Shut off the Cell...

@howard96h (11658)
New York, New York
July 9, 2008 2:13pm CST
Can someone please explain to me why people will not shut off the ringer on their phones when they are going into a place where their phones should not ring, like a movie theater, Church, job interview, library, funeral, in class, meetings, doctor's treatment rooms, to name a few. Every phone has a silent mode and a vibrating mode where the call will still reach your phone but will not ring and disturb anyone. Why is it so hard to remember to shut it off - or is it that people just don't care?
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
9 Jul 08
LOL--I don't even have a cell phone anymore and I think people in general have gotten a bit weird about "Reach out and touch someone"...like all the time? But yup, it is annoying to hear people's cell phones go off...It was kind of hysterical when you think of it. This was when my mother and I were in court proceedings since our landlord was trying to evict us...cell phones aren't allowed in court either...one time while we were sitting there waiting for our "case" to begin, a cell phone went off...It was the landlord's lawyer..hehee...think he would have known better..the judge gave him a rather nasty look too.
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
Funny how they can bring their phones in. He should have know better.
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• United States
9 Jul 08
I wonder what would happen if I hide a cell phone behind pyewacket while she's too busy (HEY! I typed it right this time ) mylotting to know about anything going on around her, leave it at a loudest as it can go, sneak away, & then dial the cell phone number ... Would you "Klingon" to the ceiling?
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
If I was you I would run like hell before she hits the floor...she swings a mean broom! LOL!
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
9 Jul 08
Well I have a cell phone, and outside of going to see a movie my ringer is always on. In the movies I put it on vibrate but other than that I leave it on. I don't see a reason to have to turn it off in a doctors office, they have a tv on, and even music sometimes so how is my phone going to bother them? I don't go to chuch so I don't worry about that. When I had classes I would just turn it on vibrate or turn the volume down just low enough so no one else could hear it.
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
It is good to have it on vibrate at the movies and in classes, I agree. When I mentioned seeing the doctor, I was not referring to the waiting room, I am talking about the "treatment room" because many doctors I have seen complain about the phones going off while they are giving someone an examination. Thanks for your reply.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I agree with you, I do not see why people are getting so bent out of shape about how people use their phones. There is a camp that states 'cells should only be used for emergencies' and another camp that doesn't think people should use phones while driving, and another group who thinks people should not be in restaurants using them, or in stores, or whatever you want to add. To me it's insulting, nobody should care how somebody else chooses to use a personal item they purchase. Until such time as other people are paying for your cell phone or your bill, they don't have any right to dictate your usage. Just my two cents. I could state that I don't like certain clothing items some people buy and complain that either they shouldn't be allowed to buy them, or they shouldn't be allowed to go outside their homes wearing such items, but I'm sure we can all agree that would sound rude, right? That's the same thing people who want to dictate cell phone usage are doing.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
We are talking about it ringing at places it should not ring. Thats it. You said, "To me it's insulting, nobody should care how somebody else chooses to use a personal item they purchase." To me it's insulting when I am in my house of worship and I have to listen to a phone ring because someone did not feel like shutting the ringer off.
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@irishmist (3820)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I do think people are rude when it comes to cell phone usage, but I also think they like to feel important when their phone rings, just like the people who always have on the earpiece, like they always get call, ya right. I always try to respect others when it comes to my cell phone, though there has been a few times I've forgotten, and I was very embarresed.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I guess I would annoy you then because I'm one of those people who puts on my bluetooth in the morning and it kinda stays there all day. We have a hands-free law in my state now, so you have to be using a hands-free device while driving. I place and receive the majority of calls while I'm out during the day, this could be in the car, waiting in line somewhere, at the store. It's a lot easier to just tap the button to answer it than go digging in my purse for my phone or worse yet, digging for the bluetooth which would probably get lost if I didn't leave it on my ear. My suggestion is to ignore what other people do, I used to care what other people did all the time too, and all it did was make me p*ssed all the time. In fact, I used to laugh at people about the earpieces but I did not realize how easy and functional they are, and if you have a good one, how easy it is to forget you're even wearing it until it rings.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Thank you Irishmist for your comments.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
26 Jul 08
The word is "RUDE". Seems people have lost the respect for others. All I hear now days is what "I want" is more important than what "you need" (no matter what it is). My bosses wife went to a wedding when her phone rang in the middle of the ceremony & she took the call. I found that to be totally tasteless & rude. To compound the problem, she was braggin about it the next day. The other one that infuriates me is when I'm talkin to somebody on my cell (& they know I'm on my cell) & they tell me to hold on so they can take another call like I really want to burn uo my minutes while they're chatting with somebody else (probably on a landline). I usually hang ip & let them call me back if they even care. Then when they say why did you hang up on me, I say obviously the other call was more important & I'm low on minutes & ask what I missed. If I have an incomin call that I just have to take, I say I've got another call & I'll call you back in a lil bit.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
26 Jul 08
She was bragging about it the next day, was that suppose to be 'chic' or something to take that call during the ceremony? How tacky and rude. It is true, people just don't care about the feelings of others. Thanks for your comments.
