Any Suggestions For My Fine, Flyaway Hair?

My Hair On a Breezy Day - My hair on a breezy day, looks like candy floss! Grrrrrrr
@Darkwing (21590)
July 4, 2008 9:35am CST
My hair is long and platinum blonde. All my life, it's been blonde, but fine and flyaway... so much so that I have to use a hairspray to keep it from ending up like a vanilla candy floss stuck on my head! I've tried oils, wax, and a finishing spray, but it either ends up too lank, or greasy, and I just can't find a happy medium. People always tell me I have lovely hair... ok, the colour is good... even though I'm greying, it doesn't look like it! But, I have no control over it, without using a hair spray, which tends to matt it up underneath anyway. Does anybody have any suggestions as to what make and what type of product might help keep my hair lifted, give it body and eliminate the need for a spray? The closest I've got so far is one that Gabs gave me a little of when I was up there. It's not bad, but still, I have problems with the bottom of it. It's a lot longer now, but I've posted a pic where you can see my problem!
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24 responses
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
5 Jul 08
Hmmmmm i do have curly/rather waivy hairs, but i dont have that long hairs. so best solution for me to keep in tidy, other thing they are bit hard so once i comb in morning after bath, thet stay like this For u the best advise i would like to have is just stop worying about them as they look in either ways Take care
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@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
My hair is not really curly or wavy, my friend. It just needs a bit of nourishment, and I need to eliminate the need to use hair spray on it. I'm sure that over time, hair spray takes out a lot of the natural oils and such, as do many other treatments. I think I'm going to have to look for a natural, perhaps herbal remedy to my problem. Thank you for your suggestions and Brightest Blessings, my friend. x
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
7 Jul 08
Hmmm Oh Ok well may be i am not aware of these things as very rare i use these things well here in Pakistam Women use some recepies to have shine and strength in their hairs bit u might not like tham. 1) apply mustard oil to hairs before goin to bed ( some times mix coconut oil). and in mornning wash it with warm water 2) before taking bath, mix egg in curd, make paste, apply to hairs, stay their for 10-15 minutrs then take bath rest is up to u to apply Take care
@Darkwing (21590)
11 Jul 08
They're some good suggestions my friend. I often admire the shine and healthiness of the Pakistani women's hair. I might just give that a try for a while. I have lots of suggestions here, and I love coconut oil, both for skin and hair.
@petiksmode (2986)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
there are some ways that i can suggest.. cheapest : stay away from pony tails too much..esp twriling your hair twice and putting tail creating your hair to summed upward. cheaper: there are shampoo that really tame fly away hair..it really helps to use conditioner after costly: go to salon and have treatments like hot oil or spa or wax..this really helps.. i have also long hair and becoz i am really busy to go to salon i settle for number 1 and 2 suggestions. but whenver possible i really got to salon to get my hair done..
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@Darkwing (21590)
4 Jul 08
The only time I wear my hair up is when I go to bed, my friend. Even then, it's very loosely banded, and wound round a bunch of three or four bendy curler thingies. It keeps me from chewing it during the night! I have tried several shampoos, both for flyaway hair and to give more body, and I only use conditioner occasionally, because that tends to make it more lank. The owner of the salon in a local town, told me not to use the combined ones, and to use an actual conditioner as little as possible. So, I'm lost as far as that goes. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
hmmm...my hair dresser suggest that i will use the conditioner more often than my shampoo///i shampoo not everyday but i conditioned my hair everyday..hmm but it works just fine with me... girl dont tie your hair when your sleeping that is a big no no no..it will tangle more and that could also be the reason for the fly...freed your hair down and let it rest...pony tails stress the hair...
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• Philippines
4 Jul 08
hmmm...my hair dresser suggest that i will use the conditioner more often than my shampoo///i shampoo not everyday but i conditioned my hair everyday..hmm but it works just fine with me... girl dont tie your hair when your sleeping that is a big no no no..it will tangle more and that could also be the reason for the fly...freed your hair down and let it rest...pony tails stress the hair...
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4 Jul 08
Hi pyewacket, My sister has the same problem,no matter what she does, she even goes to hair saloon and they can't nothing her. My hair has kink and I hate it. Bless Tamarafireheart.
