What was he thinking...?
July 16, 2008 11:53am CST
My boyfriend had a problem with me talking friendly to my ex-husband and insisted that I stop. Recently while planning my birthday weekend, he asked if it would be okay if his 13 year daughter and her mother stay at his home while we're away because the mother lives in Chicago and will be in town. I was furious and asked if he thought it'd be okay if my 12 year old daughter and my ex-husband (whose not her father) stayed at my home over that weekend while he babysat her. He's not scheduled to watch her but I was just making a point. I'm trying not to get too upset but I went off and he said that he cancelled any future stays for her and the daughter. He claims that in the past if she was in town and he wasn't going to be home, she would stay at the house with the daughter. Is there anyone who agrees with him?
16 Jul 08
It seems that he is starting to control who you are. But maybe it is due to jealousy. You should talk about him about your current situation and talk about this situation in a warm way. If problems like this are not talked out properly it may result into bigger misunderstandings. ~Scaflone~
16 Jul 08
Hi ljforte. I think that both have the same rights. If your boyfriend doesn't let you talk with your ex why you will let his ex stay at his home? If you begin to do all he want you to do and allow he to does what he want in a short time you will see that you don't have rights more. It means that your relationship will be a prison for you. Don't do that. If he doesn't feel well with you talking with your ex you have the same right to feel bad about his ex stay at his home. Show him that every time he claim something from you it gives you the same right. If he said that before his ex could be at his home say that before you could talk with your ex too. Claim your rights at the very first moment. You will see if he is the right man for you, wanting that you do what he want and doesn't doing what you want. Live together is a fight sometimes. Good luck my dear.