When your child stumbles or falls...

@aseretdd (13712)
Philippines
July 13, 2008 1:52am CST
What do you usually do?... Do you immediately help your child up... and comfort him/her when she cries?... Or do you tell him/her to stand up?... I will tell you what i do when i comment to your respond...
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@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I have no kids, but based on my friend's experiences! A lot will ask the kid to stand by itself and the mom will offer a hug, this is when the kid is not hurt seriously...But, when it is very serious and too hard, the mother will be running to fast to hug the kids and comfort... Oftentimes, when the mother tried to warn the child and didn't listen and fall, the mother will help and comfort but, my friend will always give a little spank! LOL!
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I haven't spanked my baby yet for stumbling despite my warnings... but i think spanking is adding more to the injury... so in my case i would comfort my child and explain to her the consequences of not listening to me... thanks for the response...
• United States
14 Jul 08
I agree...That's how my mom too, In my whole life, I just remember she pinched me once and a lot of my silliness and naughtiness, she was able to handle it without hurting me physically!
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• United States
16 Jul 09
I usually comfort and help her up....she is 9 years old now and I continue to console her every time she falls....her father just sits there and doesn't even respond most of the time, as if nothing happened....he says I am just encouraging her to keep falling....it really upsets me....
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Your husbad might be right in a way... there should also be a time when we tell our children to stand up on their own when they fall... that will teach them to be strong and independent in the future... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
• United States
16 Jul 08
I always comment, 'Ouch, are you okay?!?' But not with panic in my voice, just acknowledging that I saw the fall and I know it stung. The child will then usually come to me for comfort, a kiss and 'all better now' is all it takes usually. If the child is clearly hurt, I do rush over. I think how wee ones handle this depends on how the parents handle it. I do express concern, I just refrain from panic no matter what. It has worked well, my teens have never been panicky or crybabies, neither have the babies I babysit. Concern, yet calmness--bumps are part of life, they sting yep but you'll be fine. ~~
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
I agree... bumps are a part of life... and they tell us the more is coming as we grow... so i think you did the right thing in raising you kids and those who you babysit... life isn't always on the happy and close to perfect side... and our kids need to learn at a very early age how to cope up with the not so happy side of life... thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@lilybug (21183)
• United States
14 Jul 08
It depends. I usually give it a second to judge if it was a bad fall or not. If it is just a minor fall then I will let her get up on her own. If I make a big deal out of it then she thinks it is a big deal and cries, but if I don't make a big deal out of it she usually doesn't. If she immediately starts to cry about it then I know that she is really hurt and I will help her up and make sure she is ok.
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
That is a good judgement call on your part... i also do that all the time... i try not to make a lot of fuss when my baby falls... because it happens all the time... but when i see that it is something serious... then i immediately help her... and kiss the part where it hurts the most... thanks for the response...
@cathylmg (284)
• Singapore
14 Jul 08
I depends on the situations. I my children falls and the get hurt, I will rush to them immediately. But the fall doesn't ends in them getting hurt, then I will look the other way and pretend as it I didn't notice at all. One thing for this kind of situation, it is better not to over reaction or else the child might start to go into self pity and cry out loud. We certainly want them to learn to pick up themselve when they fight. Don't we?
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I definetely agree with you... we want our kids to know how to pick themselves up whenever they fall or stumble... they will carry that characteristic even when they are already adults... i always tell my child to stand up by herself when she falls... but when it is something serious... i always come to her aid... thanks for the response...
@ravinskye (8247)
• United States
13 Jul 08
it depends on whether they are seriously hurt or not. if they fall hard and hit their head i will get them right away. but if they just trip up alittle and fall i will let them go. it helps them to not always need someone to pick them up.
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I agree... it helps our child develop into independent adults when we don't always pick them up everytime they stumble or fall... that doesn't make us a bad parent... but parents who want what is best for our children... thanks for the response...
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
Hello aseretdd, I can't afford to see my child stumble or fall down due to his heavy weight. I always try to be very careful whenever I am with him. But if it does happen, I will try to help him up and comfort him by hugging him. But he has this antic act, he always show me what made him cries and asking me to hit that thing. Like when he falls down because of his toys, he wants me to hit his toys. So, tell me what will you do what it happens to your daughter?
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
When my baby has a simple fall... i always tell her to stand up by herself... which she would always do... and return to her playing... when she makes a simple cry... i still tell her to stand up and to come to me so that i can check if she has a cut or a bruise... But when it is something quite serious... which already happened twice... i immediately go to her and comfort her until she stops crying... i would always kiss the part where it hurts the most... Thanks for the response...
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I have a four year old son that has slips and falls like any other child. I use to be very protective with every trip and stumble. Now I think he realizes that he will be fine most of the time and he gets up on his own or encourage him to do so. Of course you need to know the difference between something traumatic or just a fall off of a swing. As a parent I am sure you have the good judgment to tell the difference.
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Knowing the difference between a bad fall and a not so bad one is like second nature to all mothers... but i see some who makes a fuss when their child stumbles... even if it is something not very serious... thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@Sillychick (3283)
• United States
13 Jul 08
If I can see that he's not hurt, like a soft stumble in the grass, I do nothing right away. He gets up on his own and looks at me, and I smile and say 'you're ok, brush it off.' He smiles and brushes himself off and says 'I ok.' If I think he may have bumped his head or a knee, I go to him and ask 'are you ok?' He either says 'I ok,' and goes on playing, or cries or whimpers and I comfort him. If I can see that he is hurt, I go to him right away and comfort him. I am trying to keep a balance between making him feel safe, letting him know I will take care of him when he is hurt, and teaching him to shake things off and not sweat the small stuff.
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
That is the best way of doing it... when my child stumbles... and i see that it is nothing serious... i tell her to stand up... but when it involves bruises or a cut in the knee... i tell her not to cry and i will take care of it... we always need to balance things when it comes to rearing our children... thanks for the response...