@shlooper (309)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I think that people who carry their cell phone all the time sometimes just forget that it is on. I keep mine on vibrate all the time, and sometimes it surprises me when it goes off. People rarely call me though, so I could very easily forget to turn off my ringer. On the other hand, some people think that it is more important that people can contact them than it is to be quiet in a situation. Especially in a library or similar place. Then, some people just don't care. I think that cell phones cause a lot of rudeness. Usually because people just don't realize what a disruption they are being by not turning it off.
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
I agree there are people that don't realize what a disruption they cause by leaving it on. Thanks for your reply.
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• India
10 Jul 08
Hi friend, What you said is partially correct! some people forget really.Some people do it as if they only have their own cells to make others think that they were busy always even they are not.Different people react different to the same situation.I think every one should think which is correct and which is not of their own.We can only give suggestion or advice it is not to themselves judge what is wrong and what is right.I always keep my cell in silent mode or vibrating mode where ever i go. Have a nice day.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
I also think what you said is partially correct, different people do not react differently when you are in a Church or movie theater. I don't know one person who wants to hear a ringing phone in a movie theater or a Church service. There are places that the phone should NOT ring. It is not judging anyone, it is called being courtesy and considerate.
• India
10 Jul 08
Of course what you said is absolutely correct friend Have a nice day.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Thank you for your comments and have a great day.
@Marley76 (109)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I totally know what you mean. I worked for a Doctor and we would be in the room, during a procedure and the patients for would ring and they would answer it. I would be in shock. The doctor would tell the paitent I will be back when you have more time. He would move on to other patients and that patient would have to wait till he was done. The worst part about it. Is we had a huge bright yellow sign that said "TURN OF YOUR CELL PHONE BEYOND THIS POINT" posted on the front door. People can be so rude. I turn my phone off before I enter a building. Any building,except my house, in the car if someone else is in the car with me, or if I am in someone elses house.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Yes I agree, we are not talking about a waiting room, when you go into an examination room for treatment that phone should be off, common courtesy. The doctor/nurse/staff does not want to be disturbed with a ringing phone.
@Marley76 (109)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Yes in the examination room. I wanted to slip somethimes with the needle and say oops you phone ringing distacted me. I betcha the would remember to turn their phone off next time.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Yes it would, a slip of the needle and that ringer goes off next time. LOL
@michelyn (717)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I am very mindful of making sure that I turn my phone to vibrate whenever I enter an establishment in which it is rude to allow your phone to ring. Mostly my doctor's office, the hospital, church, weddings, etc. I can't remember the last time that I actually forgot to change it while entering the doors. My husband always leaves his phone on vibrate, which can be quite annoying, so he doesn't have to worry about remembering to switch hit back and forth. I just hate it because he doesn't always get my phone calls because it doesn't ring. I think that so many people have gotten lax in following those standards that other people have come to think that if it's okay for someone else, it's okay for them too. They think it's much more acceptable now than it used to be. If only they were looking at the faces of the people around them when it rings instead of the screen to see who was calling. Then they might realize they are being a bit rude. The only thing worse than having the phone ring loudly in a waiting room or whatnot, is carrying on a conversation with that person loudly in the waiting room.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
If only they were looking at the faces of the people around them when it rings instead of the screen to see who was calling. Then they might realize they are being a bit rude. Very good point you made and so true. Thanks for your reply.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Every time I ever have the opportunity to be in a waiting room, there are multiple people on phones. Am I the only one this doesn't bother?! I am beginning to think so. Why are you all bothered by this? I spent a lot of time on the phone when I had to go to the ER with one of my kids a few months ago. Nobody told me I could not be on my phone, and nobody told me to get off it. They did ask me not to stand in the way though. Sometimes you can't make a choice, as in, do you stay with your kid or do you go outside so you can remain on the phone. I am REALLY GLAD that they didn't have a problem with me being on it.
