Why Are Humans So Selfish When Death Is Involved?

@etnad0 (230)
United States
July 4, 2008 10:45pm CST
When my grandfather died, I never got mad at God. When my uncle died, I never got mad at God. I knew both of them extremely well. My grandfather and uncle were two of my best friends all of my life. I found myself thinking the day my uncle died (before my grandfather) from cancer... why get mad at God? Death is part of life and if heaven and hell exists, and the Bible is correct, and both believe in Jesus, they will go to heaven. So why are people selfish enough to get mad? Heaven is supposed to be a wonderful place, full of stuff to do, not just stand around and worship or sit on clouds playing harps all day... If you really loved a person that died, why would you be mad at God for allowing them into paradise? Why would you want them to stay here on earth with diseases, hate, violence, etc? Are you really mad at God because you are SELFISH and are only considering your own feelings, and not the wishes of the person who died? I know my uncle wanted to die. Both me and my cousin were there when he passed away... so how could I be mad at God for taking my uncle to somewhere better?
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7 responses
• United States
5 Jul 08
Great discussion topic. I think people might get mad at God because they wanted more time with the person and they're probably reflecting on what they didn't do while the person was alive, and instead of getting mad at themselves, they get angry with God.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
It's the pain that mke us selfish. We don't want our love ones to leave us.
@etnad0 (230)
• United States
5 Jul 08
true... but we will be leaving too someday... maybe to see them again, and maybe not... we really aren't on this earth all that long...
• United States
6 Jul 08
you know i used to be like that untill my dad passed away in april and my b/f sat down and we talked about how i was feeling and you are right. We really can't be mad at god. When it's your time to go then it's time, there is nothing we can do about it. Thats my opion though.
• United States
6 Jul 08
i think it has a lot to do with how people cope with the pain of loss. I lost a child 2 years ago. I wasnt mad at God. Matter of fact at the church i mostly just let him know to please take care of her. I lost a brother also at a young age and i knew he too would be there for her. Also i believe i will see her again one day. But no i dont feel its really selfishness i think that it takes a little time to understand what just happened. It takes time to realize that 1 day ur here and 1 day ur gone. Also if people treated others a little better in this world, they're feelings wouldnt be so crazy. People stop talking over money, and drama and never get to say 'i love u' enough. and when the time is up.. I think there is mad regret.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Sometimes the loss of a loved one is very traumatic. My husband lost his wife of 32 years to cancer seven months after she was diagnosed. She was only 51 years old and they had spent more than half of their lifes together. She had two children and three grandchildren who she loved and did not want to leave, even for paradise. He loved her deeply and facing life without her hurt him deeply. So, maybe he was selfish not to focus on where she was going but you have to remember that he was here, feeling his own pain at her loss and watching his children and young grandchildren suffering, too. Being a part of all this pain caused him to be angry at God for a time. It's a normal progression of trauma. Now, seven years later, he still misses her but he, his children and grandchildren are happy again for the most part and he has me and another family who he loves, too.
• China
5 Jul 08
I think everybody has this day. We can't avoid it. What we can do is to live happy eveyday in our life. Don't leave any pity!
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
5 Jul 08
I think anger is just a part of grieving, its natural. And I believe much of grief is a forn of selfishness in a way, as it is the favct of your loss of this person and I guess a little of what that person is going to miss in life but they will never suffer again so i think we are really thinking of our own loss...