Parent's Rights to Put Daughter on Birth Control

United States
July 13, 2008 7:41pm CST
I have been trying to get a doctor to examine my daughter because I feel like she might be sexually active. I can't get a doctor to examine her. I want her to get the HP vaccination and possibly birth control but no one will touch her. Even though she is 13,they have told me that it is her body. Do you agree with that? Does she have to be pregnant for them to examine her?
2 people like this
5 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I can not say that I have never heard of that but I am also certain that I have not. It is very odd that you are not allowed to get a doctor to examine her but it may just be state you live or maybe even just the county. Do you live close to another state or county line? Could you inquire with the state if they allow you to get this done for your daughter? I assume your daughter detests it and is unruly towards wanting a vaccination or an examination. I hope that you get this cleared up. Have a Wonderfully Lovely Day.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Even Planned Parenthood told me that it is her choice. I have tried everything.
1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I am not sure then as I am not familiar with Planned Parenthood. I thought that it supported teens but that it was more of a familial oriented thing.
@Rzelikman (141)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I agree with you strongly. I think if children are still minors, parents should be the ones to make these decisions for them. I don't feel that a 13 year old is capable to decide on her own. I think even if she were pregnant they still would not examine her without her permission. Its really unbelievable these days what parents have to go through . Have you spoken to your daughter about it? If you haven't then maybe you should. See how she feels about it and maybe you can get her to go to the DR. GOod luck!
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Maybe you can talk to her and take her to the doctor and let her talk to the doctor with the understanding that what happens between her and the doctor goes no further. Maybe she does not want you to know.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Why not talk to your daughter about her behaviour? It doesn't sound like you're freaking out that she might be sexually active, so I'm assuming that you could have the talk without making her feel pressured and logically discuss having her checked out by a doctor. If you're in the US, I'd assume that you're going to the wrong doctors. At 13, a girl is still a child and you're required to be a health advocate for your daughter. I'm sure they won't examine her if she's kicking and screaming, but I'd assume that your daughter would be open to going through with protecting herself if you presented it in a rational, reasonable, but firm way. Why not call and schedule an appointment for her for an annual exam and birth control/HPV discussion? They're not allowed to reveal whether she's been sexually active to you, but they'll be able to discuss preventative measures and make sure she's okay behind closed doors. Talk to your daughter, first, though.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Thayes, Take her somewhere like Planned Parenthood. They will let you put her on birth control there. Has she started her period? If that is the case, that may be why they won't let her be put on birth control, whether she is sexually active or not. On the other hand, you can always use that her period is irregular and you want her on birth control to regulate it. I do not believe that at 13 any child has control over their own body. I have a 13 year old step daughter and a 14 year old step daughter...I was trying to convince their dad to get the older one on birth control so that her period will regulate. The youngest hasn't even started her period. I don't think that she needs to be pregnant for them to check...but they can check if she is sexually active and tell you that as well. And as I said before, even if she isn't sexually active then it may be because she hasn't started her period and if she has started...get her on birth control to "regulate" her period. Is this because your daughter doesn't want to get the vaccine or birth control? If she is the reason the doctor is saying this then you can talk to her yourself and point out the good things about birth control to her. It keeps your hair healthy and your skin clear. It regulates your period. It's a lot safer than being a teen parent (I know all about that). Just talk to your daughter and see if she can request it from the doctor since they are saying it's her body...maybe they'll give it to her then. Not only that but try places like Planned Parenthood and see if they can help you out. I hope this helps out a little bit. Thanks for the post :D