@michelyn (717)
• United States
10 Jul 08
There are exceptions of course. When it comes to being in a hospital with a child or spouse, that is totally different. It's a necessity to be on the phone at that point. Had I described the specific scenario I was talking about, you would have understood that I did not mean the same thing in your case. I was more specifically talking about sitting in the primary care physician's office waiting for the monthly appointment and having a younger woman behind me (yes, they have the chairs back to back) answer the phone and start talking about what they are going to do for the day after they get out of the doctor's office and then start gossiping about what this person said about what that person did yesterday and on and on and on... all the while, some guy one row over is talking to a friend of his about where they might go out this evening with some other friends. Unnecessary conversation that everyone else in the waiting room could care less about and it would be one thing if they were actually trying to be somewhat discreet about their conversation, but they don't. They are loud and obnoxious.
@heero1103 (322)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
I understand how you feel, but the truth is, there are still a lot of people out there who don't use their heads...literally. They don't even care about other people near them. That's life. The next time one with ill manners rears its ugly head, show him or her how to be civilized.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
It's just a matter of time when the "cell phone jammers" will be installed in these places and then they will have no service at all. Then we'll see how civilized they act when they are disabled.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Like I stated before, it will come down to priorities. People who want uninterrupted phone service will no longer patronize those places, and if it affects enough people, those places of business might suffer. I can't say I'm sorry, it's like shooting yourself in the foot but whatever.
• Philippines
10 Jul 08
But they should respect first others who would be affected by those disturbing and annoying situations. Besides, places like theaters do tell their customers to shut off their cell phones as a rule so as not to disturb the others.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I rarely shut my phone off, although I remember in the places you mentioned. I think that sometimes people are on call or something and forget to put their phone on vibrate. This happened to me repeatedly. I don't think anyone means to forget I just think we do because we're so used to being instantly reachable by anyone at anytime over anything.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
Some places are already talking about installing devices that will disable cell phones in their place of business, place of worship and especially school class rooms. This would not even be an option if people showed some courtesy to others. It takes a few people to mess it up for everyone else.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I suppose I'll have to avoid places like that then. You'd think things would get more user-friendly, not user-unfriendly.... it's not even necessarily that I need to reach out and touch someone either. I just need to make sure that *I* am reachable.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
It is the inconsiderate people who are making it "not user friendly." *You* can still be reachable with your ringer OFF!
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@lala766 (240)
• United States
9 Jul 08
This drives me nuts. I was in church on Sunday and I hear ring ring and this guy across the aisle is checking his phone to see who it is. I mean shut the ringer off or put it on vibrate if you think you can not go without your phone. I always turn my phone off when i got into places. These days people just can't function without their cell phones. I see people in the movie theater just talking away while the movie is playing. It is so darn rude!
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
This is the main reason that has caused me to stop going to movie theaters. I am not paying all that money to hear ringing phones. Thanks for replying.
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@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Yes, many people do need to leave their phone ON, no one said to shut it off, we are talking about the ringer. You can have it on vibrate not to disturb anyone and still get your text message and reply back.
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@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 08
I feel that it's extremely rude to leave a phone ringing in the theater, meeting, wedding ceremony, interview & etc. I have seen many people just don't aware about the courtesy and treat it like normal. For me, I would be offended to be interrupted by such phone ringing. You are right, the phone should be switched to silent or vibrate mode, in such situations.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
31 Jul 08
Yes it is just being courteous. Thanks for your comments my friend.
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@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
You are most welcome my friend. I think nowadays there are still a lot of people keep on being rude, by allowing their phone ringing in the meeting room and even in some solemn ceremony. Hope they could be enlightened to be more courteous.
