How rude!
By jennifer611
@jennifer611 (2514)
United States
July 15, 2008 6:44pm CST
Tonight we decided to go out for dinner since it's so hot outside, I just didn't want to cook.
so we went out to a little chinese restaurant.
It was myself, my husband and the 3 kids.
there were these people sitting at the table to the side of us, an older couple with what may have been there adult daughter and another girl with them who had a son.
the whole time these 2 ladies just kept staring at my husband.
sometimes I can just feel eyes looking our way and thats how it felt, sure enough I'd glance over and eyes were definitely on him!
I am just thinking how rude that is, you see a man with his pregnant wife and their 3 kids sitting to have dinner and you have to stare at him? obviously he isn't single!
he gets up to go get a plate of food (it was a chinese buffet) and when he was on his way back I looked to see what their looking at and yep, still him.
I just find this absolutely rude.
I guess my mother raised me better then this or something, I don't know..
but I would never sit there checking out a married guy who has a family sitting with him enjoying dinner..get your own man! lol
anyone else find this rude?
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30 responses
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Well upon first noticing I would say man I must have a good looking husband. If they kept on I would say something to my husband. Then if they just kept on I guess I am ugly I would have asked if they had a problem or would like to take a picture or stare right back. I do find it rude and very very disrespectful to you.
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
15 Jul 08
lol.
usually that's my attitude if I feel like someone is staring a little too much. but I guess I am trying to keep from being in a bad and crappy mood today.
I didn't really want to let it get to me, but I just find it rude.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
16 Jul 08
That was very rude and tactless. Even after I am sure they realized that you knew they were looking at your husband, they should have had the decency to stop the staring. Your mother really did raise you right, because you handled it very maturely, without making a scene.
good for you, you must really have a great looking man.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Jul 08
not really rude i guess.. but you must be proud of your man..hes hot
even if taken..kidding ...well i guess women now really dont care on the status of the male they want..and as wife we must always be cautious and observant to our partner who knows? but i guess your man is a good guy..
even if taken..kidding ...well i guess women now really dont care on the status of the male they want..and as wife we must always be cautious and observant to our partner who knows? but i guess your man is a good guy..
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
15 Jul 08
This really was rude. Be flattered, though, about your good taste. After all, he wasn't doing the looking! Even if he had been, he's definitely with you and his kids, where he ought to be.
Let 'em drool!
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
16 Jul 08
LOL.
I'm flattered people think he is good looking, but hate that we are out to dinner and people want to stare.
he definitely didn't give them the time of day, and as I stated in one of my responses, he did look over at their table one time to say "YUCK!" which to me was priceless.
@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
I agree, it is rude. However, guys do it all the time (there's even a commercial on American TV for T-mobile that shows the same thing).
In a warped way, you should almost be proud that he's yours and somebody else is admiring him.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
Walker!!!
If someone ever looked at you that way and you didn't flash your wedding ring at them, I'd make you get "I'm Married To Leah" tattooed on your forehead!!!!
I think the biggest compliment in the world is when the person notices the person staring and tells them how HAPPILY UNAVAILABLE they are.
Remember when I saw a certain gorgeous guy at the cafe here in Guelph? The first thing I did was let him know I was married, and flash my diamond ring at him! ;)
@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
I'm going to see if YouTube has the newest T-mobile commercial online yet. It's about exactly this same thing!
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Is not just rude but completely out of any decency. I do not have your patience I would say Can I help you in something? You are too nice. Some woman cannot find a man that is the problem. They are jealous and stupid! Very low self steem and very sad women, no men in earth want them. So, of course I share with you the same feelings. Question: What did your husband do?
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I said something to my husband and he just got a dirty look on his face and looked over at their table and said "YUCK!" which I found pretty funny. they still didn't stop looking though.......
usually I have no patience so I don't know how I found any today, lol.
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Are you sure they were staring at your family because of your husband, or could there have been something else they were reacting to? Were you visibly upset when they looked at him? I've had people do things to specifically aggravate me when I happened to be looking their way for a second and they thought I was staring at them or watching them. Maybe these women saw you keeping an eye on them and were just being jerks. Either that or you've got an extremely handsome husband and those women were very low class. I notice good looking men and I will look at them a little, even if they're married, but I try not to stare even if it he's really hot.
@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
16 Jul 08
no, it was obvious they were checking him out..
from the time we walked in til the time the people left.
I think it's rude, honestly.
if someones with their family I don't think it's right to just sit and stare, he obviously isn't single.
Thanks for responding :)
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
Definitely rude!!! If anyone did that to my husband, I'd scratch her eyes out!!
