Long distance relationships....

Canada
July 12, 2008 7:37pm CST
If you were in a long distance relationship and your S/O was coming to visit for the weekend and then something came up and they couldn't make it. how would you feel? Would you be oh well whatever there is next time? or would you feel disappointed? I myself am going through this right now and I am so disappointed, it freakin sux lol I was really looking forward to him comind down here but hey I guess I will have to wait the 2 weeks til he can come again even if I dont wanna LOL
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12 responses
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
13 Jul 08
Hi. You have rightly said - it sucks. The most freaking thing in a log distance relationship is a long waiting period that can at any time get bigger and bigger and still you can't complain a single bit. I do make a lot of calls in those situations.
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• Canada
13 Jul 08
I completely agree with you on this one. We don't normally go more that 10 hours without talking to eachother. I think the reason I felt so disappointed is because we are only 2 hours away from eachother. We spend alot of time on the computer talking to eachother and on the phone so it make it a little more bearable but I still hate it.
• United States
13 Jul 08
I would definitely feel disappointed. Right now, I am down for the summer so I am with my boyfriend, but once I head back up to school, we will be doing the long distance thing again. It sucks, but we just have to find ways to make it work. Since he can't come up, you guys can do cheesy cute things over the phone like have movie dates. My boyfriend and I used to do that lol..I know it sounds weird. But its the little things like that which make it a little more bearable. Instead of focusing on the negative, try to focus on how to turn it into a positive. Its much easier said than done but it can work.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Hey that is a cute idea LOL I would never have thought about doing anything like that I may have to suggest that to him and see if he goes for it LOL
• United States
13 Jul 08
lol I hope it works out. =)
@rbailey83 (1401)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
i would be dissapointed but i wouldn't get myself too worked up over it as it wouldn't do anything good to get worked up. I would be sad, but i would also realize that, as long as nothing happens, i would still get to see them next time
• Canada
13 Jul 08
yea I totally agree. We are actually working on it as I am typing this LOL
@rbailey83 (1401)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
lol, well that is the key, instead of sitting there, dwelling on the problem, as it will only make you feel worse, you work on the solution, never know what you might be able to figure out
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hello StrawberryKisses, I will feel the same way...But, if the reason is very valid, I will just take it and accept but I know deep inside, I will be very sad...It's hard to wait for the day and we are excited about it and turns out to be nothing...But, that is life, as long as the communication is constant, well, you can set for another time!
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Yes I agree and that is exactly what we plan to do. Hopefully in the next couple of weeks he will come to visit or I will go there. Thank you for your response
13 Jul 08
Hello Strawberrykisses, I have a friend who has a long distance relationship with her boyfriend, she has problem as well, she rings me and get so excited and asking for my advice what to and all that then day the comes, he text her to say can't make it he is busy and she feels really let down. She have not seen him for months. Tamarafireheart.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Yes it can be very hard but if they are both commited to making it work they will make it work no matter how hard it gets.
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
distance relationship easily break... because cant see him... cant feel him... feel like he care u less, feel like he is not there. when there is any guy beside me who is good to be, then will forget how i love him before. that is why easily break.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
I do not agree with this at all. It will only be easily broken up if you let it be. If you and yoru parnter love eachother enough neither one of you will let anything come between you. if another man makes you forget the one you love then you did not love the one you thought you did.
• China
13 Jul 08
I used to fall in love with a girl in my hometown when I was in high school.She was a lively girl. Our relationship went on for a few months after I entered the university in another city. That stank when I was strolling alone in the campus without her.I thought she might feel the same thing. So I was not surprised to receive her "Shall we break up for a moment?" call. I think long distance relationship requires perseverance of both two people.If you cannot persist she/he won't be your Mrs/Mr Right.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Yes I agree if you and your partner are not commited to keeping your relationship together than it will not work.
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
I do not really experience long distance relationship before. My boy friend and me are from different state. After graduated, he went back to his hometown and tried to find job in singapore. While me, I had started my job in different state. That time, we had separated for few months time. May be that time we just started our relationship for only 1 year, not so stable, will thinking of each others, quite suffering. But after that he came and work same state with me. 3 years over, we are staying together now, but sometimes will have some quarrel like last time.No big different. I think if a couple are stable, attach to each other, the distance wouldn't be a problem. Having confident with each other in a relationship is very important.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Yes I agree, if you have a trusting relationship then it does help to keep you and your S/O together even through the long waiting times.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I think I would be disappointed at first but then if it ever happened to me again the next time, I would begin to question it. I would give them the benefit of the doubt the first time even though I had my hopes up. I hope it works out for the both of you next time.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
I am hoping so too and I agree I will question it if it becomes a regular occurance. Thanx for your reply
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
I will try to fix up the long distance problem by using all sorts of ways. Last time, my boyfriend and I also in long distance relationship, he was not able to visit me on every weekends, and he only managed to visit me in a few months time. I found it was hard for us to maintain such relationship. He had to work far away from me, it was impossible for us to meet up so frequent. We really felt so upset whenever we talked about this problem. But now the problem was solved. One party always need to sacrifice for the other party. My boyfriend quited the job and now he is staying with me. He has started his new life by getting a new job. Now we had solved the distance problem. We are so happy about that,winks..
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Yea we plan to work on that part of it as well. He would like to move out here because he would like to raise his kids in the country rather than in the big scary city
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
I am in a long distance relationship now, myself. My husband was supposed to come see me three times now and then changed his plans and didn't come. Now he says he is taking off two weeks in August, from work, and going to come see me then. I sure hope so because if he cancels this time I don't think I will let him come a next time, meaning there won't be a next time. I haven't seen him for three months and by the time he comes in August it will be over 4 months since I have seen him. He lives in Winnipeg and I live in Calgary so that is 1400 KM apart so I can see why things change and he can't make it. It is a 14 hour drive and not worth doing for just the weekend.
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Wow thats long time go without seeing your hubby. I would say the same thing if it happened to me. And in my opinion if he doesn't wanna drive 14 hours he should take the plane. It's probably about an hour ride. AND if he loves you like he says i think he would do what it took to see you. just my opinion tho. hugs and good luck
@alori61 (344)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I kind of like the long distance relationship because it helped me and my boyfriend to become best friends. Yes there is a physical attraction and spending time together is fantastic but if the relationship is going to work you have to be able to talk to each other as well. We live 2.5 hours from each other and there have been times when he would plan to come for a visit and things didn't work out sometimes I would go to him, other times we just waited till the following weekend. It's horrid to have to wait but it makes our together times mean so much more.