How do you Control your Angryness??

Angry man - How a person feel when he/she is angry .
India
July 8, 2008 10:48am CST
Hi friends,In our common life it is very much possible that we get angry and most of the time we try to control in our own way. Whenever i got angry i just stop the discussion and go out and leave alone for sometime . Then i feel i am all right. Actually when you get angry your mind stops working and always takes wrong and dangerous decision so stopping yourself is very important. Do you get angry in your day to day life? Then how do you control it?Please share your opinion here.
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19 responses
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
well when im angry, im just like a volcano i will just explode! seriously im the type of a person who doent get mad easily what i mean is when you say something in me, i will just allow it to enter on my left ear & exists at the right but when im full that's the time i will explode because your abusing me lol
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
10 Jul 08
yeah.. My dear is just like me.. But i wont really keep it inside of me till i explode.. hehe ^_^ Instead, i will run it off.. hehe =D muahhh mauhhhh
@aweins (4203)
• India
9 Jul 08
HI moneymint18, my friend i am very short tempered person . i am such a hot head at times that at times i wanna bang my head , either in a wall, or into someone else too. lol i was really such bad to control it but after having a baby in my llife i have become quite soft as i dont wanna pass her my bad traits. when i am tooo angry i start playing with my kiddo. she is such a sweet darling that when i come near her i forget every thing and i am calm. happy mylotting, be cool, :-)
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• India
9 Jul 08
Hi aweins, Thanks for your nice and truthful response. ok being short tempered controlling angryness is very difficult task my friend. but still you try by many methods. Now after having family you are soft thats amazing change in your life. thats so sweet:) please keep like this forever.Good luck.I am rating you positive.
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
whenever i feel that emotion i refer to be quiet and relax for a while,want to spend time alone. And sometimes if am too much angry, I usually found myself crying biting my lowerlip..lol
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• India
9 Jul 08
Hi sweet, Thanks for your response. Its great that you keep quite and spend time alone. Crying is the most common method most of the girls do its really nice to decrease your angryness.
@Ruibinha (158)
• Portugal
8 Jul 08
I am a very sensitive person. So, its really hard for me to control myself in whatever emotions I am dealing with. For, example, if someone starts a fight with me, and if for me its unfair I might cry. If someone tries to begin a fight with no reason at all, no logic, I probably laugh at him/her. But when I am angry, people who are near me or talk to me, suffer the "consequences" even if they are innocent, I know its unfair for them, but I can't control it, its more powerful than me, I just explode. I have patience, that's true, but that doesn't mean, i am not sensitive. In my country we have a phrase: "we swallow the words" but they are still there, and when another person comes to us with a fight, even if it is a little one, we explode. I already broke a cellphone because I was really angry, I already screamed (and I never scream at people). I need long minutes or a couple of hours to calm down. I should probably get even more patience and be a "more cold-hearted person" because when we are angry we say or do things we didn't wanted. Sometimes that can even make some harm in us, directly or not. Jobs, family, strangers, etc... Its frustrating when you are really trying to stay calmed and the other fighter is still arguing/fighting at you, chasing you around home or other place just to continue fighting at you. That is stressing and no matter what you can't stand that, and you fight back. I don't know if it is a "survival" issue like an instinct, or a way to end the discussion as faster as you can or, even, a way to say your opinions or reasons about what you did or did not. I agree with you when you say "...always takes wrong and dangerous decision...", but in the world that we live, there are constantly fights, stupid people, stress, "jumping hormones" and this makes, in my humble opinion, an hard, really hard, job to stay calmed, focused about controlling ourselves. To save ourselves and our friends/family from our explosions of angriness we need to have a decent, chilled, comprehensive life, and not like most of us have, a stressful and complicated life. That means we needed to change our life, views and, mainly, our personality. And, i guess I can say for the majority of people, is really hard to change who we are, what we do if we don't have some help. So, family and friends and, of course, us, we all should help each other to create a strong bounding for confidentiality, friendship, and most important of all, patience.
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• India
9 Jul 08
Hi Ruibinha, Thanks a lot for describing all about your angryness in detailed. I am totally agree with you.I am rating you positive as well.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
10 Jul 08
When i'm angry about something or someone, i will either turn away, or start to do something else to prevent myself from thinking about it.. IN a way, it will cool me down abit and till i reach home, i will change into my running gera straight away and run my anger off.. Normally it will work for me and the anger inside me, will just be let go along with my sweat ^_^
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
king of walk outs huh lol anywayz, if i cant really take my anger anymore, i will raise my voice to let them know that i'm already angry.. then they will not just talk or they simply shut their mouth hehehee...
