Have you ever had your heart broken by your own child?
July 17, 2008 12:09pm CST
hello my son is 17 he just moved out in the beginning of this year to live with his father, His father never met him til he was four and never paid child support never asked him to and never had weekend visits told me he didn't want to be tied down with children.. k the last time his father saw him was 4 years ago to drop him off from school. so there is no relationship. My son always been in my care and custody and one day he started acting funny one minute he was the nicest person in the house the next minute he threatening to kill everybody, so I took him to counseling and she couldn't talk to him (he is so stubburn) so my husband told me to take him to the doctor to get a urine sample so I did and we found meth in the sample I confronted him and he hit the kitchen wall called me every name in the book and told me he hated me and wished I died. I took him to Job corp to get away from his crowd and that didnt work out he got kicked out for violence. He said he wanted to live with his father because he wasnt happy with me so I let him because he had my other sons selling and pedaling for him so to think of all the other 8 kids here I let him go. Here it is July and he still doesnt talk to me and he saids he hates me, im so heart broken because I have always been there and loved him and now he hates me How can a child that you cared for his entire life hate you so much? I feel i failed not as a caregiver but as a mother,
• United States
21 Jul 08
Did you miss the part where I said 'maybe' and what advise did you except me to give? I don't see you handing out golden nuggets of advice. I would have suggested that she try and figure out why he hates her and work on it but in order for that to happen he would have to be talking to her. I was just asking for more information. A lot of people that are estranged from their parents usually have a good reason to be so.
• United States
22 Jul 08
Did it ever occur to you that I have a legit reason for being angry? Or that your son does? Do you always right people off as needing help if they are angry about something? Despite how they handle their anger or what they are angry about? Is this how you talk to your son when he tries to tell you why he hates you? 'Cuz it's a pretty flippant response to a legit emotion.