Why am I not disappointed?

New Zealand
July 10, 2008 9:22am CST
I'm honestly still in love with my ex... well here's the deal... her section in one of our subjects got dissolved and she was transferred to another section... she could have been transferred to my section but that didn't happen... and guess what I wasn't surprised at all... I didn't expect anything... and above all I seemed to feel better that we are not together in one section... then there was our number 1 who told me we should've been together it would've been better... but how I reacted seemed to surprise her a lot... well I told her it was better that way like I actually don't care... why? I think it's because it'll just be harder for both of us if we were together... well we still do things together... we still go out together... but some things are just too different... and it hurts so much... besides I know she doesn't want to be with me anyway... perhaps if we were still on I might have reacted differently... probably I'm really frustrated and disappointed at the moment and that's probably what I'll be writing about... but apparently it's just not like that... Do you think it's weird? Please share your views... thanks!
3 responses
@valeria1 (2724)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Just follow this rule: Find someone exactly like you and no upsets will happen. Is a new woman or new man in every corner do not go down just up.
• New Zealand
10 Jul 08
if that person is exactly like me won't I just be bored?
@valeria1 (2724)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I heard this before. Do you consider yourself boring? I love myself so yes someone exactly like me is perfect.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 08
having someone exactly similar to me might not make it exciting... I mean I'll see in her everything I see in myself... yeah we will agree at all times but it will not help us grow for the better...
@Elixiress (3893)
10 Jul 08
I think that your not disappointed, because deep down you know that it would be too hard for you to see her every day knowing that you cannot be with her. So I think secretly it is a relieve that you's are not working together.
• New Zealand
11 Jul 08
hmm.. yeah maybe you're right... and maybe I am right... maybe it's for the best...
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
10 Jul 08
You're on the right track. If you feel that it was best for you not to be together with your ex, then you're right. It's hard to have to separate yourself from someone when you still have feelings for them. I would offer this as advise thought. If you really feel that your relationship is not going anywhere, then the time that you spend together, going out, be cut back little by little. As cliche as this sounds, time does heal all wounds. DCMerkle
• New Zealand
10 Jul 08
well we decided to still be the best of friends and somehow it works well... and yeah... since we have duties 5 days a week now we'll only see each other for about once a week... so I thought it was better... I mean less fights and less hurts right? rather than if we still see each other everyday I think I'd just miss her more though she's right by my side because I know I'll miss all the things we used to have... do you agree?