Do You Prefer to Socialise At Home With Friends Or To Go Out?

@ellie333 (21029)
July 11, 2008 4:31am CST
More people seem to stay at home these days as it is cheaper to entertain at home rather than to go out. Which do you prefer? What type of things do you like to do? For example a small gathering with buffet bites or a lavish dinner party? Go out on the town dancing or a quiet meal in a restaurant? Ellie :D
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11 Jul 08
Hi ellie, Well, really I prefer to go out with a few friends to our local pub, its very quiet in there since the smokeing bann. I don't like to have any garthering at home hubby gets in the way and I ends up doing all the washing up and doing the food. I had a dinner party not so long ago and I was so shattered it didn't enjoy myself, all my husband did was chatter to the guest, no help at all useless git! Love & XXX Tamara
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Oh I am sure your hubby is useful for some things I know what you mean about entertaining at home though but my friends know I will serve first drink then its a help yourself as I don't do hostess. I do enjoy socialising at home but then I haven't a hubby to get in the way Huggles. Ellie :D
@littleowl (7157)
11 Jul 08
Hi Ellie-you and I are lucky-you don't know Tamara's husband I do and he is as useless as what she says though as you say he is useful WHEN he wants to be or mainly when he NEEDS to be and is always grumpy about it huggles littleowl
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45640)
11 Jul 08
I think that it all depends on the occasion Ellie. In the days when we had a dining table and chairs too we would often entertain at home. We'd have supper parties of a running buffet (is that a buffet for joggers?). But we have entertained in restaurants and we do like the occasional picnic. On balance though, I'd sooner have a small number of good friends at home. How about you?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
11 Jul 08
That should read "or a running buffet...."
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Didn't notice the typo! I prefer a small group of friends round to the house or a large group of all age groups on a picnic on the beach. It means whilst some are socialising others are paddling in the water with the kids etc. I do like to eat out though in the evenings, my clubbing days are over but occasionally I will let my hair down usually if my eldest and a group of her friends persuade me to go be the oldest swinger in town! LOL. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Oh I have spent so much time reading yours and Goodies fun in the name discussion that I have only just seen this. Well reading and laughing at that I am definitely not the oldest swinger in town which makes me feel really good but it has reminded me of a dress I had especially made for me when I went to Monte Carlo when Jess was small that I still have in my wardrobe and the girls used it as a witches costume last halloween!!! it was the punk wedding suit bit that jogged the memory. Ellie :D
@PearlGrace (3172)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I definitely prefer to have a quiet meal in a restaurant when spending time with friends. Although I love to entertain at home, it takes so much effort and energy, that I just can't muster it up. Going to a restaurant is just so stressfree for me, that's my choice. You've got another great discussion going, ellie333.
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@ellie333 (21029)
15 Jul 08
Hi PearlGrace, Thank you for your kind words. I get lost sometime to know what to post as I am sure we all do. I love to have a meal out in a quiet restaurant too but it is affording it a lot of the time so prefer to have friends round, dishwasher fixed now though and I must admit I will cheat a lot and order pizza for all and after first served drink they get there own. Not a traditional hostess at all, even if people pop round after the first cup of tea they know where the kettle is for the next one. Home from home my house. LOL. Ellie :D
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• United States
15 Jul 08
I think your hostessing style sounds quite relaxed and fun! Yes, ordering a pizza is a great way to entertain and everybody tends to enjoy it. And I also prefer people making themselves at home. You gave me some wonderful ideas, ellie333!
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@ellie333 (21029)
15 Jul 08
Hi PearlGrace, In fact I have people round on Saturday night and I will go buy some crisps and dips and a few drinks and order pizza and we will all have fun without me having to do too much. Ellie :D
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@gemini_rose (16193)
11 Jul 08
I would much rather have a night out to socialise, it is much more fun. I might have to save up for a month or two first but I would definately go out on the town. I have never been one for socialising at home, it just does not feel the same drinking in the house, I have always been one for pubs and nightclubs, although I do like having a meal out too.
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Oh Gemini I love to go to a pub with live music but don't get to very often and clubbing well it would take me a fortnight to recover these days I think LOL. I love to eat out but enjoy having friends round rather than go out. Before my son my weekend started on a Thursday and quite often went through til the Monday but I have calmed down now and prefer just a few friends, a bite to eat and a bit to drink indoors. Ellie :D
@gemini_rose (16193)
11 Jul 08
Mine used to be a Friday and saturday night and then sunday would be spent ill and doing the never again routine!
