baby abandoned in hospital

@winterose (39932)
Canada
July 9, 2008 2:45am CST
a new born baby was abandoned at the lakeshore general hospital close to Montreal, The young mother gave the baby over to an attendant and said she would be back she had to park her car. She never came back. They are now looking for her,. The police say they will not press charges, she left the baby in a safe place, they just want to make sure she is okay, because she just had a baby and should be seen by a doctor. If the mother doesn't step forward, the baby boy will be given over to Social services, any thoughts, I could ask if you would abandon your baby but I know most of you would say no, do you think the police is correct in not pressing charges in this case? What do you think should happen to the woman if she comes back on her own, and what would happen if she never steps forward but is found?
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57 responses
• United States
10 Jul 08
i ownt also, if i have the planned why wait when till they born. having them and guving birth to them os not ordinary thing in this world. if she abandoned her baby they hse had mental disorder. hope she have conscience.
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• United States
10 Jul 08
women who drop off their babies in a safe haven, not necessary have a mental disorder. They just don't want to deal with the baby, and I'm sure they hope that they will find a good couple who take care of their baby.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes I believe she wanted the best for her baby and felt she wasn't able to him the best.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
well they should think about it the first place when they both (parents) plan to engage on that activity . they can do it w/o making her pregnant, since they are botn not ready for obligation. when u do thing into your life u need to think of whats the outcome of it. not they will think that there is always a good reason behind it. well u may not understand, seem u not one of them who get abandoned by there parents. but i can tell how it feels seem im one of it. theres alot of ways to prevent baring a baby, so why they didnt do it at the first place, but they are hurting a innocent one by dissiming him/her into there life. into his/her parents life which is the right arms he/she should be. this all just in my own humble oppinion.
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@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
10 Jul 08
I think, this not good and immoral on the part of mother to abandon her child and that too an infant baby. For a new born baby, the only one to depend upon in this whole world is his/her mother and it can not be worse than this for a new born bay. But there could be some serious trouble with the mother also. Because no mother in the world can abandon her new born child so easily. So police should find out the real reason behind this event and then only the further course of action can be decided.
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• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi surui86, Maybe this person is a young teenager, that doesn't want any part of the baby. She could be scared, her parents may not know, there could be a millions of reasons. There are women that don't care about anything but them selfs. So, yes there are women who will abandon their baby and will not give it a second thought. It has been said, that if you don't want your baby, leave the baby in a safe place, hopital, police station, fire department, no questions asked. There is no reason to find the mother, she didn't want her baby, she followed the law and there is nothing that could be done about it. The baby is safe now, it's sad that he/she will wind up in foster care. I said leave the mother alone, her guilt (if she has any)will get the best of her.
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@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
10 Jul 08
Yes, I agree with you. But I'm still feeling sorry for the baby.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
she is a woman in her 20's or 30's and it is a criminal offense in canada
• United States
10 Jul 08
In the US they have a safe haven law I think it is, where any women or girl who has a baby and they don't want it can drop it off at a hospital. There are no consequences as far as being arrested for child abandonment or anything like that. I think they can leave them at a police station as well or or somewhere safe like that.
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• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi slcharger, I believe that every country should have this type of law. There would be less baby dieing.(is that the right spelling?) And your right, places where you can leave a baby are, hopital, police department, and fire department, I don't know if you're able to leave a baby at a church.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
I think leaving at at church is only decent if you know someone is there, there is always someone at a hospital, but not always at a church.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
That's true. During the day you may get a some people here and there, but chances are she will be seen. And that is something she didn't want to do.
