Would you go or go for a fight?

@misty99 (736)
July 16, 2008 6:40am CST
Hello fellow mylotters.............i needed help from you guys.My husband passed the board exam and they're going to have an oath taking this coming Friday.We agreed that i will be going to witness it.All is set and ready even the dress i am going to wear.But there's this last minute glitch.....i started having minor migraine attack before going to bed last night-still have it until this moment but it's tolerable.So the scheduled activity will push through.....of all the time and days in the world why no?Aunt Rose just visited me!I feel lazy and awful and don't feel like wearing a dress.Now i am having second thoughts.Either i will not go or go with him wearing whatever is comfortable for me-might be jeans or slacks and blouse. If you are in my shoes what would you do?I am in dire need of your advice so as to avoid any arguments with the guy.Your thoughts and ideas are very much appreciated.Thanks!
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@baileycows (3669)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I think i would suck it up and dress up. I mean this is a big event.
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@misty99 (736)
17 Jul 08
I was thinking about that......this is very important event in his life.....still have the whole day to think and talk with him.Thanks for the response!
@ratyz5 (7830)
• Philippines
17 Jul 08
If I were in your shoes, I'd just tell my partner of what I am dealing with. If my partner's concern outweighs the importance of the event, my partner might even insist that I stay and take some rest. Of course, my partner as well as I would be disappointed so, even with something like that, if I can still manage, I'd still insist on coming but, afterwards, head straight home to take that rest before it gets anything worse. Least my partner would know that the I would also like to be there during an event that is very important.
@misty99 (736)
20 Jul 08
I'm sorry for the late response.This what happened that Friday......i woke up with a heavy head and a painful migraine.My husband did all the house work,bought food for lunch,took care of he.....hoping i'd get better fast.God is good enough,after breakfast and taken my medicine.By one in the afternoon i was up but still dizzy and a bit weak.Took a bath and dress up,and every thing turn out well.Thanks for your time!
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@ratyz5 (7830)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I'm glad that everything went well for the both of you
@misty99 (736)
20 Jul 08
Yep...thanks again for the concern friend...
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 08
Hi Misty, sometimes we just have to do things we don't like. It's a big event for him, so he'd be disappointed if you're not there. And getting dressed up may change your mood. I've got myself into the same situation as you before. I promised to accompany him for a dinner..on the day itself, I felt lazy, depressed, moody...I guess if I were to tell him about not going, he'd say it's okay, but he'd be disappointed. So I forced myself to dress up, put on all the 'party colours' - well, it got better as the evening progressed. So give it a try...it may turn out to be fun!
@misty99 (736)
20 Jul 08
Hi lazeebee....thanks for sharing.I made it there though the migraine still made its attack few hours before the event.It's true it turn out to be fun.Later today we'll be having dinner with the representatives from the Philippines-those who officiated the oath taking. Just feeling naughty.....it's good to have those situations sometimes.I get pampered and taken cared of.Maybe i need some more migraine attacks
@kingcrapper (1538)
• United States
16 Jul 08
As a husband/wife we commonly do things for our spouses that we choose not to. Here's what I am thinking: have you tried to communicate what the situation is with your husband? I think that is the most crucial thing that people lack: the idea of communication. Listen, here is the situation, here I how I feel about it, here is what I would like you do, do you have any problems with that? Share your imput with me and let's think what is best. If it were me, the idea of having an attractive women on my arm wearing a nice dress would really make me feel like a million bucks but I would listen to her and sympathize, to the best of my ability.
@misty99 (736)
17 Jul 08
We've talked about it last night,he said let's see we still have one whole day to ponder on this issue.He still hoping i would change my mind on the dress.....i'll think about that as well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
16 Jul 08
This sounds like an important event in your husband's life and if your migraine is "tolerable" you should go. Forget the dress and wear some dressy jeans so you are more comfortable. Sometimes we do things we don't feel like for people we love because we know how important our support is to them. If you get into a fight with him over this it will just make your migraine worse again anyway, so you may as well go!
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@misty99 (736)
17 Jul 08
Precisely jillbeth......it's what i call sacrifice.Sacrifice the migraine attack (lo and behold- it's gone,thanks to the wonders of medicine).Sacrifice the laziness and awful feeling for the sake of .....the important of event...............................LOVE! Thanks for posting,thanks for the advice.