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Sunday is still my day of vegging with or without a night out before. I remember driving from Surrey to Nottingham to see a mate in a band once and driving back home in time to jump in the shower and get changed for work and then when I got home from work to shower and change again before going out again for the evening clubbing. Age has caught up I definitely couldn't do that one now, just the driving alone would wear me out LOL. Ellie :D
@Hatley (164638)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 08
I prefer to go out as I do not get out that often, and would enjoy sharing a quiet mean in a restaurant. I have a standing dinner date with my best friend nelda every other Wednesday and we endup at Burger Kine ' where we have burgers and fries and talk our fool heads off.As an elderly woman I nolonger dance so its a quiet timefor me.
@Hatley (164638)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 08
oh my gosh not quiet mean but quiet meal sorry
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 Jul 08
You enjoy a mean meal then do you Hatley! I knew what you meant and I always make my typos in the actual discussions I post so no worries there. Yes a quiet meal is lovely to go out to have and I enjoy that too but I do most of my socialising at home these days as babysitters are very expensive per hour here and I wouldn't leave my son with just anyone so my friends tend to come to me. Thank you for sharing. Huggles. Ellie :D
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Jul 08
I would prefer to have it in the beach.Have food cook at home and bring it in the beach for the gathering.I just love it there.I had done it many times and it was so cool specially when we stay overnight.
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 Jul 08
Hi Msedge, now that sounds like an amazing experience and one I could do too as I live close to the beach. I enjoy a meal out from time to time but do prefer to have friends round to socialise. Ellie :D
@msedge (4012)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Wow!I really dream to live close to the beach one day.
@mummymo (23707)
12 Jul 08
I would love to be able to get out more - just out for a nice meal and then a few drinks at the pub but I can very rarely do that - another favourite is the pub quiz but I haven't been able to do that in over a year but it would still be my preferred socialising if I could! xxx
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
I love to go out for a nice meal in a quiet restaurant but don't get to go too often. I prefer to socialis at home with a group of friends these days as it is more relaxing and plus a lot less expensive eh! Ellie :D
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Jul 08
I very rarely get the meal either Ellie - I guess it is a case of wanting what you can't have as I very rarely get out of the house! xxx
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@littleowl (7157)
11 Jul 08
Hi Ellie-I prefer to stay in nowadays and invite people round..its too expensive to out unless for a treat and pubs are too expensive so get drink in if am going to have one-unless I'm invited out I a homebird huggles and blessings littleowl
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Hi Littleowl, I do enjoy a meal out now and again but do prefer small groups of friends round to the house. Like you say it is less expensive and I find I can relac more at home anyway. Ellie :D
@littleowl (7157)
12 Jul 08
I'm the same and its nice to eat out now and then but still prefer staying in as you say its more relaxing,blessings littleowl
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
11 Jul 08
I am not that party person and dont prefer to go in big parties i believe that one should enjou vacation in peace with family u may go out to resort, but not that busy and crowded that u loose charm of it
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Hi Cupid yes I prefer smaller less crowded venues myself. I enjoy being at home too with a small group of friends. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
12 Jul 08
Hi dear, yeah u r right and i agree, i believe small groupd can enjoy more than a crowd take care, keep it up
@Shellyann36 (10863)
• United States
18 Oct 08
We always invite folks here to eat with us. I enjoy cooking and if anyone wants to bring a dish that is great. It is too expensive to eat out or go out for us these days. I also enjoy going to other people's houses as well. It is good to be able to relax and enjoy friends or family without having to spend a fortune doing it!
