how can we conserve a relationship?

@adutza (39)
Romania
July 11, 2008 5:12am CST
I usually sit and think about the things I've done in my life and i discover none of them is more precious then the relations i have started. It's very easy to begin a relationship but not so easy to keep it...It's more likely that we forget our old friends when we find new ones, we hope that they will call us but in a relationship we must be involved because it's difficult to keep our friends till the end? what do you think about this subject?
11 responses
@Elixiress (3893)
11 Jul 08
I agree with you that making friends is easier than keeping them, especially when you are younger since you make so many changes in your life and the people change. The way that I conserve relationships is by seeing each other, people stop being friends because they drift apart and never see each other and just become acquaintances that talk to each other every so often in passing.
@adutza (39)
• Romania
12 Jul 08
yes elixiress you are totally right..people don't really know to maintain a relationship, and as they go old they are no longer friends..just acquaintances
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
12 Jul 08
well, for me, a relationship is about give and take and hence it takes efforts from both parties... trust and respect are very important in a relationship and i always try to maintain them in any relationship as much as i can... accepting other people's differences is another recipe for a successful relationship and this is not an easy thing to do... we tend to get along well with person who is similar to us and have the same way of thinking... in other words, it is not easy for us to accept that not every person is the same like us and we just have to accept the differences... otherwise, i believe that the relationship won't work... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
11 Jul 08
I think that , in certain times in your life you meet certain people , like "meant to be" scenerio.But once they were there and now they are not needed (not so much in a bad way) but you were in their life also..... just like when we have a job ,wev've been there for years ..then you move on to a better job , you made so many good friend and you have to say good bye , you say you will keep in touch ... but both your schedules.... don't collide and you end up never really talking at all, its just part of life...friends come and go... and the ones meant to be there in the end will be : )
@w1986114 (158)
• China
11 Jul 08
I greatly agree your opinion that it's very easy to begin a relationship but not so easy to keep it. When we get to know each other, we will find others' shortcomings,then we need to learn how to tolerate other's disadvantages.Sometimes we will feel frustrated for it seems only yourself pay out your feeling and please don't give up paying out your true heart then. I believe someday your friend will feel your feeling.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
11 Jul 08
Which kind of relationships are you referring to? Friendship or love relationship? If it's in term of friendship, I think we cannot expect much from it. What we can do is only keep in touch with our friends whenever is possible. When we have grown up, we need to accept one truth is everyone is changing their own lifestyle,so we cannot expect our friends to stay with us all the time. They will have their own busy life with career and family one day. But it's in term of love relationship, to conserve the relationship, I think both must have similar interests in certain aspects so that will have similar topics to talk about. Both in a relationship must always think of some ways to refresh the relationship by giving some surprises from now and then.
• United States
11 Jul 08
In this busy, busy day and age, friendships are so hard to maintain aren't they?!? If they're not in our path everyday, we tend to let them fall by the wayside. I'm guilty of that. If you don't keep in touch with me, I tend to drift off. Not on purpose, it's just how life is these days. I am always sorry for it and miss folks, but friendship is a two-way street--it takes effort and work on the part of all parties involved. Relationships should certainly be the most important thing in life, that's true. ~~
@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Friends are so important and with the busy life we all live we need to take time to give people a call or send them a card. I would say send an email but the other two are just so much more personal but an email is better than nothing. I think we need to actually take the time and dig deep into our friends- there may be something there that is bothering them that we can help them with but they are unsure of whether they should share or not. Time and communications is the best way to build relationships.
@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
The best way for us to preserve a relationship with friends or partners is to gain "trust". It's hard to find a true friend of course and it's hard to lose. We should keep our communication with our friends so we can able to reach them any time we want. If we never treasure them or will not keep them, we can never find a true friend and so called a good relationships with people.
@amrishkj (297)
• India
11 Jul 08
True its easy to make friends and also to keep them. I have friends from when I was 7yrs old(currently am 30). It is pretty easy to keep them if you let go off your ego take a step forward to call them up once a month or twice so that they too feel that they should be calling you back. And now with internet it has been very easy. I have kept in touch with my friends from school through orkut. So i do agree about the first part that its easy to make friends but disagree that they are difficult to keep.
• India
11 Jul 08
maintaining of our friends relationship is verry sweet, but for that we have to do something. suppose if we have a car means we have to give it fo regular peridic maintenance then only it will not be with us long time for easy travel but for maintaining our hair is easy because it is to do for daily then only we can go uot of our house. finaly what i am saying is car maintenance......friends hair maintenance......relatives
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
It's easy to start a relationship with friends. You are right about this. But its difficult to keep it. Especially if both of you are busy. If that friends go to other far places. That becomes very hard. The communication would surely suffer. There are great friendships that suffer because of distance. You are likely to develop a friendship to a person you see everyday. It would be heavenly if you're best friend is living near you.