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
11 Jul 08
My dear seems to have some kind of authority huh.. lol =D But dun ever raise your voice at me, because i will never want my dear to be angry with me.. hehe ^_^ mauhhh muahhhh
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
12 Jul 08
hhehehe i never shout to my hun unless you made a move that i really don't like.. lol
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@magojordan (3256)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
When I get angry I usually take a deep breath and count 1-100 if that doesn't work I just keep quiet. If I'm still angry I get my deck of cards and do magic tricks so that I won't be angry anymore.
• India
9 Jul 08
Hi magordan, Thanks for your informative response. Taking deep breath and just keeping quite is the best solution which i will try to do for myself as well. I am rating you positive for this information sharing with us.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
8 Jul 08
Dear friend, I do not get angry very often and even if I get angry I would keep mum for few second and start to talk and in some cases I do pretend to angry even though I am not as some may start to be angry to me. Hence to stop that I had pretended to be angry just to note I too can become angry if wanted. But very rarely I had pretended too.
• India
8 Jul 08
Hi SHAMRACK, Thanks for giving nice response!! Its good that you don't get angry very often keep it up. but whenever u get angry try to avoid as you also do very smartly. Take care!! I am rating your response positive.
• United States
10 Jul 08
i just walk away now.. i may talk to my hubby or my best friend about whatever has me mad but im trying to have more control over that part of my life and ignore it better.. (ignore the problem not my emotions.. i dont think stifling them is good either)
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
i just try not to say anything more. i get really mean if i am angry and if i allow myself to be absorbed by my guilt, the more i will say things i might just regret. i control my anger by telling myself just don't stoop to their level... hehe
• Pakistan
9 Jul 08
just cool down, think that you never had been angry,, think that what is done thats done time does not come back.... or getting angry won't solve the problem
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
Am a cool person, but there were a few times when I did get really upset and angry to the extent of wanting to physically hurt the other person. I control my anger by being calm and rational, and by doing so tempers the hot emotions brewing inside me. If things really get out of hand, I just turn my back and walk away.
• United States
9 Jul 08
The only thing that gets me angry are rude and stupid drivers on the road. Other than that I don't get angry a lot. Its temporary and I don't lose my cool. I just shake it off and laugh at it later. I control it of a matter of choice and power of mind and will.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I actually don't get angry very often. I am a middle child of seven kids and always seemed to be the peacemaker of the family. I still am and have stepped between two of my brothers several times since they have grown up. I guess that is really not a good idea, but it worked without anyone getting hurt. Thank goodness, because it could have been me getting hurt. lol But you are right. Anger can be a hurtful emotion. So we do have to learn to control it. And I think you are doing the right thing to just walk away and give yourself time to cool down. That usually works. Gives you time to take some deep breaths and get back in control of your emotions. Keep Cool. Nana
@Philver (21)
9 Jul 08
Angryness? Really?
@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
I get angry for quite some times. It's normal thing. But I just cool down and I want to be alone If I was to explode because I don't want to say those things that some people don't want to hear. You know when a person is angry some times we cannot control what we want to say or do. But I can control myself. I can speak for my self and give my self to think. My temper get down for an hour so If I think I'm fine, I can speak up and gradually I will come back to normal.
@joyines (239)
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
if im angry the 1st thing i will do it keep quite.i would go swimming or take a long shower until i feel ease and relax and confident enougn to say what i feel
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
8 Jul 08
well, i usually try to control it by keeping quiet... there is no use talking a lot when i am angry... it is better to keep quiet and try to cool down first before we start to talk again with the person whom we had the disagreement with... take care and have a nice day...
@akrockz (306)
• India
8 Jul 08
when i feel that I am angry I try to stop talking and control myself. This makes me cool and return to normal position. Yoga is one of the solutions.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
when I'm angry? hmmm... *thinks* Well...I usually just walk out. lol. Kinda like you...stop the discussion then leave. Cause, I just wanna get away, I don't wanna hurt anyone...I mean verbally. most especially physically...but as far as I know, I'm not really the "physical type" lol