@ellie333 (21029)
18 Oct 08
Hi Shellyann, I find it much more relaxing socialising at home myself and yes far more economical. Unlike you I am not a great cook so if it is at mine it tends to be a takeout and if at friends they cook. It is far too expensive to eat out I agree but do enjoy it every once in a while. Ellie :D
@nutanjain (898)
• India
19 Jul 08
well i prefer to scialise with my friends outside because natural things remain natural also one also gets bored on the net and when we go out we fell lightted and laos also discuss over day to day matters and there is no one inthis worl who would lik to sit on his pc 24*7 and would not likt ot come out of his housesda sdddddddddddddddddddddddd
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@ellie333 (21029)
20 Jul 08
Hi Nutanjain, Yes the fresh air is great and it is lovely to get out and away from the technology I agree but if I have friends round to socialise I will socialise and not be on the computer. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I really like a mixture. I do love to entertain but also like to go out and be pampered at a nice restaurant. And it depends on the occasion. In the winter around Christmas I love having guests when the house is all decorated. In the summer I really don't like the heat but if the weather is kind of nice then being outdoors is a blessing and I love eating out under proper conditions! LOL
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@ellie333 (21029)
15 Jul 08
Hi Jill, I love to eat out but get to do so rarely thes days but prefer friends round to the home, bit of a homebird really and I find I can relax more there than out a lot of the time. Christmas is my favoutite time of year for having guests. Ellie :D
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I prefer to do socialize at home! I am more comfortable here. Small restaurants are good to eat during off peak hours! We do not entertain much but we get together for family dinners once a week or so!
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
Yes Olivemai I agree it is much more relaxing and comfortable with friends coming round to the home but I do enjoy going out to a quiet restaurant too at times. Ellie :D
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Beyond the cost, I have always preferred entertaining at my home or at my friends. It is more personal and relaxed and you can get to know each other better. I don't like crowds or big events. We do occassionally go out but I think it is fun to have a few friends over and play cards, have a few drinks or just hang out.
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
Hi Sid, I agree it is much more relaxing at home with a few friends round than to go out. When I was younger I used to be out all the time but I don't go out often at all now unless to other friends or special occasion events. I do like to go for a meal though in a quiet restaurant when I can afford to. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jul 08
It is more fun to stay in with a small group of friends. You can relax and be more yourself in such a setting.
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
I agree it is much more fun to stay in with friends than to go out even though I do enjoy a restaurant meal when I can afford to. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jul 08
Depends on who it is...but most of the time i rather entertain at home..one its cheaper, two you can do whatever you want and not have to worry about getting in trouble..lol. No worries of getting home safe if you drink, no worries of bar brawls..lol. You get my point. We can drink, dance, talk, at home just like we could at the bar, and heck we can even hear each other without yelling over the noise.
@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
Hi Yes I agree with everything you have said even my daughters 21 & 17 prefer to have friends round to the home a lot of the time and I like that too as I know where they are, who they are with and that they are safe. Here in the UK there have been 5 fatal stabbing of young teenagers in just the London area alone in the last 24 hours so I worry when they do go out. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jul 08
Well, I would much rather be at home hanging out with friends. I don't do anything fancy, always casual. I think that maybe three times a year I go out to the club with friends. I would just prefer something mellow,peaceful, and less public.
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
Yeah its great just to chill and relax at home with friends and that what I enjoy too. I also love to eat out with a small group when I can afford to. My clubbing days are over but used to enjoy. Ellie :D
@polachicago (19075)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I like to go out. Dancing would be my favorite. Eating in restaurant is not on my favorite list for sure. I have bad headaches after eating out. I prefer to eat at home. HUGS
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@ellie333 (21029)
12 Jul 08
I can understand why you prefer to eat at home then and as you work at home I expect it is lovely to go out and dance the night away from time to time. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
@raydene (9875)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I don't socialize much these days. I'm not sure where I fit right now so I'm hanging back. I did go to dinner with a cousin and wife recently. xoxooxxoxo
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
I think it is lovely to have a meal out with just a couple of close friends or family but prefer to be indoors a lot of the time as I tend to be able to relax more. Ellie :D
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Hi ellie, Welcome back and I am glad to hear from you again! I will prioritize the inexpensive one..LOL! Socializing at home with friends will be ideal for me since we have a lot of privacy plus, we can save a lot, from gas to any high prices of food...I would love also to have different venue each gathering like this time, I'll be the host and friends will just contribute whatever they want to then by the next time, another friend will offer to be the host, so , it will be another venue!
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Jul 08
Hi Checapricorn, Yes socialising with friends and family at home is great even though I do enjoy a meal out on occasion. It is also lovely to visit friends and yes this is a much less expensive option I agree. LOL. Ellie:D