Do you respond to every discussion a friend creates?

@TessWhite (3147)
United States
July 7, 2008 8:20pm CST
I am learning more and more on myLot. One thing I've noticed recently is people get upset if they start a discussion and people on their friends list don't respond. I guess I didn't realize that was the purpose of a friend or a requirement either. If it is I'm probably already guilty of not responding to many discussions friends have started. Actually, I don't think I even have any of my friends set up so that I'm notified of their topics. From my very first post or response on here I've been receiving requests daily to add me as a friend. While I usually say approve, I haven't quite understood why they want me on their list. Since I am so new here these people surely can't know me well enough to even know if they like me. Most of the people on my friends list are there because I read some of their topics, checked out their profile page, and learned more about them thru their posts and comments. Some are there just because I was a newbie not understanding and just hit approve. LOL When I log into myLot I go to discussions at the top. From those lists I choose what I wish to respond to. I'm sorry if you are on my friends list and I'm not responding to every topic you create. I really don't feel that a necessary requirement myself. We are each here to discuss what interests ourselves. I don't pull up topics strictly based upon who created it. Do you? And if so, why?
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@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
Hi TessWhite, I see to it to answer all my friends discussions as long as I know their topic, even though the topic does not interest me. but I am also answering others discussion specially the new user even though they are not my friend, to just let them inspire to continue doing mylot. thanks and have a nice day to you.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for the response. :)
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I do tend to respond to my friend discussions when they are in my inbox. However, if I don't have the notifications "on" I don't go hunt out friends discussions.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for the reply.
• United States
8 Jul 08
I try to respond to my friends discussions but sometimes I will miss a few.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for responding. :)
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
8 Jul 08
No I don't respond to each of the discussions started by people on my friend's list. I will read them and if I have anything to say on the subject I will.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for the reply. :)
@madlees (1381)
• India
8 Jul 08
No Tess, I don't answer all of my friends discussions, only the ones I like and interested in that. Otherwise I do nothing at all. Like wise I donot expect all of my friends to reply my discussions either. They need answer only if they like to answer. There is no point in compelling others or expecting them to be at our beck and call. Everyone likes to have their own tastes and interests, Isn't it?
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for replying. :)
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• Philippines
8 Jul 08
What you said about going to discussions at the top and choosing those which to respond to set me thinking. Don't you think those discussions got to the top because they have a lot of friends who responded in the first place? Just asking, I'm just a newbie here, feeling my way around...no offense meant...
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Hi newbie. I was a newbie three weeks ago. :) No, actually the discussions listed don't have anything to do with how many friends they have or how many responses. I know this because I've had a couple of my new discussions pop up on the list before anyone has even had a chance to respond. Why or how this works I've no clue. LOL
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@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
8 Jul 08
No I dont.I try to at least respond to some of my friends discussions if they interest me.But I dont feel it should be a requirement here for people to just want you as a friend so you could respond to all thier discussions all the time.i dont feel thats fair as some people maybe have kids to take care of ,family,or housework,etc.I do my other money making sites as well so I mutli task from mylot and my other sites.I have two little ones so it makes it hard to respond to all discussions by my friends.But If they post a discussion I have no idea about or doesnt interest me I dont respond.I do read them sometimes though just to see what people post.I would probably be making alot more if I did respond to all my friends post.LOL.I also go and go through regular members post that are not on my friends lists.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
LOL I say what I want, if it takes a book ok. :)
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@nomoso (652)
• India
8 Jul 08
I don't really use mylot nowadays. The main reason is that i don't have time and also the earning through mylot has become very very less.So my interest is going to freaky sites.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for the reply.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Good gracious! I have a lot of friends who start discussions that I just can't relate to. If they are discussing for instance a show they love and watch, but I don't watch, how can I respond? Also, I don't expect people to respond to all of mine as maybe they, my friends can't relate to it. Also, sometimes I just might not respond to friends discussions right away...I have a habit of getting backlogged especially if I'm involved with other projects that take longer than I expected so get behind in things here.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for replying pye. :)
@momalisa65 (1744)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I noticed too that some people get upset if their friends do not respond to most of their discussions. I don't even think it's possible to do that. There are some subjects I have absolutely no knowledge about. I would not even know how to respond to some of them. And other times I don't even understand the question they are asking. Lol. I have all of my friends on Notify, so I get an email when they start discussions. Everyday I sit down and go through the list of emails and if I see a subject I never heard of, or I don't have any idea what I'd say about it, then I hit the delete button. If it sounds interesting and I'd really like to say something about it, then I save that email and go back later and comment on it. I don't always get around to commenting on them the same day the email comes, but I save them until I have time. I also do not expect all my friends to comment on all of my discussions either. I realize when I start a discussion about my son's playstation that there are friends of mine who are not familiar with that game system. Sometimes they comment anyway and say they are sorry but they don't know anything about it. I feel like that is a waste of typing, although they get credit for commenting, but it took time from me to read a comment about nothing. I don't like reading comments about nothing so I'm going by the Golden Rule to treat others the way I want to be treated, so I'm not going to write a comment about nothing just to say I commented on all my friends discussions. How's that sound? Lol.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Sounds smart to me! I have all my friends off notify. If I see a post they've started that sounds interesting under discussions I'll read it. Thanks for responding. :)
