I'd Like To Try To Explain Myself

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
July 13, 2008 11:32pm CST
Although I'm sure you understand however, some of you may not. For the past three months it's been absolutely crazy here. I'll start discussions giving updates and such and at times it's gotten so nutty (in a good or bad way) that I haven't been able to respond back to you after you've responded to my discussion. I mean nothing by it. I try my darnest to answer everybody in a timely manner but since I've been in the middle of a crisis from hell, it's been darn hard to keep up. I want all of you to know that you mean something to me and I appreciate every response I get but please, take no offense if I don't get back to you for I'm in the middle of a bad situation in which may need my attention more. To those of you who don't know what had transpired, let me give you a run down. 1. My mother had a very bad stroke in which she almost died three times. She was in the hospital and rehab for about 8 weeks. She was home for three weeks and she fell, broke her rib, fractured her pelvis and she has a kidney disease in which one is essentially dead and the other is full of stones. She went back to the hospital and is now in rehab once again. 2. My husband's mother passed away in May. 3. My cat was hit by a car, he survived but is brain damaged. Vet bill is $617.55 4. My nephew just got married the end of April and he wife already left him. 5. My Dad had cancer surgery on his face and got very very sick afterwards which scared the hell out of me. Now that's just a few things that went on for there's more but that's enough to explain my situation so please understand that I don't mean to neglect anyone at any time. As for discussions my friends have made that I have yet to answer to, I will in time. I had 7 pages of them and now it's down to just 3 but still, it's a lot when I already have a lot going on. I will answer them when I can. Now to turn this into a question, have you ever been in a situation like this before where it seems to have a snow ball effect and you weren't able to catch up on here with mylot friends?
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 08
Sweetie if they are true Friends they will understand so do not worry to much about it your Discussions alone have shown what you are going through and as for responding to everyone well that is the last thing on your Mind all I want to know is how you are doing and your Discussions are telling me that I do not need you to respond to me straight away that can wait when things have calmed down Love and Hugs to you
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Sweet gabs, if there was a way to give hugs through a computer, you would be getting one right now!! Thank you so much for being so understanding and supportive!! You're the best!!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 08
Sweet you don't have to thank me that is what real Friends are like they stick by you, give you support, love and be with you all the time in Good and Bad times and believe me I will always be here for you Lots of Love and Big Hugs your Way
@roysville (496)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
talk about streaks of bad luck! but yes, things like these have happened to me, that's why i can relate. fortunately for you, you have money to spend. in my case, everything happened when i was jobless and flat broke. but these things shouldn't stop us, do they?
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Yeah, a streak of it too. Actually we don't have money, I don't work due to a few disabilities but I don't get ssi or anything of the sort because I haven't worked much in the past 10 years and don't have enough points to qualify. My husband just retired from the army after 27 years and doesn't get much of a retirement even with the disability with the VA but is trying to get ssdi. So the little bit we do have coming in is going to bills and we have just enough for food and gas but not enough to go back and forth like I need to to my parents to help out. I can't imagine being in your shoes though. That had to be pretty tough! Hope things are better with you now.
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
i sure hope so, as my wife is already over her battle with kidney problems now (she's already "resting"), so i just have to worry about the kids now. i'm still jobless 'tho, that's why i'm here in mylot (lol) i wish you well too. thanks!
@hopejordan (3566)
• Australia
14 Jul 08
hi there CatsandDogs things have happened to me but now i give it all to god now ihave hashmitoes diease depression my mum is in a nursing home my brother has a disablity and so do i learning disablity my brother lives in a home i am not complaing anymore i give it to god now and he will deal with it now i back slidded and now i need to get up not be negitive anymore and start living for god take care happy postings.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
May God Bless Your Heart!! Yes I agree, hand it over to God and He will see you through. Through Him we are saved!! I wish you all the best my friend!!
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• Australia
14 Jul 08
hi there i just had a call from one of the elders and i have not been to church for 5 months or more cause all these things happen to me but now i need to get right up and not to back to my old ways anymore take care and god bless you
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@GardenGerty (104225)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I often fall behind, because life just happens. I had missed out on some of these crises, because of work, etc. Thanks for putting all of the updates in, so I know what I have missed. I do not have time to say, "My goodness, friend A has not responded, I do not like them anymore." I had missed about the cat, and missed about your dad being ill. I hope that eventually things calm down. I had some years that went that way. Things are a little slower, crisis wise, but not completely resolved even yet.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Hi GardenGerty, thanks!! for being so understanding!! Not everybody is like you in your way of thinking and I just wanted to let you all know that I'm soooo not ignoring you but that I'm so overwelmed with it all but I haven't forgotten anybody. Thanks again from the top to bottom of my heart!!
@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Jul 08
Yes I have been in that situation of being unable to catch up with things here, but as we all know, it is family first and myLot second and that is why everyone understands if you cannot answer everyone. I certainly do and so do not worry about it. To be honest with you I dont feel you need to explain as I certainly do not expect you to answer me until you can. You have way too much going on!!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Thanks gemini_rose. I'm sure you know how much that means to me!! Having friends like you guys have been to me is worth more than gold! I pray that things get better from here on out but we'll see. Hope all is good with you and yours!!
