Are You Mature Enough?

China
July 7, 2008 2:23am CST
I watched a film called "uptown girls" yesterday.The main character Molley was 22 but she acted as 8years old,even a little girl shout to her "grow up".What does "grow up" exactly mean?I ask myself.make less mistakes?deal with people properly?Oh,no,stop pretending to be.In my opinion,"grow up" means recoginizing yourself,making decision and taking all responsibilities.Don't kick out of the child inside yourself,just be full of curiosity,honest and kind-hearted.I think I'm not mature enough.So what about you,my friends?Are you mature enough?
18 responses
• Hong Kong
7 Jul 08
Maturity isn't just about acting grown up, you also have to be emotionally stable, be able to handle things when they don't go your way, be responsable, etc
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@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
I agree, being mature doesn't really mean forgetting the kid in you, the fun and the energy! lol, my mom always say, I got older but nothing to be older from, make sense? I didn't know what it means, but I realized as we grow old, were my actions the same as before? or have it changed? was it for the better or the worst? I think someone is matured if he learned his lessons well, and he would improved or stood up if he failed. you are mature if you know ure wrong, u accept it, u moved on and u live.
@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
LOL, I'm not saying i'm mature now..still feels like a teen.
@kiley4 (72)
• United States
7 Jul 08
There are a lot of people who responded to your discussion who I agree with. Maturity is not about not having fun. Maturity has to do with making decisions and taking full responsibility, as you said. Here's a great test as to where you are in the scheme of child through adult. Children do not take responsibility for all of their actions or inactions. Mature adults do. Children do not make decisions with consequences in mind. Mature adults do. Children do what they want to do before they do what they have to do. Mature adults do what they want to do ONLY AFTER what they have to do is complete. I think humans fall into varying degrees of the two. Just try to have the majority of your actions be that of a mature adult and persons will not be quick to call you immature.
@kiley4 (72)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Am I mature enough? Mature enough for what? LOL I am a 28 year old female with a house, a husband, a child. We have taken responsibility for our child and no one else can say that we had to have them do anything for our child that we could do ourselves. My husband and I support our small family. We take care of a household even though it is a struggle. I work from home because I don't want my son in daycare. My husband doesn't work as much as he could because he knows that his family needs him to actually be there in person. We have our basic necessities and I can't say that anyone is really wanting for anything. My family and I play very often: movies, board games, running around in our back yard, reading, talking. So I'd say yes, I'm mature enough. I still have a lot more maturing to do, though.
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
I can't say that I'am mature in all aspects of my life. Maturity, perse is doing right thing and taking a responsibilities with heart. Sometimes, all of us, eventhough we are already adults, we dont know how to handle things, we're insensitive about the other's feelings. We just want to be happy eventhough we're hurting other people. We want the best for us, eventhough we know we're ruining other's life. It's hard to be matured person,but we have to be.... because in life,we should learn how to embrace what we have and work harder on what we dont have. "We're not getting younger anymore,we should act properly as a person with character and with heart."
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
I think that I'm mature when it comes to some things only. I act mature when things are really getting serious but sometimes when I'm really angry I get immature. Being mature for me is actually being able to think of better ways to solve and face whatever problems in all situations. So I think I'm really not mature enough to handle situations.
@ynigz1 (472)
• China
8 Jul 08
I don't think I'm mature enough. I think I was look younger than my real age, and I still young of my mind. I want to be mature since I still in university. I pretent that I 'm mature by wearing some special cloth. And I think that can really myself few years old, and looks mature. But later I was discovered that only appearence to be mature is no enough. So I continue to learing some thing that can really make my mind mature, I hope it will make me that.
@dinohe (92)
7 Jul 08
Tought I am 25 now,I don't think I'm mature enough.Many people around me also think so.My boss once said to me I like a high school student, I should go back to school to study instead of working.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Jul 08
Well, considering that I'm 57 years old I certainly hope I'm mature enough. What I'm being mature enough for is what is in doubt. Everywhere quite important and essential people behave like children. They sacrifice the best and noblest principles for paltry pieces of money and status. Maturity I believe is when you choose the responsibilities of life ahead of the pleasures and other people ahead of yourself. Think about that and then ask what people are mature enough for.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
good day.. In term of age I'm afraid so but in term of playfulness and carelessness I'm nit mature enough.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
7 Jul 08
Well, who's to say what's mature enough? It makes a big difference if you are 23 and living at home studying or that you are the same age, handeling a job and having a baby; that makes it a whole other story and you will have a lot more responsibility going on in the second case. I guess this is why they say people who have a job and get kids younger also mature faster or have matured faster so they are ready for such commitment. Taking responsibility for your own actions, supplying for yourself, making your own decisions; basicly being able to stand on your own two feet and get along in society. I can manage myself fiancially, physically and emotionally so I feel I'm mature enough for a 22 year old living at home.
@sriki2526 (180)
• India
7 Jul 08
I think I am mature enough at the age 25 in progress. But maturity is subjective in nature. For few of the task I'm more mature while for other I'm immature. I feel that I'm mature for taking responsibility.
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
Grow up means you're mature enough to handle things properly. You know how to be responsible in every actions and steps you made. Accountable to all your actions.
• India
7 Jul 08
i am 21 years old and am mature enough, but sometimes i feel like being a samll kid, and also act like that!!!! ;)
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
Well, I can't say I'm that mature more or less. It really depends. My take on it is that it may actually depend on the situation when you can say someone's acting maturely. I myself act like a child sometimes. I agree with you, I get curious a lot and just try to live happy. Back to being mature, depending on the situation, it is how we deal with it and act accordingly and of course, taking responsibility and standing by that decision. When we make mistakes, we acknowledge it honestly and positively. The number of situations are countless and people have different views on how to say if someone's matured or not. Nonetheless, the possibilities of circumstance. The permutation is staggering. But then, just be happy and contented. But most of all, be honest and true to yourself. It feels great.
• United States
7 Jul 08
i think "grow up" means to act like an adult i guess. lol. that helps a lot, huh, lol. well, i think the phrase should only be used on adults though, obviously, but it should only be used when an adult does something that is REALLY immature and strange that they should change about themselves.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
i am an adult guy. i am 34 years old already. but it is hard to say that i am matured enough for i still have the young side of me. i dont want to grow old that way i still want to be playful and young at heart. on taking responsibilities i can say that part is i am matured enough. i pay bills and dont get debts when i know i can't pay. but on the other hand i am still young at heart for i still play ps games or video games, i still watch animated movies and stuffs like that. there is a part of me that i can say that i am matured enough and there are situations were i can say that i am still young at heart.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
I think I am not yet mature as my age.. I am acting 3 to 4 years lower in my age.. I am 20 years old but I think I am acting like a 16 years old girl.. I keep telling myself to grow up, be mature, stop doing foolishness like a 16 year old girl, but then I just can't do it.. Sometimes, I am thinking like a mature person but most of the time I don't... I still love playing games, making fun with others, and collecting anything.. I can't even decide for my own.. I can't do the things without instruction.. I am sometimes crying like a baby... I know that its really funny but I don't really know why I am acting that way.. Sometimes, I am not aware with what I am doing.. My boyfriend sometimes scold my attention because of being childish.. But I am trying my best to act and think like a mature one.. Hope I can do it...
• China
7 Jul 08
hi xiaojing, hard to say,acctually i am old enough to be mature but I think I am not mature enough i am 24,so I think i should be mature, but at the same time,I do not think i am mature anytime on anything lol...