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• United States
4 Jul 08
hi your hair looks pretty, butI if its to fine and straight I say long layers, maybe like a long shag, if will make your hair lighter. And give it more bounce. Maybe angle it some around the face kinda like wispy. It would be not a big change but just enough. :) Dj
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4 Jul 08
Hi DarkWing, !Oh! I am soooo sorry, my friend I think I am loosing the plot here I have even been misspelling, my hesband just found the cooking oil in the fridge and the lemonade by the cooker, !oh dear I need to put my mind to it. Sorry hehe! Bright Blessings Tamarafireheart.
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@Darkwing (21590)
4 Jul 08
Yes, Daisiejane... I've been thinking about having it layer cut, as it will lift it some, and appear to have more body and bounce, as you say. Thank you for your contribution, my friend, and Brightest Blessings.
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• United States
5 Jul 08
Here's a little tip that works for me. My hair is very thick, but this also works for gals with fine hair. If you've got long hair, shoulder length, pull up the hair into a big pony tail on the very top of your head. Not at the back or nape of your head, but on the crown top. Fasten with a scrunchy or covered elastic. Do this right after washing your hair. Or, blow dry and put up on top of your head. You can wear your hair like this around the house until it's dry or go to sleep with your hair up. In the morning when your hair is dry, take out the pony tail, comb through and you'll have extra body to your roots with no chemicals. The puffed effect lasts a long time! To restore the effect, bend at the waist, comb hair forward toward the ground, spray a light mist of hair spray on back of hair. Brush though. Puff returns! I use this trick all the time, and get gorgeous model like hair. And usually no kind of product works on my hair to keep it lifted, cause it's so heavy. This does! Best of luck!
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@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
This is one of the things I do all the time, my friend. I wash, condition, towel dry and scrunch my hair up with my fingers, then leave it to dry naturally. Then, whilst I'm doing my make up and getting dressed, I put my hair on the top of my head with a very loose band and curl the ends up with bendy curlers. Then, everything else done, I let it down and brush it into place before spraying both underneath and on top. The spray seems to dry it out though, and one of the responses here, told me that the curling can damage my hair more, as I put it up in the same way at night. So, I'm trying only to put it up for a short while, when I'm about to go out. I'm trying a renewal spray at the moment, which is a kind of leave-in conditioner, and so far, it's not too bad, but I need to leave off the spray and find the "perfect" product for my own hair, so that I can bring it back to good condition. I'm even contemplating asking the local mobile hairdresser to layer my hair without making it any shorter. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your helpful suggestions. x
• United States
25 Jul 08
My daughter has very dry curly hair and does not like for her hair to be combed. So I have to make sure that it never tangles. It's very difficult to use regular shampoo on her hair as it makes her hair mat, snarl and tangle. Currently I'm using a simple conditioner from Suave. But I've heard that Garnier Fructis is better for dry and curly hair to keep it hydrated. Thanks for sharing your beauty and hair tips with me. I'm always interested in finding out how other women do their daily beauty routine! Best of luck on your search for the perfect hair product. I will keep my eyes open for any products that I might find for fine and wispy/dry hair and post them to my beauty blog. Thanks again. Have a beautiful day!
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@Darkwing (21590)
4 Aug 08
Thank you my friend, and I hope you find the perfect solution to your daughter's hair.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
5 Jul 08
I have found a good volume shampoo and conditioner can help a little, I also hot rod my hair as it is long but the hot rodding seems to make it a bit thicker looking...
@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
The hot rodding is something I haven't tried, so I'll probably look into that. Thank you very much for your suggestion and Brightest Blessings.
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@Elixiress (3893)
5 Jul 08
I would recommend trying a few mousses, my sister used to fly away hair and if she was going somewhere special then I would put a bit mousse in it and it would stop it from being as fly away and it would not look greasy or over producted. If that does not do the trick then try some serum as it is denser than a mousse but if you put too much in it will look greasy. Play around with different brands and you will find something for you.
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@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
I have tried a couple of mousses and serum is definitely out. It makes my hair drastically greasy, and in need of another wash, which doesn't normally help matters. I guess a few more mousse trials might help me to find the right one. Thank you for your suggestion and Brightest Blessings.