• United States
10 Jul 08
I feel soo bad about hearing things like this happening all the time but @ least the baby was safe. Lots of the new moms that kill there unwanted babies should not be given the chance again to get PG. Same thing for the ones who get abortions because of convenience to get the baby outta the way! I sometimes think of my life maybe it I was a PG teenager like some of my friends then I'd have a few kids by now! God's most precious gift is given to those who don't want it but then those like me who really love kids don't have any yet! Everyone says I'd be a great mom but the timing is never right! I wish there was a way to find out about anyone who didn't want there baby before they harmed them. They should be taught alot more of this in school. The poor innocent baby is basically abandoned. I think there should be someone who knows if a friend of there's is PG & help look after them if they want to keep it a secret from others but still go see a Dr. then decide how they'd raise that child. Sometimes I have seen the new mom not want the baby but the new dad who never knew about the baby he wanted to be responsible for it & help raise it but was never given the chance since the new mom thought it was her only choice having nothing to do w/him which is totally wrong since it took 2 to get PG the new mom didn't do it on her own. It should be the decision of both!
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• United States
10 Jul 08
It would be nice to have a place where you can go and talk to these teens who are PG, and asked them would they be willing to have the baby, after give the baby up for adoption. And this would be just between you and the teen who is PG. But there would have a lot of red tape, laws. If someone could pass a law, agreeing to what both party intend to do, if would be much easier on the person who is PG. Sign a contract, where she is not allowed to see her baby, unless the baby when he or she is old enough to decide for him/her self. Of course as you mention, the father would have to know about it. Unless he doesn't want any part in it.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
in this case the woman was in her 20's or early 30's, we don't know the situation that brought her to this point, I hope she is okay though.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
How bad is it to keep the afterbirth? she does need to get her insides cleaned.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jul 08
If she is a mental case then i can understand to why they won't press charges. But if she is perfectly sane then why the hell not? This is an innocent baby where talking about she should face the consequences like everyone else. these kinds of things are happening to often, if they let her go then everyone will think they have the right to abandon their baby at a hospital. Once it's a safe place please... What is the world coming too.
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
it is against the law her, but they have also adopted safe haven laws, so that if people are going to do it, at least let it be a safe place.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
I don't think she will show up for a while. She's scared and will remind hidden for a while.
@BestTeam (54)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Why press charges? That just makes people like her abandon their babies in places where they are not safe at all and they die. Can't imagine she'd be as good a parent as someone who'd adopt the baby so sounds like she gave up her right to be a mom to this one.
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• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi Best Team I totaly agree with you, she did what was right for her. She didn't break the law and she did exactly what they have been anouncing. No charges should be made.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
It is against the law in canada, it is a criminal offense but the police have decided not to prosecute, under safe haven laws, but it is and always has been a criminal offense in canada to abandon your baby
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
9 Jul 08
This is sad for the baby...I will of course can't afford to do that..But, at least she didn't kill or abort the child. But, anyway, she still needs to be given proper sanction for doing so, how if she will do it repeatedly! If people are not ready to have kids, I wish they will be responsible enough to do anything just to avoid being pregnant!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Jul 08
That's where good and correct s.ex education in the schools comes in handy. but then again some schools and or governments don't allow too much to be taught along these lines. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
we don't know what happened in this case, perhaps she was raped, or felt that she could not take care of the child, even though she thought she could before she got pregnant. It is a great mystery.
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Hi, I personally think the mother did the right thing. If she couldn't take care of the baby or didn't want the baby, taking it to the hospital was a good thing. It is so much better than dumping the baby somewhere where it might be sick or even die like others have done. In our city, if a baby is dropped off at a hospital or a fire station, no charges will be filed. This is a good thing for the mother, baby and future adoptive parents. The mother feels safe to give up her baby with no charges ever being filed, the baby is alive and well and can be given to parents who will love it. Have a great day! Char :-)
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes here too.
@Bd200789 (2994)
• United States
10 Jul 08
At least she left in the hospital where it will be taken care of. I don't think they should press charges on the mother, because they don't know what situation she's in. Maybe she can't afford to keep the child, or has another reason. If she comes back on her own with an explanation about why she left she baby, she should get the child back. Otherwise, I don't think they should look for her.
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
they are looking for her to see that she is okay, she just had a baby she might be in trouble, infection or anything could happen.
