Trust him?

@bcote212 (1113)
United States
July 3, 2008 12:03pm CST
I recently started seeing a guy. The bad thing is he is in California, and I am in Maryland. He is moving to MD for school, we met when he was looking at apartments. He is going to go to Africa as part of an aid program to help children with food, clothing, and medical. The thing is I know that there are two co-workers that are going on the trip that really like him. I know I want him to go because he will be helping people who really need it, but should i be worried?
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20 responses
• United States
11 Jul 08
Well, what would make you not trust him?...is he a flirt?, have u met these co-workers? if hes never given you any reason theres no reason for you not to trust him.
• United States
11 Jul 08
Has he done anything to make you feel like he wants other women? If so, then I would worry. But if he hasn't, then I wouldn't.Just because the co workers want him doesn't mean that he wants them.
@edx111 (21)
• Jamaica
4 Jul 08
Remember the old adage: I was not born to live up to your expectations and you were not born to live up to mine. Love someone and set them free, if he/she is meant for yu, they will come back to you; if they dont return, they were'nt meant for you. Its hard, but it makes sense. If you love someone, set them free
• China
4 Jul 08
Iet him go where he is more needed.
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Hi bcote212, as long as he love you you dont have nothing to worry, even though he is with you when he want to cheat you he can still do, so I think just give him your full trust and always keep in mind that if you really meant to be, you will be meant to be. thanks
@muxicka (216)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Are you already "in a relationship" coz you said you just started seeing him. If not, why bother getting involved in him too much?
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
4 Jul 08
I'd say no. You should not be worried that your man is going away with some people that like him. If he is in an exclusive relationship with you he will not do anything you need worry about. If he does then you should not be with him. And you really do need trust to make this work. without it it may break down fast. I'd talk with him about it. Hope you trust him, and that everything will be fine.
@tessah (6638)
• United States
4 Jul 08
this is really rather simplistic.. if you cant trust him.. you shouldnt even be with him.
• China
4 Jul 08
Yes,trusting him is the best way to relief yourself and him maybe.And my advice is do not forget to tell him how much you love him.I trust you ll get a good and proper way to show your love and strengthen your relationship. Remember you are a generous girl and i think your boyfriend will feel proud of you.
@subha12 (18462)
• India
4 Jul 08
i think you should not worry so much,. if there is really no reason. let him help, other. he is going for a noble cause i guess. just await when he retyurns.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
4 Jul 08
Hi bcote, it is by this journey, you will know if he is sincere about whatever is going on between the two of you...If he will do good with that mission and survive temptation, then, he is surely a great guy for you..stop worrying, things happen with reason!
4 Jul 08
Hi Bcote212. I think that when two people are in love they shoudl trust each other fully. But since it seems you are already having doubts maybe you should talk to him and find out where he stands. If it is not meaning to be that it is best to leave it alone. Good Luck Hartley
@midautumn (219)
• China
4 Jul 08
don't be worried about it. trust him,because he is going to offer help to people who need.
• China
4 Jul 08
Yes, I know your feeling,however ,please hold the point which is helpful for him, sometimes, we have no other choice!
3 Jul 08
Hello bcote212, Yes trust him that is all you can do,don't ask him too much and wish him well with the job in Africa, if you truly care for you I won't do any thing to hurt, never mind the other two workers they will be too busy. Have faith. Tamarafireheart.
@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
3 Jul 08
lets see , there are 2 co workers that are into him , and your his girlfriend , its kinda a down fall cause i know your mind is going to be wondering and playing tricks on you ...thats alot to handle i would say break up until he comes back but that would lead to worse situations ..and then u could call him constantly but that wud be too much on him ...well heck the both of you arent even in the same state now ..so you should be used to this , i dont think he should go and should stay with you to make up lost time , i mean not unless he sees you every weekend
• United States
3 Jul 08
Well when you say that you just started seeing him, how long are you talking? A couple of weeks, months? You don't want to put too much into something that just started especially being that he is on his way to Africa and how long will he be there? I believe you should take your time with this. When he comes back from Africa and if he seems interested in you still, then and only then would I concentrate on the relationship a little more.
• United States
3 Jul 08
People are going to do what they're going to do. If you spent the whole time worrying you won't be able to live your life. If you tell him not to go, he'll think you are a crazy jealous person that's trying to hold him back. First and foremost, it's a long distance relationship from the get go. I'd be more worried about someone hooking up in California than in Africa.
@kaleegirl45 (1474)
• United States
3 Jul 08
If he really like you, he be back and hook up with you. You don't need to worry, since you just both met. How long is he going to be gone?
@excellence7 (3448)
• Mauritius
3 Jul 08
If there is trust then no worry dear..only your heart can know him and ask your heart how much trust it can give him...if your heart responds in the favor of trust then be out of worry...