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• Canada
16 Jul 08
Hi Darkwing...I haven't been here much for the past few months. I miss you and others here but summer, the garden and more free lance writing assignments has kept me away. Anyway, thanks for thinking of me...I loved your e-mail! In regard to your fine, flyaway hair. I read your discussion and did not see any mention of the type of conditioner you use...if any. My hair is fine with a natural curl. I also color it and always use a good quality shampoo and conditioner for color treated hair. I perfer L-Oreal and they include a good condition with the colorant that I use once a week. Every time I shampoo I use a conditioner and there are some out there for fine hair. Have you tried those? In my experience my fine hair is always flyaway and unruly if I do not condition it. I also use leave in conditioners once a month and I have found applying a gel product while my hair is wet keep the frizzies away as well. A good cut can help as well. So those are my suggestions. I will check back for updates to see if you have found something that works. Cheers and big huggers! Raia
@Darkwing (21590)
18 Jul 08
Thank you for your suggestions, my dear friend. I've tried several conditioners and serums. In fact, my hairdresser advised me once not to use the wash and go shampoos and not to condition my hair every time I wash it... may once a month, was her suggestion. I don't colour it... never have because it's always been blonde and I like it that way. I've tried serums, oils and waxes, and they all tend to make my hair look greasy, but I'm going to try out some of the suggestions I've received here and will certainly let everybody know which is the one for me. I guess we all need something a little different, huh? Brightest Blessings, love and hugs. xxxx
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• Canada
2 Aug 08
I was reading some of the other suggestions posted...and there are some good ones. I am sure you will experiment...and in your inimitable decide which ones work for you. Good to know you will post the ideas that you have tried and meets your hair...at its point of need. It is pretty whatever else you decide to do with it. Raia
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@Darkwing (21590)
4 Aug 08
Thank you, my friend. Despite the wind of late, I'm trying not to use hair spray because that tends to dry it out even more even though the one I use brushes out. Also, I'm using a spray on conditioner that Gabs gave me to try. I've bought a new bottle because it seems to help. You spray it on your roots and top hair at night and in the morning, it seems to brush through better. It prevents static building up and also seems to weight my hair somewhat. I bought a new bottle so that I can give it a fair trial... it's called Pantene Time Renewal, and contains Pro-V restoratives.
@littleowl (7157)
14 Jul 08
Hi Darkwing-Try hair serum you only need a little in your hand rub your hands together til it feels like its runny then stroke it rhrough your hair then brush it your hair it should then be smooth-and not fly away-bright blessings littleowl
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@Darkwing (21590)
15 Jul 08
I've tried two or three hair serums but they seem to make my hair quite lank and greasy looking my friend. Have you a particular one in mind? Brightest Blessings and thank you for your suggestion. xxx
@littleowl (7157)
16 Jul 08
The one I use is called Kerastse it is experiensive but all there range in shampoo conditioner etc is fantastic and really makes your hair look good-bright blessings my friend
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@Darkwing (21590)
16 Jul 08
Ok... thank you for that, my friend. I'll have a look at it.
@GardenGerty (90988)
• Marion, Kansas
6 Jul 08
I would love to see that picture of you, and I am going to after I get away from the e-mail. I have heavy hair, and it has seemed in the past to get really frizzy in the summer. If I kept it long it also just seemed to get wider and bigger. I have it long again, and I am using Shaklee hair care products, and that is seeming to do the job for me. It is full, and wavy, but it is not frizzing up in the humidity any more. I have a dealership, with my hubby, so I have to try the different products. I was very pleasantly surprised with it. I would not like to use hairspray all of the time either. I have in the past used aloe vera gel, a clear kind, on my hair. It does not plaster down like hair gels but it does hold it lightly. I do not know if you get the same products we do here.
@Darkwing (21590)
6 Jul 08
Sorry.. that one came up small as well... back to the drawing board! lol
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
5 Jul 08
have to look at pic but I still use hair spray myself mostly to keep in place when its windy and that is most of the time!
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@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
The funny thing is that when I was younger, I hated hairspray, and I'm getting that way again, because I know it does my hair little good, even though it holds it in place in the wind. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my dear friend. xxx
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
6 Jul 08
r welcome MF hugs
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I used to use a hot oil treatment once a month or so when my hair got sun/chlorine damaged. My hair is very short now, but I use a volumizing conditioner, which seems to make it smoother but it is not as flat. And this is going to sound crazy, but I started parting it in a different place. The hair wants to go back to the old place and it adds volume to the top of my head. Not a lot, I don't look like dolly parton but I don't have a flat head either.