@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
17 Jul 08
Agreed, but she obviously has a husband who attracts attention. A definite mixed blessing.
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
It is a little rude but on the other hand isn't it nice that others are jealous of what you have? I kind of like it when women check out my guy. I also point it out to him so he gets a bit of a boost. Of course if they gave him a phone number or something I'd have to take care of them!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 08
jennifer I would have to say yes it is very rude. but I am wondering if one of the people at that table thought that
they knew your husband. I had something similar happen to '
me while I was eating in my favorite restaurant. these two
women kept staring at me, and finallu I stared back and realized they were staunch patrons of the librarywhere I worked.
finally this one lady got up and came over and spoke to me.
she apologized for staring and asked dont I know you from some
place,your faceis so f amiliar." I said, you go to our librarya lot and yes you see me shelving books as I have worked there'
for a long time now. I told her my name, and she introduced
herself. and they quit staring. but if the woman who stared at your husband thought she knew him why did not she come over and speak to him. to stare like that is simp;ly very rude.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Staring is always rude whether a person is alone or with someone. Are you sure they weren't trying to figure out if they knew him? Or was he doing something he shouldn't - like wearing a hat in the restaurant? Or were they trying to get the attention of someone on the wait staff and looking beyond him?
@pukaprat2 (442)
• United States
16 Jul 08
you need to calm down. you dont know what they are thinking. and you should be flattered that other women find your husband candy eye. since it is you who have him- unless he is unfaithful to you in the past and in that case it would seem justified for you to feel that way.
but all in all, you dont know what they were thinking. and maybe they thought he looked familar, i have done that before and stared at someone. then when they got enough balls to ask me what i was doing i told them that he looked familar and if he had lived in hawaii or california. --- to my surprize, i did know him. he went to my high school. and it was a nice share. after i told her who i was everything was fine. we shook hands and that was that. i still talk to him every now and again and his wife doesnt mind.
now i know that you are pregnat and there is a diffant feeling that explodes sometimes. just take it with a grain of salt and get over it.
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@amrishkj (297)
• India
17 Jul 08
LMAO what a situation to go through lady. I mean you would have been terribly jealous of the other two at that point of time. I should say that your husband is pretty good looking for both of them to stare at him. Now I do agree that is it was rude of them to have kept on looking at your husband. If I were in your shoes I would have whistled at them to get their attention and would have asked what they wanted...And I would have liked to see the look on their face. Cmon standup to yourself and fight after all you only have one husband
...LMAO and you dont want to lose him.
@TannerSite (698)
• United States
16 Jul 08
What an interesting night out. I'm in a similar boat with my girlfriend, who is stunningly beautiful. It's hard not to be offended when guys always hit on her (IN FRONT OF ME!) and constantly stare at her, but I try my best to ignore them and instead take it as a compliment. When I do that my girlfriend sees that I am confident in our relationship and it just makes us a stronger team.
It is - without a doubt - still rude though. Some people just don't have proper manners.
@kingcrapper (1536)
• United States
16 Jul 08
How do you know they were staring at him a lust kind of way? You were there, I sure you could tell! I think is it pretty rude for them to do something like that. Being a guy I know when to check a girl out and when it just isn't the right thing to do. I hear what you are saying about bieng raised right. I wish more parents would raise their children right and stop being their 'friend'. Kids don't need friends...they need parents!
@monishavakil (1019)
• India
16 Jul 08
Dear, I completely agree with you, however it is def the up bringing that matters the most.I think it is very cheap of them to stare specially seing that he is with his family. Its not done.
I have also noticed men at times who are out with a women and would still be looking at others.
I agree with you.
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
if you weren't pregnant you should have poked their eyes out that's my suggestion. Off course who wouldn't get angry but then you know it's a free country anyone or anybody has the right to stare at anyone. Some people are just born to be b!tchEs so next time if you happen to see someone staring at your husband... make a move like kiss your husband then don't be afraid to look straight at their eyes too. then when you go out wear something sexy so as to show them how pretty you are than them and also be sweet to your husband.. let them be jealous.
@starchild2230 (71)
•
16 Jul 08
Of course it is rude, especially as your kids were there. Try and take it as a compliment.
People are rude in general, but i think it is not meant most of the time. They simply do not engage their brain.
@kraschka (17)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I find that rude too,but also very complimentary because he's your husband. The ladies must have been envious of you. I think now a days people seem to be more rude than when I was younger. I wouldn't dream of staring at another woman's husband. You should just look right at them and smile because you are the lucky one.
