Just Curious..

United States
July 11, 2008 10:13pm CST
So, I was just responding to several posts, one I found and it was actually 3 months old! LOL Anyway, so I just got super passionate with my response, a bit defensive, but I feel I came off in the nicest way I could. My question is this, have you ever found a discussion, or several discussions about something that you were so passionate about and it's almost as if the thoughts and feelings were just running out onto the keys? And if you remember specifics feel free to share them as well. :) If you like you don't have to read the rest, it's just a bit of my own take and what inspired this discussion question! That is how I feel right now. I had been feeling a lack of motivation, but today I got some and ran with it. And just in time I ran into a post that made me happy to reply to, and then I saw a post under "similar" disussions that made my blood boil just to see the headline. So I proceeded to respond. LOL The thing is, I am 100% in support of sharing different views and opinions, but this person had no tact whatsoever, and at very best their post was rude, maybe even offensive! It didn't break any rules, so I wouldn't report it because it bother me, actually, I didn't even rate this person at all, and that is rare for me to not rate someone, I rate everyone, even when I don't agree! I admit, I am super sensitive, but it's just a common courtesy thing to state your opinion in a way that doesn't sound completely rude! OMGosh. I kinda got the feeling that this person posted this opinion just to get a lot of replies, because it wasn't really a question, like yes, this is part vent what I'm writing, but I actually have a question above, that I am interested in hearing your opinions to! This person had maybe 3 or 4 lines of strictly spouting out rudely what they thought about certain styles that some guys wear. And I know that is something that everyone has an opinion on, but my geez, there is a nicer way to ask people what they think about it and telling them your opinion than calling people "sissies", that is just childish and close-minded. I purposely am leaving out specifics because I don't want to call attention to the actual post, I just want educated discussion on what people think of rude judgey people.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Hehe...You peaked my curiosity so I went to your profile to see which discussions you were talking about..I replied to both of them too and as far as the one I was "diplomatic" in my response as well. (Hey I grew up in the woodstock generation...LOL) There are times that I do come across some discussions that make me boil too....if I know I'm going to get too hot and bothered about it I move on...kind of hard though when some yo-yo makes a reply in your one's own discussion that makes you see red. But no, I don't think anyone should make judgments on how a person dresses...is it hurting them, the one that is criticizing? NOPE. So like what's the problem. I know for a fact that I don't dress in the "norm" either. I grew up during the woodstock years...bell bottoms, men with long hair (and yes earrings), nehru jackets...well I might not dress quite like that now, but I do have my own "style" that might be considered eccentric...LOL. I wear a lot of Native American jewelry...a lot I've made myself and am part Native..my black baseball cap I wear has a lot of extensive beadwork that I did on it...so maybe I would fit in on a reservation but here in Queens NY? Nope..LOL But like heck, do I care?? I dress for me! One time I was in the supermarket. And the checkout gal was kind of eying me over and asks, "What job are you in?" And I said, photographer, she says oh, that explains it...very artistic looking....LOL
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• United States
12 Jul 08
LOL oh good, I'm glad you did your own investigation. hehe I really didn't want to call anyone out, but I certainly knew that it could be found on my profile if a person wanted to see what I was talking about. LOL yea.. my dad I think was around 18 in '69, but I'm not sure.. I do know that he was in vietnam though, so sounds like the right period. LOL So he pretty much has the same view about hair and stuff. He isn't so much for men having earrings, but he doesn't rag on anyone for it, actually I know before he just said it was weird to see older men, like his age with earrings. LOL But then again, he never had that, he had the long hair, and does again--as I said in one of my posts on this topic. Exactly! It hurts nobody to have someone dress a certain way or wear hair in a certain style. LOL except maybe for me, the worst that could happen if I saw a long-haired guy is I might run into the wall or slip in a puddle of my own drool. LOL Ok, that's a total exaggeration, but I'm in a weird mood right now. I think that is GREAT that you have your own style, I do too, well, these days I mostly wear sweats and no make-up, but when I'm really trying I am definitely a mixture of gothic/emo/punk style.. basically a blending of what I started doing in high school and bringing in newer styles I have picked up over the years. LOL But yea, most the time I am in sweats, so I'm kinda just "style-less". haha And that's so cool that you wear Native American jewelry, and even cooler that you made some of it! LOL that's funny, people are so funny when it comes to appearances and dress, when most of them seem to choose the boring look, and dress like everyone else, in plain clothes. I know that if I had the choice between having unlimited clothes in my style and dressing like everyone else, well, I'd choose my own style! LOL Oh cool, I have a friend in an online game I play who is from Queens! LOL Just a random comment, that is so cool, I don't run into a lot of people from there.