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
14 Jul 08
You just work on taking care of yourself hon. And don't worry about us here. Your friends will always be here for you. As for getting behind here, that's par for the course with my life. I catch up once in a while, which startles the daylights out of me. But most of the time I'm so far behind that I can't see the other runners. LOL
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
LOL Thanks for the laugh Katlady!! I know just what you mean too!! Usually I have had to start over but the last time I was behind, I got caught up and it suprised the hell out of me and I was so happy!! I hope to again this time but we'll have to see. Thanks so much for understanding!!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Life happens - to all of us. I can easily post a list like this. 1. Became ill, lost job. 2. Due to illness also lost husband, house, and all retirement savings. 3. Declared permanently disabled and fought 3 years for disability benefits. 4. Due to loss of money trying to fight for benefits for three years and going broke in the process the above house was sold and I now live in a dump. 5. Lost first mother in law, then aunt, then grandmother, then father in law, then another aunt, and this last year mom - all to cancer. 6. All of this happened in about an 8 year time frame. yep, stuff happens. MyLot is the least of my worries, as I'm sure it is for you. Don't worry about it, its not really that important in the grand scheme of things. Your family comes first and everyone here knows that.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Wow TessWhite!! Wow!! I had to reread your response and I bow down to you!! How in the world did you keep a sane mind is beyond my way of thinking. I applaud you in the end for coming out of hell smelling like a rose.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
15 Jul 08
You are one incredible person!! I LOVE the way you think!! And for the life of me I can't understand why you carry an 8 star!! I wish I could give you mine because you so deserve it!! I'm going to see about getting it up where it SHOULD be!!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Well thanks. But honestly I don't care about the star at all. Matter of fact in another friends post tonight I told them I wish it would go away entirely. Its too much like a popularity contest to me. But you can do what you wish, I just don't pay much attention to ratings. And sorry to any friends who like stars that I forget to rate.
@mummymo (23707)
16 Jul 08
Erm excuse me missus - you don't have to explain yourself to anyone , I cannot believe you are still standing strong after everything you have been through in the last while AND you still find time to take an interest in and support your friends - you ARE a legend sweety! Love and hugs xxx
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
16 Jul 08
A legend? lol lol lol lol lol I'm nearing the end of my rope hon. I'm all broke out with lupus so that should tell you what kind of stress I'm under. I'm on nerve medications to help me calm down and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but I keep on going and going and going and going like the energizer battery bunny. I'm still waiting for the name of that popcorn you want!!
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@mummymo (23707)
17 Jul 08
You are a legend and that is why despite everything you keep getting on with it! I am so sorry sweety I have tried to find the name of that popcorn and I was going to tell you I couldn't but you are like a dog with a bone! lol It is called poppycock I think! Hugs xxx
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Yes CatsandDogs you certainly have been through the ringer lately, to put it mildly and forgive me for not getting to some of your other discussions...I've gotten way behind myself...I started a number of discussions and have been doing catch up on trying to reply to all the repliers...I'm STILL at it...one more day and I should be caught up..my one discussion had over a hundred responses alone (12 pages long!)...must be a mylot record of sorts..LOL well thankfully all my hair-raising catastrophes occurred some years ago and are behind me now, not to say my life is dull, but nothing compared what I WAS going through, and all that had taken place during my pre-MyLot days.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
17 Jul 08
Hi pye... sweetie, I know where your heart is so don't you worry about it one bit. You can answer only what you can and that's that. (It's ok, I know it's me, you're avoiding me!! LMAO!!) There's only 24 hours in a day and we need our sleep and we need to eat among many other things going on so don't worry about it!! I've got pages and pages of discussions too and some day I'll get caught up or I'll just have to give up and delete them and start over and do what I can and accept the fact that I can't do them all. It's all good!! It's all good!!
@Rzelikman (141)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think you have more things to worry about them "my lot" and responding to your friends. It seems when they say it "when it rains it pours" its TRUE. If I were you I would not worry about when you will respond to your friends here on my lot. I am sure they understand your situations and will be very forgiving. This year has been a leap year and it doesnt seem like its going very well for any of us. I wish you much of luck and I hope everything will get better for you on the quieter side. Try not to worry to much about mylot.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think people tend to be more forgiving once they've been given a reasonable explaination upon my return but I do agree though, real friends knowing what's going on will be more forgiving. I was gone for three days without a word on here and I barely had time or two to look in my email box but couldn't respond for too much was going on at once. Thanks for being so understanding!! I agree, mylot has to come second but it's a very close second because of having such wonderful and endearing friends!!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I have, with my disabled son, it is sometimes is hard. It really was, when I also was taking care of my Grandma, whom also had a stroke. I was the only one that she would do things for, so I spent alot of time with her and also tried to be with all my other family. It will get better, hang in there.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Hi Thoroughrob, I'm glad to have someone who can really relate! Not that I want someone to go through such things for it's so darned hard but we can really relate! Believe me, I'm hanging on... by a thin thread but hanging on nonetheless. I have some good news!! You're the first to know this before I start another discussion on it, I have a very high chance of being approved for hearing aids!! YES!!!!! AND the ones that I need and want too!! I should know in about a month but the guy was so confidant that he took molds of my ears!!!! I'm so excited and happy!! Now I have a question for you that may help once I get all the information from this lady that hubby has been trying to get a hold of by phone. Does your disabiled son wear depends under garments? And do you get ssi or ssi benefits for him? Let me know and as soon as I get all the information, I'll pass it on to you!!
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
17 Jul 08
There really is no need to explain why you sometimes can't find the time to respond to everyone. Your friends understand and don't expect you to always make a comment back. Its enough for us to know that you read our responses to you. You are at a point in your life with everything going on that you need people to listen to you vent, rant and rave. We're it honey, scream if you want, we won't even plug our ears, hehe.