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Well, I've been a College Instructor before and it really irks me when a phone rings while I'm discussing something. I mean, I always remind my class before starting that all phones must be in silent mode so they wouldn't interrupt my lecture. It's a sign of respect of course. Other people should be sensitive and scrupulous enough to know this thing. I don't have to remind them. But I also know that we're just human beings and we tend to forget sometimes, especially some of my working students who come rushing in my class because they're gonna be late. They always forget to turn their phone off so I always remind them before I start the lecture. I can do nothing about other situations though. Thank God in our church, brethren are respectful enough. I've never heard a cellphone ring even once while attending a church service.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
11 Jul 08
Wow, I guess the people in your Church are very respectful because where I live it sounds like your sitting at a telephone switchboard. Putting it on silent/vibrate is a sign of respect for others. Thank you for your comments.
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
You're welcome. Yes, we are. We were taught about the solemnity of church services and to show respect to the house of God and we live by it. Since we also believe that God is with us during our church services, it is but expected of us to be respectful and solemn.
@muxicka (216)
• Philippines
10 Jul 08
Maybe they just forgot. But at certain times they also just want to boast, I mean, in our place most people did it intentionally so that they would just draw out their phones and have other peoples attentions on them.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
Yes I guess some people are like that. Thanks muxicka for your response.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
10 Jul 08
And welcome to mylot, I hope you enjoy it here.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Jul 08
I agree either that or they can put it on silent mode that way it doesn't disturb anyone.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
I agree with you as long as it doesn't bother anyone else. Thanks.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Jul 08
I agree. I hate to hear someone talking on their cell when I am trying to watch a movie. It seems to ruin everything espically when I am into the story of the movie.
• United States
9 Jul 08
I think it is like those who replied before me said. Some don't care. They probably get elated ehen it rings, because they think the cell phone means some kind of status. Others, it's just part of being human, capable of forgetting. I actually think it's because many get the cell phone, & don't know how to use it. If I was going to be in a certain place where the cell phone is not to ring, I just turn it off so that whoever is calling would get some kind of message saying that the call cannot be placed right now & to try again later. There was even a news article where a judge slapped someone with a contempt of court charge because her cell phone rang. What do you think?
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
Regarding the court charge I feel that she really should have known before going in but assuming she didn't - if there was no sign hanging up telling everyone to shut off all cell phones then she should have just been warned and told to shut if off - if there was a sign posted and she ignored it then I can see her being punished for not obeying the rules.
• United States
9 Jul 08
I agree. The judge probably should have made the request that everyone shut their cell phones before beginning the case.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
i can not understand that too howard. i mean just put it in the silent and im sure they will feel it vibrate when a call or a message came in. specially inside the church. cant you even just wait for an hour before you entertain text messages and calls. its not even hard to do. some people think like they are educated but cant act like one.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
It annoys me too. Thanks for your reply. How are the children doing?
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
they are all fine fine fine. mostly busy on weekdays for they are all at school and help me with the chores during weekends. i am more tired when there is school but i have more time for myself when they are at school. although its kind of lonely to eat lunch alone. lol.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
9 Jul 08
hi Howard, i hate that kind of habbit too!not shut off the cell means they are "SHOW OFF" very simple answer. and i am not fan of cell anyway except for business but only for monkey business no thanks not important i always set on vibrate.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Jul 08
Mine too, always on vibrate. Thanks for your reply my friend.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
9 Jul 08
welcome you dear.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I think that people really forget to put them on vibe. I have had that happen before and been around others that it had happened too. Your mind is on other things when going into places. Your thinking about what you have to deal with at hand, but then the phone is not something thought about until it rings. Then were everyone looks at you, that is when your feeling out of place cause you forgot to cut off or put the phone on vibe. They you get ugly looks from people for the phone ringing when the sign said no phones in the building. I bet you have done it yourself not meaning to forget but it just happened.
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
31 Jul 08
When I leave my home I put it on vibrate and it stays like that until I get back home so I never run into that problem. If there are no signs then I can see an accident happening but what makes it worse is when there are signs posted and people still fail to shut the ringer off. Thanks for your comments.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
29 Jul 08
There was a UK comedy sketch show (Trigger Happy TV) with a Character in various locations who produces this HUGE 3 foot Prop Cellphone..He just laboured the point about annoying irrelevant conversations in public places in a loud Shouty voice "HELLO?!! I'M ON THE TRAIN!!!!....CIAO!!" making people jump around Him..yep..that's what it feels like!
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
30 Jul 08
I would love to see a clip from that show, sounds really funny. I am going to check on "youtube" the name is (Trigger Happy TV)? Thanks.