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@Darkwing (21590)
26 Jul 08
Thank you for your suggestions my friend. I tried a monthly hot oil treatment but it tended to make my hair greasy, but I'll certainly try the volumising conditioner, whilst I work through all these other suggestions I've received. Thank you for your contribution my friend, and Brightest Blessings.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Sorry can't help you there Darkwing. I wish I had straight fine hair. I have to use a straightening iron to get that look as my hair is frizzy and curly. I hope you found something/s that works for you.
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@Darkwing (21590)
23 Jul 08
Thank you my friend. I am currently going through the suggestions here and trying different things, and will let you know how I got on. Brightest Blessings. xx
• United States
11 Jul 08
I recommend that you buy a shampoo designed to correct the problem. A good one is called Infusium, especially the leave in conditioner. * http://www.totalbeauty.com/reviews/product/6025151/infusium-moistureologie-shampoo
@Darkwing (21590)
11 Jul 08
Thank you for the suggestion and the link my friend. I will take a look into those too. I've been searching for years for the right product, but am still at a loss as to what will replace the natural oils. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
@raydene (9875)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I really couldn't see the pic very well but I think that mullen would help some. My Grandmama had very fine hair that she rinsed with a solution she had from the plant. She would say her hair would fly to the moon without it. http://www.altnature.com/gallery/mullien.htm xoxooxxoxoxo
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@Darkwing (21590)
11 Jul 08
Now why do I think I should have known that? I study herbs, and I didn't know about that one. Lol at your grandmother saying her hair would fly to the moon without it. Thank you for the link my friend... I shall take a look. Brightest Blessings. xxx
@raydene (9875)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I'll answer this now because since I'm getting this through email I can not see the pic. I will respond again after looking. xoxoxoxoxo
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@Darkwing (21590)
11 Jul 08
Ok, thank you, my friend. I'll look forward to your comments. xx
• Thailand
6 Jul 08
Hi, I have a similar problem, the only difference is my hair is auburn so in the sunlight it looks like it's been set on fire. I've managed to solve my candy floss problem by weighing it down with a drop of oil while it's still wet... also before washing, i rub in some olive oil and leave it in for an hour or so... it keeps my hair under control.
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@Darkwing (21590)
6 Jul 08
Somebody else suggested olive oil... I think I'm going to have to give that one a whirl in the hope that it doesn't make my hair too greasy looking. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
6 Jul 08
I have the same problem it is thinning as I grow older, teasing hair used to make it fill out, also having it cut in layers, years ago there were shampoos with beef marrow in them and that helped.
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@Darkwing (21590)
6 Jul 08
That sounds interesting, my friend. I can't say I ever heard of shampoos with beef marrow in them, but it's worth looking them out. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your suggestions, my friend. xx
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hey Darkwing, My girls use electric hair straighteners on their hair. One daughter has thin,fine flyaway curls and the other has thick can-sometimes-look-almost-bushy kind of hair. When they use the straighteners you would not think they had a curl on their head at all. They can wash, dry, and straighten in the evening and do a touch-up straighten in the morning and they are good to go. They don't use any special shampoos or conditioners.
@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
I don't really need straighteners, my friend. It's the dryness and flyaway element of my hair which is bothering me. I need to eliminate the need for hair spray, which although it brushes out, leaves my hair quite dry and without shine. It needs nourishment, rather than styling. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
4 Jul 08
I've got the same problem. I found that when I got it cut shorter, it looks fuller, and looks like I have more hair. The only thing that I use that makes it look a little fuller is some mousse.
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@Darkwing (21590)
5 Jul 08
I have tried a couple of mousses but have yet to find one that moistens my hair. I need something to keep it in check... make it heavier, if you get my drift. There is a mobile hairdresser in the village, whom I have known, through her parents, since she was a child. Her charges are very reasonable, and I've been thinking about asking her to layer my hair, in order to rid myself of any split ends and to give my hair more body and bounce. Thank you for your suggestions and Brightest Blessings.
@amirev777 (2552)
• India
4 Jul 08
hi darkwing, there's a saying-hair today,gone tomorrow-but u are lucky to have been blessed with such lovely hair-so let it be like that-dont try too much,since too much is too bad-if you can keep ur hair looking good naturally,there's nothing like it!dont use artificial means like hair spray,etc-they will do more harm than good!
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@Darkwing (21590)
4 Jul 08
Awwwww, that's so sweet of you to say so, and I'd love to be without the hairspray, but especially when I've just washed my hair... I NEED it! Thank you for your contribution and Brightest Blessings.