Before getting married...do you think couples should tell each other's secret?

@lyzabelle (1668)
Philippines
July 5, 2008 10:38am CST
What do you think? Secrets better be keep in the closet or exposed it to your lover?
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@inia_54 (176)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 08
Why should you expose your secrets to your lover? How do you know that he too has secrets that he doesn't want you to know. I feel that the more he doesn't know about you, the better and the stronger the relationship will develop. You don't have to be too honest about yourself to your lover. However if he propose to marry you, if you wish, you can tell your secrets to him. If he really loves you he will take you as what you are. Telling him your secrets is way of testing his sincerity of marrying you.
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• India
5 Jul 08
thats what you think....not everybody.....what if your partner will get to know about your secrets in future....how would she/he feel at that time...??.... she/he wont be able to trust you ever in life....your relationship will be in trouble... there should be a trust between two of them.....you can not survive for too long without trusting or hiding or lying to each other...
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I think that if you you actually love the person,and actually planning on being with the person for the rest of your life,you should tell them all your secrets, because if they love you,they will not judge you for them,and honesty with them will help make your relationship even stronger.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I think that even before engagement secrets should be told. If you love the person enough that you want to marry them, you should be respectful enough to bare your soul to them. If you can not do that then there may very well be trouble in the future, although I am not going to say this for certain.
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@awapak (1277)
• Pakistan
15 Jul 08
In a Muslim society,these things are not permitted to the would be couples before their marriage.There can be only "silent understanding".Free meetings or contacts are not liked by our people.I donot think this should be done before marriage.
@hiteshrup (270)
• India
5 Jul 08
Every couple have to do this. that make strong relationship
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@Kemboi (341)
• Eldoret, Kenya
5 Jul 08
Your lover! Not a wife? No in case our relationship fail before we get married? Some people would want to know how much I own before deciding, you have assets today, tomorrow you don't have what will happen? She/ He will leave you.
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@Kemboi (341)
• Eldoret, Kenya
5 Jul 08
Your lover! Not a wife? No in case our relationship fail before we get married? Some people would want to know how much I own before deciding, you have assets today, tomorrow you don't have what will happen? She/ He will leave you.
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• India
5 Jul 08
yes secrets should be disclosed before getting into a relationship....it will be a good thing for a couple....never lie or hide things from your loving partner...never ever....... spend some time before making a commitment with the person you want to get settle down with...share your heart with him/her.....share your feelings and private stuffs....because this relationship is based on a trust and respect...
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• United States
5 Jul 08
I think it is important that each one of youy know each others secrets... Not so much about past people you have been with but important secerts that might inpact you and your life or how you will act toward your new husband... Like me for insents i have a reason why i can trust guys. i have been carringa secert for my whole life about my father and my husband is the only one that knows about why i can't trust men when i wa younger i caught me father fondlng my half sister i have een holding that secert for the longist time and it felt good telling someone that acually believed me and i still love my father is just i have trust issuse with men because of it..
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