how do you handle compliments?

United States
July 3, 2008 11:48pm CST
if some one were to tell you that you are beautiful or something how do you handle it? do you say "thanks" and believe them? "thanks" and not believe them or tell them they are crazy?? i just say thanks since its a nice thing for some one to feel that they can say.. im not one that feels comfy calling some one that to their face that they are beautiful etc so i admire that.. so which are you? how do you react?
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
well, if someone would say that I'm beautiful, I would say "thanks, I already know that" . Kidding aside, I always say compliments whenever I want to even to people whom I don't know. Once, I was riding in a bus and likened the bag of my seatmate, I told her that she has a beautiful bag. I don't even hesitate to tell someone that her hair is beautiful or I like her scent. That's one way of making someone happy or confident and it's free.
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• United States
4 Jul 08
thats cool.. i wonder why im not good at giving them.. i guess i figure it might make them uncomfortable which in turn would make me anxious
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
I'm flattered whenever I receive compliments, maybe I just want to pass on the feelings. Try it, who knows you may uplift someones spirit.
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
4 Jul 08
There are times when this happens that I ger embarrassed but usually I just smile and say thank you. I'm never sure if they really mean it or if they want something in return so it can be hard to accept but I'll take them when I can get them. Cheers, Tianna
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• United States
5 Jul 08
yeah the people that just give compliments so they get them are really hard to decipher
@greysfreak (1388)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I have never handled compliments very well, mostly because I have a hard time believing them. But I do try to say thank you and be a sincere as possible, because it is very nice when someone goes out of their way to compliment. Sometimes compliments really confuse me inside though, because in my life I have had a lot of bad things said about me, then I have had people be nice. I never know what to believe. Sometimes I even feel like maybe the person is just trying to be nice and that maybe they really don't mean what they say or they are underhandedly making fun. :/ It's complicated. LOL
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• United States
4 Jul 08
growing up i was a total ugly duckling so i always wonder if they are full of crap and making fun of me too but i have become less paranoid..
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I generally smile and say "thank you". I have no choice but to believe them, since they said it :) I personally think they are nuts, but they see me with their eyes not mine.
• United States
4 Jul 08
yeah we are always more hard on ourselves looks wise than other people are..
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• United States
4 Jul 08
i accept the compliment and thank them. its always good to take in compliments, i read somewhere that it helps keep ur optimism and self esteem up if u accept them rather than not.
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• United States
4 Jul 08
yeah i think even trying to just believe it whether you do or not has to have some kind of positive affect
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
4 Jul 08
I feel shy and a bit embarrassed when I get compliments. I say thank you and i tend to blush. I'm not one that will go "oh i know thank you"...people who do that drive me nuts!
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• United States
4 Jul 08
ugh i hate the "i know" response.. makes it so worthless in saying to some one if they dont value it
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
4 Jul 08
I agree the compliment does seem worthless when someone says that.
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@walijo2008 (4649)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I don't hardly get that compliment, except from my husband, but I would just say Thank you, but in my mind I would be thinking are they crazy or what..lol. My face of course would probably be all red...
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• United States
8 Aug 08
my face does the automatic red thing too
@akrockz (306)
• India
18 Jul 08
Well it all depends upon the person, moonlitmagikchild... If its from your loved ones, then you can reply with whatever thing that make them smile... If its from any ageold person or a relative, then you can reply with thanx.. If its from younger ones, you can still be happy... If its from a stranger, the you should be very careful in replying to them.. Just a little smile is enough and better to continue your work... Have a nice day, CHEERS!!!
• United States
19 Jul 08
yeah it really depends on the person giving it
• India
5 Jul 08
i like getting appreciation for something that i have done or thought through BUT .. compliments on looks etc do get me flustered a bit. Not that i dont expect or want them, its just somethin i dnt think about and hearin something like that is catches u off guard. The direct result of that on me is a slight fall of me from my arrogance, i jus give a grin and thank, maybe add somethin which i appreciate about them. Which reminds me, you look good in that picture, lol. Good Day.
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• United States
9 Jul 08
lol thanks.. and yeah it catches me off guard then i dont know how to react to it
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
It feels nice to be complemented but I get shy immediately. I feel conscious whenever I'm complemented and tend to react shyly,like smile and walk away or say "oh c'mon?", or stuff like that. I don't feel secure about myself in some aspects that'swhy I feel that way. Sometimes a complement can be misinterpreted as an insult so I'd rather not be complemented, still I do appreciate complements when I know it's true, I don't want to take credits that don't belong to me.
