Would you give up your pet?

@winterose (39929)
Canada
July 12, 2008 11:28pm CST
Let's say you are living alone and you have dogs or cats, rabbits, whatever, but you have pets and you love them, however you are lonely and you want a significant other in your life. You finally meet the man or woman of your dreams, there is one snag though, the person would not marry you are live with as long as you keep your animals, would you give up your animal companions for a new love? why or why not,
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
13 Jul 08
That is a tough question and decision to make but I think I would rather have a soul mate in my life to spend my time with. I love pets but you cannot really have a conversation with them and they cannot help you pay the bills. I would love to be able to have someone to spend my time with who will sit and talk with me but I love pets also.
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• Ireland
13 Jul 08
I don't know really as this person obviously does not love EVERYTHING about you then... Not sure then if this would be the first of many things to would be asked to be removed....I would be cautious about just ditching my animals because someone says so.
• United States
13 Jul 08
trillianv, I agree with you completely, you have made a very intelligent observation.. Keep up the good work..
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
this is just a hypothetical question it has never happened to me personally.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
13 Jul 08
It all depends on how long this relationship has lasted and why they want me to get rid of my pets. My ex husband pulled that on me about me friends he triend to tell me I needed to stop talking to them. We got into a fight over that. I told him I have had these friend long before I met you. As a matter of fact the friend he wanted me to stop going around set us up.
13 Jul 08
Get rid of him. People that don't want pets around are a little scary. They have very little self-esteem.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
glad you put your foot down, personally I don't like ultimatums, and will generally refuse them on principal
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@pyewacket (44041)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I have had pets nearly all my life...since I was five years old...I could NEVER imagine NOT having a pet in my life. So this is a twist in your question here. While I wouldn't mind a significant other in my life I've never been that desperate if you get my meaning...as a girl I never fantasized about walking down the aisle to marry my "prince charming" (LOL)--instead I always fantasized about being a success in life and that would include pets in my life. I know relationships are often sacrifices and/or compromises, but if my s/o told me either him or my pets...I'd rather take my pets...I guess that's how strongly I feel about my furbabies.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
I am soo with you on this responsce! from the first line to the end! Me too! I love my dog and if you dont maybe figure out taking a pill if your allergic but theres no shot hes leaving! He comes with me, part of my package!
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
I don't like ultimatums period, and if a person says it is me or else, I will automatically take the or else
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@GavinKaos (281)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I guess it would depend on reason. My pets are my children! I wouldn't get rid of them just because...but if it was a medical thing....maybe.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
good point.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Now that is a big question, I would seriously have to think and think hard. For me it would be if they loved me enough they would except the dogs but if they had a allergy to them and I had to give them up, I would surely have a family or friend take them so I could visit them whenever I wanted. I wouldn't fully give it up, just wouldn't be at my home. Unless he leet me keep them outside. It would be the harest thing to do.Why? As much as we love our pets, we still need human contact and love.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
yes it would be hard, and you came up with some great alternatives.
@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Thanks for the best response winterose I really appreciate it. I do hope that you have a great day today and that you get alot done that needs done. I love my animals and my hubby doesn't but he deals with them because he loves me or he is afraid of my wrath if something happens to them..lol
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Dogs love you - picture of dog holding sign
Hi my friend, You sure started a good discussion!! I have to say "NO WAY!" Back when I was not married, I made sure the guy I was dating knew what kind of animal nut I was and the pets I had before we got into a serious relationship. Therefore, it would never get to the point of having to choose between my love and my love of my pets. They would know right off how important my pets are to me. My current hubby has been with me thru getting all my five current dogs, geckos, snake, chinchilla and fish. I had a dog when I met him and he knew I loved animals and would have a farm with room for a ton of them if I could. LOL Have a great night! Char :-)
@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
thanks char I know what you mean.
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@Jade13 (262)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
Ya, I totally agree with you! before I get serious with any guy. I made sure the guy loves animals as much as I do. My then boyfriend who is now my husband is the one who bought me my Pug. I love my pug soo much! She's so adorable. So my point here is, if you love me alot, you have to love what I have also, including my pets!
