if you really love someone, do you alway have to give in?

Philippines
July 3, 2008 8:33pm CST
lets say that this man/woman makes you heart pound non stop. and most of the time makes you feel very special, but at times your values, interest, hobbies contradict. are you willing to give your share of thoughts for love just to please your lover?
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9 responses
@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I can tell you I have been married for 6 years and I can say I will gladly give in when it serves the bigger purpose. As a vetren in the married field, you will know what arguements are worth it and which ones just arent. There are things she is just better at and things I wil fight to the end for. It's just a matter of experience.
• India
5 Jul 08
ya you are right. its just matter of experience.
@Elixiress (3893)
5 Jul 08
I don't think that love will last very long if you give in all the time, I think you have to choose your battles. Don't fight over something insignificant when there is a much bigger problem to fight over. I think that most people will respect someone for standing up for themselves, there opinions and such and this will make them love them more, whereas if someone is willing to change completely for someone then this will be nice in the beginning but later on you will have lost the person you fell in love with.
@mansaa (42)
4 Jul 08
yes of course i do value for him. only him no others. I also have same feelings for him but if it is case for someone then no question that i'll object it. I won't care them if its not in my interest.
• United States
4 Jul 08
i think if the relationship is always some one (and i mean this by only one person at all times)is having to cave in to please the others that that relationship isnt worth having.. you need to be your own person and have differences.. my hubby and i dont like the same things.. we do like a lot of the same things but we both have certain things that are really important to one and not the other.. whats important is that the person doesnt stop the other from enjoying whatever (within reason of course) so that they can still be themselves.. one person told me that instead of being two halves in a relationship you should try to be more than just a half that way when you both are together you over flow into a great relationship instead of just being full together
@alokn99 (5718)
• India
4 Jul 08
When you love someone you always tend to give upsomething you like for them. But before you do try and understand if this makes that much of a difference to them. Why not try to get the person you love also interested and sharing your values and your hobbies. This way you will build up on your relationship and still enjoy do the things which matter to you.
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
I believe that when you decide to love, you should love without limitation. No boundaries of how would your partner go beyond. Its just so happen that many of us, when we're inlove we just follow are heart, not knowing that our partner abused our kindness. We should love maturely..When loving just be yourself,dont pretend that you are like this or like that evethough you're not.And in return,if your partner really inlove with you, he/she should accept you, your shortcomings and fault. "Love, but love maturely not idealistically"
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Antyhing that contradicts should be resolved and just don't give in because you loved the person. If the party has a valid reason why he/she wants it then I think you can give in but if not he/she should respect you as his/her lover.
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Always giving in is not always the case. If your partner really loves you then it will be a give and take relationship. It cant be all you doing the giving or vise versa. There will always be a point in time where you will have to compromise on things. Also, values should be respected, not taken against. Interest and hobbies may change. Im sure you will find something in common because this is what brought you together in the first place.
@donsky14 (5964)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
uhm, well even if all of those things contradict then your partner should accept and respect your values and interests. For me, being yourself with your partner is important because if you won't be yourself then it won't be a comfortable relationship at all. You have to be someone your not just for your partner...and that's not right. Your partner should accept your wholly, for who you are and what you are.