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• United States
9 Jul 08
yeah it makes me self conscious on what ever they point out
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
5 Jul 08
It's been awhile since I heard one...but I'd say thanks and move on. I could compliment, but it takes a while for me to do so. I mean I have to know the person so I can gauge it. If you are suspicious about my caution, don't be. Harassment could be called or other suspicions could be acted on if I complemented (a mylot discussion talked about this and I wrote my extended thoughts on it there).
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• United States
9 Jul 08
yeah if i dont know the person i am not giving out a compliment because strangers doing it just seems odd to me
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
haha, i don't know how to handle compliments, i don't know what to do, whether to smile and say thank you or just say it's my luck. most of the time i just say "oh no that's not true" when they say im pretty or maybe "just my luck" when they say im intelligent, i don't really know, i look dumb when i say that.
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• United States
5 Jul 08
i laugh and thanks now.. before i would just say they were lying.. whether or not i believe them i have no idea haha
• United States
4 Jul 08
I usually say thank you, believe them, but sometimes wonder why me? Usually when someone says someone else is beautiful they mean on the outside. I tend to always look at someone on the inside. A beautiful person to me would be a kind-hearted person. I usually ask why me because I wonder what it is that they have actually seen in me? Was it something I did or said? Or are they meaning I am beautiful on the outside. I have found that in many different situations when someone says anything it usually can mean quite a few different interpretations.
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• United States
5 Jul 08
true.. i would want to know to what they found attractive but i dont think i would have the guts to ask.. i guess i figure i was told at least and thats good enough.. i dunno
@munhozmib (3729)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
4 Jul 08
Hello, moonlitmagikchild. I'd handle it saying "thanks". People look at me and say: "Wow, you have grown a lot!", and for me that's a compliment. I usually am the one complimenting others, saying how nice their hairstyle is or something like that. I always try to find good things to say about others, instead of criticizing. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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• United States
5 Jul 08
yeah the last thing this world needs is another critical person
@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
4 Jul 08
This is a great question. It made me think about how I accept compliments. When I was younger I wouldn't own up to them as I felt I was undeserving. Now I graciously accept whatever compliments come my way. The fact that someone will notice me for whatever attributes I have makes me now feel very blessed.
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• United States
5 Jul 08
"The fact that someone will notice me for whatever attributes I have makes me now feel very blessed." great way of looking at it
@sweetie1026 (1724)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
it depends on who the compliment came from, an acquaintance, co-worker or a friend. i'll say thanks but if it came from only an acquaintance or a co-worker i'd have to think twice before i'll believe it. but if it came from a friend and a best friend at that then i would be very happy about it.for me best friends would only want the best for you too. so if a friend gives you a compliment you, believe it and feel good about it.
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• United States
4 Jul 08
yeah if i dont know them well i either think im getting tricked or there is some hidden agenda
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• India
5 Aug 08
Hi friend, i never like that anymore. Because i was like that. :-) but i always give thanks to that person. Most of times i simply give them a smile. I think It's better to give i can. But many try to bully us or try to flatter us. Thank you.
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• China
3 Aug 08
I can accept their compliments and thanks them.No one like to hear bad words,although the compliments isn't true!It is just the faults for the human!If someone give you a compliment in the morning,you will be happy all the day,instead ,someone isn't friendly to you ,you will have no good feeling in the day!Compliment and encouragement is always useful to the health!Let's say good to the others,smile to the others !!
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 08
Depends on where the compliments come from. If it is from a close friend, I'd tell him or her not to pull my leg..after all, I know what I look like, and it's definitely not 'beautiful'. If it comes from a stranger, I have to say 'Thank you' and then move away from that person soonest possible. After all, what sane person would say that? And if it comes from someone whom I dislike, and the feeling is mutual, I'd still say 'Thank you' and be on my guard - don't know if this person has any ulterior motive in complimenting me.
• Romania
18 Jul 08
Actually, I'm more of a modest person. For some strange reason I never took well with compliments; I'd always think "okay what does this person want from me." That was a couple of years ago though. I am a little more cofident in myself but still modest when it comes to receiving compliments. I think I'll just stay in my cloud.
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