July 3, 2008 7:42pm CST
It seems that from the day we were born, we come to this world to suffer. Yeah, we're loved by families and friends, but we will sooner or later lose them forever. People can easily pass away, without a notice sometimes. Some will die at an early age, with their parents left suffering the loss, some will live longer than they want to suffer the lonliness, pains. This world is also full of doubt, fight, selfishness, all kinds of relationships, money affairs etc. The 16-year-old child of my colleague died yesterday because of cancer, which makes me and my roommates start to think life's too tender to stand storms, rain, diseases. And we should try our best to protect ourselves and people around us, to cherish every minute we are together, to love boldly as if we have never loved or been loved, to strive for our dreams, to live our life to the best
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4 Jul 08
What on earth is the point of posts like this I wonder? Perhaps you want a pity party.... perhaps you like attention... But for me this is just like a Hallmark Greeting card verse.... I give it little attention, unless to mock it or smile inside (in a bad way).
4 Jul 08
For me its just a way how you think life is that you will experience life as you describe it to be. But then try to think life is a time for us to be with our loved ones and friends. Don't thhink of the diseases coming along your way but be happy with what you have right now. Life may be hard but bearable for as long as you have loved ones around you and take care of you. They may be gone in time but surely there are others who will be left for you to hang on till its your time to go. I am pretty sure life is not all suffering there may be test that come along your way but there are also happy times which you should treasure more than keeping in your heart the hardships and struggle in mind always. Stay happy despite the hardships and sooner or later you'll a much brighter days ahead.
4 Jul 08
Thanks, rsa101, yeah, it is the way that we think about life. But i also consider that if i'm living happily, it's just because i'm a good liar to myself, i've been successfully good at cheating on myself, keeping comforting myself with a little happiness and turning blind to the large part of suffering. But i do agree that if one likes to be happy, no one can stop that.
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7 Jul 08
I just had 2 days of weekend with fever. I think that was one tough life for me. But you know what, what kept me from feeling a victim of my circumstance was my son. He kept on making a lot of distracting me from where I was. He kept my spirits alive. He played doctor and kept me pretty amused by his antics at time. I could have stayed depressed all my days but he was there to make me happy despite the situation. I only realized this today when I read your post how he made my two days not feeling the best of me and how he changed my way to deal with the situation I was in.
4 Jul 08
I am sorry to interrupt if i am interrupting, but Lowering life target is something i can never agree with. People dont acheive greatness by lowering targets. Jesus did not lowered his target, Lord Buddha did not acheive salvation by lowering his target. However, even if we do aim high, and do everything we can to acheive that.. yet cherish every moment we live .. we can be far more happy than we are, or we can be by lowering our life target.
4 Jul 08
I definitely agree. Sometimes I feel like I'm just letting my life pass me by and that scares me but sometimes I also feel like it's out of my hands. It's a no win situation at times. I definitely agree that we should cherish the good times and our loved ones. Life is to short not to. That's a shame what happened to the 6 year old. I'm so sorry about that. It breaks my heart to hear things like that...
4 Jul 08
do not be so pessimistic. everything has its value, whether happyness or sadness, whether success or lose. don't you think that after lose you will cherish more about what you have now. and after you are defeated you will become more encouragous? many years ago i was sad when i did not pass a exam or get any defeat. but now everything is not as that important as i saw before. the world is still beautiful even though there are many bad news. just keep a clam mood.
4 Jul 08
Thanks, qhwater, i noticed that after a loss i'd cherish more, but the loss can never be back, that's heartbroken. Good to hear that you have a good mood, and i'll try my best to improve. You know i'm not always pessimistic, I always laugh and live happily, but if i'm pessimistic i'd remain that situation for a while totally sad about the current circumstance.
4 Jul 08
I agree with you, Lynette. Life's a totally uncertain period where each moment you pass, each thing you do, each breath you take, may be the very last of yours. All our lives, we run after money, after luxury, thinking that they are the ultimate goal of our lives, thinking that more money will buy us more happiness. But we don't know exactly how much is the limit for us to really become happy. As a result, we are relegated to a lifelong chase after more money, more material comforts, and higher social status. They may make you proud, make you want to boast about yourself, but at the end of the day, when you are in bed, and alone with yourself, you won't find any peace at heart. The thirst for money will never be quenched in your life and you'll depart from this life with a parched heart. You talk of loving boldly, Lynette. But who do we love? When everyone is engaged in this fierce rat-race of life, does anyone have the time or interest to slow down a bit to let the gentle breeze of love engulf them? I don't think so.
4 Jul 08
Hey, abhi, morning greetings from China. Good question, who should and can we love in this world. Ourselves. Love ourselves. As i'm not married, well, if there's still room left in my heart, love my parents and siblings and then friends, lover. The rat race makes me sick, but we have to live around this. Have you ever tried to love someone while he/she finally disappointed you?
11 Jul 08
this is the same reason why i always say life is unfair...people come and people go..some you may see again some you may not forever..we wouldn't know till when we live in this world full of hatred and unfairness..i lost a brother how was 19..he wasn't ill and not having any health problems, his was all emotional..he decided to kill his self on Feb 28 2007..its been a year now over but still the feeling of losing him is the same..i've been through tough times with life and still struggling..who would know, after choosing to live for my family..work hard for them to give the best of the best i could give and tried to be good to others as much as possible..now i am suffering of cancer...see now how life is so unfair..
5 Jul 08
well, we can't really help it as it is the nature of the fallen world... we live in a fallen world ever since Adam and Eve fall into sin by not obeying God's commands and all the things that you mention in your post are the consequences... unfortunately, we can't avoid it... we have to accept it and struggle in this life after God comes again for the second time and bring all of us who believe in Him to our eternal home... we are just a pilgrim in this world and this is only our temporary place... so that's why we need the strength and guidance from God to go through our lives in this world because as you say life is tough... we can't and don't have the strength to walk alone in this world if God is not with us... take care and have a nice day...
5 Jul 08
I am sorry to hear the passing of your colleague's 16 year old child. It must be really hard for your colleague to come into terms. Yes I agreed with you that life is tough not just for me but for all people. They even have their own problems and dilemmas but this was just the way of life. Of course we are here to live and to fulfill and live our lives to the fullest. God has given me so many challenges as well as blessings that everyday He accompanied us. I lost my mum to cancer almost 9 years ago and since then I've been trying to cope with the great loss but eventually it gives me understandings that we cannot live forever. We are all gonna die but before we come to that point we have to do everything that we can to build our humanity and to pass our value to the children for the next generations to come. Hopefully the future would be better although there will be bad times when they will be tested for survival in this fast growing world and many weird things happening more frequently. Thanks for sharing your views and take care. Cheers.
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4 Jul 08
Hey lynette, Sorry to hear about your colleague's child:( thats really horrible.. but all thoes things you listed about life that child no longer has to deal with any of thoes. hes now in a place were there is nothing but happyness. That is the way i think about it... I agree though with everything you said up there in your discussion. and i to beleive that we should not take things for granted,protect who we can and live for our dreams...
4 Jul 08
Life isn't easy. But it isn't supposed to be easy. It's supposed to be tough and painful and full of traumatic experience at one point or another. Because you cannot fully appreciate life and the gifts it gives you unless you're almost painfully aware of how short and fragile it is. And to be honest I think that only those who know from their own experience that life sucks, can be really, trully happy. Because they will take pleasure in everything they can and will be happy because the sun came up and not because prada released a new line of shoes (though that's kinda a good reason too... sorry. I'm a prada freak)