@qhwater (394)
• China
10 Jul 08
very sad to read this story. i think if the mom have no ability to raise the baby, she should not bring the baby to the world. otherwise, the baby might suffer quite a lot of difficulties in the future, even though there is still possible that some kind people will raise him. but after he knows the story, how could he feel? must be very sad.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
this was not a teen and we don't know what desperate situation brought this woman to this point.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
10 Jul 08
She may be overwhelmed with the htought of a new baby and not have a place for it. she might be living out of her car or there might be other circumstances involved. I do hope she comes forward. Maybe it is depression that sometimes happens after a birth. She will go to jail for abandonment if they find her and she doens't come forward on her own. She be better off coming forward so she won't be charged and can see a Doctor to see if she is okay. If she doesn't I do hope they find the newborn a good home and that the baby is okay and healthy.
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
I do hope for her sake that she is okay and does get the help she needs.
• United States
10 Jul 08
I could never leave my children. I'm sure it was very hard for her to leave her baby.At least she took care of her baby by handing him/her over to safe hands. Heck no she should not be punished in anyway! I pray she ok.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
me too, I do pray that she will be okay as well, who knows what kind of physical or mental state that she is in.
@sacmom (14338)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Yes, I think the police are correct for not pressing charges. After all, it is like you said, the mother left the baby in a safe place. I remember hearing on the TV a few years ago there are now places to drop off an unwanted baby (who couldn't want a baby is beyond me, but sadly it does happen) at least here in the US, such as a hospital, and it can even be done unanimously. Apparently there were (and possibly still are) way too many babies being abandoned before this came into play. And since this new mother didn't just throw the baby away to let it die then she should not be charged. Plus, heaven forbid, maybe something terrible happened to this mother and that is why she didn't come back. Any way you look at it, it is sad, but at least the baby is alive.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes another person suggested too that something terrible may have happened to the mother as well.
• United States
10 Jul 08
I think the police are right in not pressing charges as well. I mean, leaving them at an airport is much, much better than leaving them in a dumpster or alleyway and the such. I know many of us would not abandon a child, but maybe she couldn't raise it. There might have been financial problems and the such. I just wished that she could sent the child to adoption rather than just leaving the child in the hands of a airport attendant though.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
she left the child at the hospital
@irishidid (8116)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Good for this young mother doing the right thing! Yes, the police are perfectly right for not pressing charges. This mother cared enough not to throw the baby away like trash.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes I also agree
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
9 Jul 08
All that goes throgh my mind when i read something like this is what kind of hell was that poor woman going throgh when she left her child? I am sure it could not be good blessed be
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes I agree with you too.
@shlooper (310)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I don't think that anything should happen to the mother because she did leave her child in a safe place. If she left the child on the street somewhere then it would be a different story. I think that only a sad situation could make a mother want to abandon her baby, and if she felt like she really couldn't care for the child perhaps she made the correct choice.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes I do agree with you.
@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
9 Jul 08
Aww, that is a sad story ! I wonder what would make a mother do something like that . It is a lot better than what some people have done with a kid , because they didnt want it . For now maybe it is for the best .
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes it is probably for the best the baby will get a good home somewhere.
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
9 Jul 08
If the girl is not able to take care of the baby then I think she did the right thing leaving the baby in the hospital, I just think she went about it the wrong way. I know they are telling people to leave them in a safe place instead of trying to flush them or putting them in trash bags and they will not be in trouble for leaving them. I do think one bad thing about leaving the baby like that is they will have no idea about medical family background. I wonder how old this young mother is and if she was hiding her pregnancy.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
they say she looked to be in her 20's or early 30's
@chertsy (3817)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I could never abandon my children. I think the police is correct in not pressing charges in this case. If they did, it would stop other women that wanted to give up their child, for fear of going to jail. If the woman does come back, she should be seen by a doctor right away. Then given the chance if she wants to, keep her baby. This should also be given if she doesn't step forward, but is found out. She brought the baby to a safe place and not left him/her outside in the heat to die.
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@winterose (39932)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
yes I think the woman is very scared,