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• Philippines
8 Jul 08
Not really. I just browse around the whole MyLot to see if anything interests me. naturally, my friend's discussions would come right on top of my search. So the chances of me being able to participate in their discussions are high.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thank you for replying. :)
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• United States
8 Jul 08
It would not be possible to respond to a friend's every discussion. I use my friends discussions as the primary ones to scan to find something interesting.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for your response. :)
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@sacmom (14336)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Heck no! But if I did I'd have a lot more posts than I do, that's for sure! LOL I do try to respond to a few people on my friends list on a daily basis, but only if it catches my interest. I don't have time to respond to everyone whether or not they are on my friends list. However I do like having a lot of friends on here as it gives me a better chance of finding a discussion to respond to. Which makes it easier for me as I am on a slow connection. PS It should never be a requirement to have to respond to someone just because they are on your friend's list. Not only is that ridiculous, but it shows these people aren't being a real friend.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thank you! Ok all you friends who may not like me not responding, feel free to delete me. LOL
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• United States
8 Jul 08
No Tess you aren't doing anything wrong hon. It's not a requirement to answer discussions from your friends list. There are certain people's discussions I answer on a regular basis that happen to be on my friends list but I answer them because they come up with topics that I enjoy answering. There are people on my friends list and I've never answered a single discussion they've ever started. I don't have a priority list for answering discussions. I don't even have any of my "friends notifications" turned on. I find this works best for me. If someone has a problem with me not answering their discussions simply because they are on my friends list.. well they'll just have to deal with it because I've been myLotting the same way for a year and it suits me just fine.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks :) I feel the same way, so guess maybe I'm not so dumb when it comes to how this works after all. LOL Thanks for replying to THIS friend. :P
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@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
Much as I really would like to, I just couldn't go over all of my friends' discussions and respond to all of them. As I have mentioned here in mylot in several discussions, my use of the computer and of the internet is quite limited mainly because I don't have my own computer at home. I'm just using the company's computer here in the office and for two hours daily at the most. More often, I go to discussions with no responses and reply to those posts which interests me. When I'm through with those, I choose to go over discussions my friends started and answer at least a couple or maybe five discussions before calling it a day and finally heading home. It's quite hard for me because I only get to visit mylot during weekdays excluding holidays, if any.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
I'm at home all day, but I don't plan to sit here and try to beef up my friends response numbers. LOL, sorry friends. I can see where you are coming from with your time crunch. Thanks for your reply.
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
8 Jul 08
I agree, Tess - I only contribute if I feel I have something to add to the discussion, and often I know nothing about it and don't feel I can respond. Also, when I look at the discussions list, I like to respond to a couple of the topics which haven't had a response yet, and a couple of the new discussions. I don't mind at all if people don't respond to my discussions (I think I've only started half a dozen anyway) - as most of them are quite specific (as in asking whether people have played a certain computer game) and I don't expect many (if any) responses. Naturally we can't reply to everyone - there are many, many emails each day notifying of friends' discussions - so I try to be fair and spread my replies around.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks. Apparently I'm not doing it all wrong after all. LOL
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@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
8 Jul 08
No I do not answer to all of the discussions that my friends create. I will answer to one each. After doing this then if there is another interested topic to me I will but I tend to like to answer one to friends, some new comers and them start to spread my wings for rest of the day.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for your input. :)
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@Bluepatch (2481)
• Trinidad And Tobago
8 Jul 08
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I respond to discussions that are leaders for the day or hot topics. Friends are for communicating, in my view. You need to select the discussions that attract you or that you can make better contributions to. If friends don't like you ignoring their discussions this kind of jealousy is misplaced, I think, and should be ignored.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
thanks for responding :)
• China
8 Jul 08
If you have to responde every discussion for everyone on the friend list, maybe it will become a kind of burden. This is not the purpose surfing on web. I only respond the discussion I am interest in.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thanks for your reply.
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
sometimes, it depends. there are topics i do not respond to. it depends upon the discussion, if i like the discussion i definitely give a reply to it. im after the flow of discussion, and not about who's discussion it was. i enjoy posting a lot here in mylot and so far i enjoy all the topics brought uo by every member of mylot. happy posting!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Thank you for your reply. :)