Having a fake relationship
July 11, 2008 7:59am CST
I have a friend whose name is Enzo. She calls herself that name. She had a bad first experience in a relationship. She has been courted by a bifemme Jemy but she refused it twice because she was straight. Then comes six months a news that her friend Kris is already the girlfriend of Jemy. At first, she was happy for them but after seeing them so sweet together did she feel she was badly hurt finding out that she has already been in love with Jemy without knowing it. That time, Jemy and Kris was having a problem about their relatioship so they cooled off. Kris knew Enzo,her friend, was loving Jemy so she told her they broke up and Jemy took the opportunity to use Enzo to get Kris jealous. Enzo was so ignorant about this truth and so decided to have a relationship with Jemy for she has blindly fallen inlove with Jemy. They had an often on and off relationship but still Anzo hanged on to Jemy believing she was loved. She was hurt when Jemy admitted to her she just used her. She was so lost after that and haven't moved on for more than a year. Enzo decided to court another girl just to understand why Jemy would do such a thing. So here comes Annie, her girlfriend. She knows she doesn't love Annie but she can't let go of her maybe because of pity and because she doesn't want to feel alone again. What shall she do? She keeps on asking me but i just don't know what to tell her. She can't let go of annie. She can't understand why she doesn't want to let go of Annie. She doesn't believe that she can love her.
11 Jul 08
Well... in that situation with Annie, if the relationship is already being maintained out of pity for someone, it would be best to divert the relationship at least towards friendship. Based from what happened to her and Jemy, it just carried over to Annie and then, like a Domino effect, Annie would feel the same way Enzo did. She was used. Almost nothing could be harder to accept and handle than playing with emotions like that. I really can't say since I don't know what Enzo is thinking right now. But maybe, just maybe, she does have feelings for Annie. She needs to open up to Annie, she may be too closed in on finding out what happened with her and Jemy. An intimate conversation so to speak and it has to be honest and real. There maybe something that would bind them together, they must have not encountered it yet. Maybe if they could open up more and give it a chance.
11 Jul 08
It's a good start that at least Annie already knows about Jemy. It's not that easy to learn how to love. You could tell Enzo, to concentrate on being more of a friend to Annie. Not sure how long they've been together but that would be a great start. Let Enzo prioritize being a friend while maintaining the relationship. That would give them a chance.