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I was about 13 in 1969....so yup of that Woodstock generation. Hehee...I tend to still drool over guys with long hair...and beards too...LOL I LOVE the way the actor Viggo Mortensen appears in Lord of the Rings as Aragon...I kid people saying he's my future husband....now to tell him that..heehee Isn't it weird though that people gripe and complain that they are reduced to a number, that they are just one in a million and blend in with the crowd, but gee, heaven help the person that they come across that is "different" then they ridicule them--just why is that? To be honest, I've been the different drummer type all my life and never really fitted in, but do I want to be and look like everyone else...nope wonder if I know that person from Queens...LOL
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• United States
17 Jul 08
LOL oh yea.. I've also been "different" for as long as I can remember. But I think I really started going extreme in about 8th grade, this guy I liked was into Marilyn Manson, and I got into his music too.. so that kinda changed me from a country/pop kiddie to a hardcore rocker for several years, then when I was 17 I heard this new band and they opened me up to a new kind of music, pop-punk/powerpop, whatever you wanna call it.. LOL since then, all my tastes have merged together and I pretty much like everything in the rock/pop/alt/punk/emo area. I also like some older music, like beach boys and stuff, but I definitely relate more to newer music, just because the songs help me through a lot of bad days, even though now, a lot of that music is more popular with teenagers, but the thing is--these trends were starting when I was still a teenager, it's just I was called a freak and stuff for liking it all, and now it's the "cool" stuff. LOL I'm always like, umm.. I need to be in high school now, I'd be the coolest, I've been on the pop-punk bandwagon since before there was a wagon! It's just so funny how it works out! Really is! oh, and I agree, people complain about not being seen, then they complain when people are different.. it's like if you want to be noticed, then you gotta stand out! LOL it's funny, because at this one concert about 6 years ago, the band members were walking around and I saw this girl kiss the lead singer on the cheek and I was like OMG.. I wish I was brave enough to ask to do that! LOL But anyway, I met him, got a picture with him.. then I was telling my friend I was with about the girl I saw and how I wish I had that nerve.. well, later on she called me over and she had ASKED him if I could kiss him on the cheek! I was like "OMG" LOL And of course I did it, and it was AMAZING! LOL He was the first, and last guy I ever kissed! haha anyway, so about a few month later we went and saw the same band in a different city, and well.. he said to me "I remember you".. (LOL) and it was SOO.. funny, later that night my friend was all like "he's a jerk!" And to this day I'm like, oh, he's a jerk because he remembered ME and not her? LOL See, she was the type that got around with a lot of guys, and I'm the girl who's never even had a boyfriend. I don't get that attention often, so that was so cool when he remembered me, and cooler that SHE was jealous! haha :D Anyway, my dad said it's probably because I'm not like her, she kinda just blends in, and I had piercings and different hair everytime I went! LOL Also, basically he said that these guys know who their true fans are.. and obviously I AM one! LOL although, my dad is missing a piece of the story.. the kiss. LOL I had told my friend if she told my mom that I'd kick her butt! haha although, in reality, I couldn't have, I'm bigger than her, but she's like almost a foot taller than me, and I am not a fighter.. anyway, she didn't tell that secret. LOL Anyway.. that's just my little story about standing out from the crowd! It CAN be VERY rewarding. LOL Oh yea.. that kiss, I was tasting it for like at least a day! hahaha that was strange, but so cool!
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• United States
12 Jul 08
i hate things like that.. and the whole typing with emotions type thing led me to the post on "do you think before you type" haha.. i used to get into a tizzy and would type responses to the ones that really made me mad and well its not worth it sometimes.. i havent had anything good to post about today and its really irritating me lol
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• United States
12 Jul 08
LOL yea.. Sometimes I think we just need to release on someone. haha Luckily I chose an older post, and I tried to be as *nice* as possible. I was sarcastic at places, but sincere with my feelings. I see it this way, I wrote nothing against mylots rules, so I'm ok. And if my rating were to go down because of it I really didn't care at the time. LOL Actually, I just noticed today that my rating is back up to 9, and it went from 84 to 86 since last night, so my response definitely didnt hurt me. LOL I definitely think I'm starting to get more comfortable with stating my mind on here now, I'm still cautious, but I'm getting more able to write my feelings.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
im glad it didnt hurt your rating!! and i think with time you get a better feel about posting and replying on here
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