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@chertsy (3817)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I think if I had a pet for a long time, and if a man came along that didn't like my pet. I think that man, might as well, hit the road, because he's not the man I would want to marry. If a person doesn't like animals are weird in my book. I grew up with animals from dogs, cats, rabbits, to other interesting farm animals. I wouldn't fall in love with a person, unless they loved my pets as well.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
yes same here, I don't think I could fall in love with a man that didn't like animals either.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
ugh that would be a hard one!! i think i would either agree to a compromise of some sort or ditch him
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
yea a compromise might work, depending on how stubborn the partner is.
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13 Jul 08
Anyone who gives up their pet(s) for someone doesn't need to be breathing the same air as I do. It's never been an issue with me because I've never dated anyone who didn't love animals. I would find another mate in a heartbeat if they came to me with that scenario. You wouldn't give up your kids for someone so why would you do that to a defenseless animal that has counted on you for however long you've had them?
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
13 Jul 08
heck no! pet was here first and they have no right to ask you to get rid of it.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
you are speaking for yourself right, because this question was just a hypothetical question and never really happened to me.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
14 Jul 08
yup talking for myself that would be the way it would happen
@ElicBxn (60427)
• United States
24 Aug 08
NO. Love me, love my cats.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
29 Aug 08
me either
@hezoid (2150)
27 Jul 08
I don't think i would let myself get to the point of being in love with a man if i hadn't first amde sure he can live with a cat or cats! Fortunatey i don't have to as my hubby to be loves my gorgeous little cat as much as i do (though how anyone could not fall in love with my cute fluffy kitty is beyond me, she's the sweetest thing ever!). We got her after we met, though he always knew i'd want a cat some day.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
28 Jul 08
that is great, unfortunately I have met people in my life who just don't like animals.
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
25 Jul 08
If they were allergic to them-- then of course- I would find good homes for the animals- as long as I knew this was the one ~ my destiny. If they just didn't like them- probably not. It's a package deal- me and the pets. I can't imagine someone that loves you and is head over heals for you- requesting you to give up your loving animals!
@winterose (39929)
• Canada
27 Jul 08
but it could be twisted around and them saying to you, you say you love me, and you know I hate animals, that is the only thing I ask of you to give up your pets but you value them over me, I agree with you though animal lovers will band together on that point, so it is best we marry another animal lover.
@applefreak (3133)
• Singapore
22 Jul 08
i have three cats now living with me. i love them as much as i would my own children. i am thankful that my partner loves them almost as much. giving your scenario a thought, it would never happen to me. i am a big animal love and my man must be one too. so if he won't marry me because of my pets, he is not my dream man. there is no way i will give up my cats for anyone or anything. i just love them too much. cheers ;p
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
27 Jul 08
spoken like a true pet lover, could we have it any other way, I think not!
@amigula (120)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
nop ways i will definatley not give up my pets they are my life i cant live without them
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
I completely understand.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
I would not get rid of my pets, but would instead look for a new mate. Because i can't be sure that this new love will last, and if i'd get rid of my pets, i'd be so sad and heartbroken, and deep down, mad at this person that made me get rid of them...
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
yes it is true you might do it but resent it so much you end up divorced anyway.
@Spider64 (26)
• United States
16 Jul 08
i would never give away my pets cause i love my pets
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
me too!
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
In this case, that new lover is selfish. When you have something you really cherish wether it's a pet, a daughter, or an object significant to you, that person should make an effort to understand you and try to live with it. I think it is something the lover should understand. As for myself, I would not be with him or her. It would be as if my bf would tell me to never talk to my best friend or just forbid me to keep in touch with someone i love.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
yes this is a major difference in personality and something has led many a couple to divorce court as well.
• United States
15 Jul 08
Great question. Im not sure if I could. I guess it would greatly depend. But I honestly dont think I would give my pet up. I am an animal lover, and I do believe that my significant other would need to be accepting of the pet. If I were to get married and am in love with this person, I would expect that we would both be respectful of both our needs. This would include ownership of my pet. If my pet were of great importance to me, which it would be and is, I would expect and hope that my husband would respect that I needed that pet to be apart of my life.
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@winterose (39929)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
agreed, I feel the same way.