'you' one. 3)That can be easily adjusted. 4)That will never happen with experienced liars. 5)Nope, not at all. Alot of honest people stress those too, so it'll be easy to confuse. Those won't really be sucessful with people who lie all the time, but they'll be sucessful with people who lie once a long while.
• United States
3 Jul 08
Oh, one way i think DO work is that the liar's hand often touch their face while lying. Sometimes even good liars can't resist doing it.
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jul 08
thats a great tip you had shared with us here !!well yeah sometimes i can detect if ill give my 100% attention to the speaker..what ive usually observed was the way his/her mouth talk especially if you really know the guy you had spoken to personally..and yes the eyes speaks too..but not always coz some are really good at lying..
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Jul 08
thanks my friend for the BR!!
@gemini_rose (16194)
2 Jul 08
Yes they are very good points! Also speaking from experience of knowing a liar, I notice that if they think they are going to be caught out they will talk non stop. They will jabber non stop about everything and anything to try and get you away from the subject they have been lying about. It is quite amusing to see them do it as well.
@gemini_rose (16194)
3 Jul 08
No problem! I always say that I dont lie, but guess what? I am lying cos I do!!
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
no. 4 would be the easiest way for me to catch a liar. i can simply tell if they are making up stories or not
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
3 Jul 08
It is hard to describe but I can sense liar after 10 seconds...maybe with more than just body language but sense of what they say...
• United States
3 Jul 08
Also- sometimes a liar will look up and to the right.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
3 Jul 08
well, most it are true if i may say! but still i believe truth will still prevail!
• India
3 Jul 08
i do agree with ur pointz saivenkaat802003....even in a relationship with ma gal i hav to say dat liars r everywer...none is trustworhty but trust urself....doz pointz apply to most of da people except for a few...who believe in trust")
• South Korea
3 Jul 08
This is verrrryyy true. My friend constantly lies to me, and I always catch her at it. Thanks for these tips!
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Thanks for posting this! Very interesting indeed! [i]"3) Heavy Hands When telling the truth, people often make hand gestures to the rhythm of their speech. Hands emphasize points or phrases--a natural and compelling technique when they actually believe the points they're making. The less certain will keep gesticulations in check. 4)Nervousness: They often avoid eye contact, have heavy perspirations..and breathing.. feel some what unrestive.. always willing to close the discussion.. "[/i] These I find to be true. When a person is nervous, he or she tends to make use of a lot of unnecessary hand movement. And the nervousness is usually associated with untruthfulness or not having enough information. It's hard to catch a liar unless you're always on guard though. I tend to be very trusting and take things as they are. :(
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
The no. 4 is the easiest that you can identify since it is a given gestures. The rest are done by professional liars LOL. I should get rid of liars in my life than trying to figure them out in every gestures, that's hard huh! Anyway, thanks for a wonderful tips here Saiven...
@subha12 (18453)
• India
3 Jul 08
i think all the points are very well written it is very useful also, the last point is more important. i have also noticed that they do not make eye contact. there are tough liers who do avoid all these !
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jul 08
I add one more to the list, a person who is nervous and fibbing often times keeps putting his or her hand'over his mouth. I caught my hubby out on this several times when'he told a white lie because he did not want to upset me, so I would just say, come on tell me the truth I am a grown up I can handle it, then down would come the hand and he would blurt out I got fired, or I got a traffic ticket. okay I could handle that as long as he did not lie about something really heavy.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
Hi saivenkaat802003! That is interesting to note my friend. However, I just rely on my instinct most of the time. Anyway, I always give the other person the benefit of the doubt most of the time since I really am not sure what he/she is going through. But I do make eye contacts all the time unless I don't like him/her at all. haha..But thanks for sharing this. It is really interesting. Take care and God bless you always my friend.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I have never really noticed any of these things.. I don't believe the 3rd one as I couldn't talk if my hands were tied.. I talk with my hands constantly, enough for my husband to say that if my hands were tied, I would be speechless.. I do know one particular person that lies constantly, and we kid about the way to tell if he is lying or not is to see if his mouth is moving.. If it is, he is telling a lie.. I don't know why he does it but he does.. I will have to start watching people more closely and try to keep my hands still..
• China
3 Jul 08
I found eye contact can tell the truth, especially between peoples with close relationship.
• India
2 Jul 08
Hi Saivenkaat, don't wanna sound negativeminded, but honestly, truthfully, I have never met a person who told the truth. Most people behave just like those five points of yours. ;) Cheers and thanks for sharing!