i miss my friend
July 17, 2008 3:33pm CST
i have a friend that i have had for 23 yrs, she was the bestest of friends.. but over the past year when i got ill and nearly died she has pulled right away from me. i dont understand why!!! we have'nt had a fallen out or any harsh words as friends some times do..i dont push but i have asked if all is ok and if i have done anything to hurt her, but she has said no in no way have i.. i know why i was in my coma last year she was devastated and was with me most of the time, she talked to me why i was in my coma and didnt leave my side just like my hubby.. im just so broken hearted as to why she is pulling away from me, i miss her happy face and my hubby tells me she is fine and that when i was ill she thought how will she ever cope with out me being here to give her a hard time with every thing from her men to her money spending, we just have that wonderful friendship.. i am asking, if anyone has had this happen to them if not the same as my situation but have a friend that i know loves me but is like scared to get too close to me again ...thats what i feel at the moment as i have no other idea as to why she is being like this.. i hope some one can fill in that blank spot as to why .... HUGS
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18 Jul 08
You are such an awesome friend, this person really is missing out, in fact when you let me catch up to you, well, you will be even more in my heart. When i seperated many of my friends took sides, as quite a few were her relatives we no longer spend time together. That is a little sad, but these thigs happen, guess its fate really.
18 Jul 08
in my opinion, there are many options as to why your friend is acting like such..nearly losing you, i think your friend wants to start afresh and starting to act cold, or don't want to hang out with you that often, in that way, she'll starting to live a life without that much contact with you, for a true friend, losing those who you really love/trust feels like slipping something in your hand the most precious thing in your life despite of not losing a grip from it, its very frustrating, and it really hurts.. another option would be, may be she's under a serious problem, and somewhat don't want to share it with you, fearing you might take it seriously too, and thinking your from a serious illness and she nearly lost you, she's sparing you for the most important part of a friend, to be there, even just to see you, just to hear you lagh, just to hear your jokes and stories, it mean a lot to her.. if she's really your friend, a true friend like what you've said, don't be bothered on what she's acting right now.. and it takes time if she really don't want to talk about it, just be patient, and be open.. you might got a hint on what's happening to her by observing her actions more, observe what triggers her worries today, or any sudden emotional shifting, which you think might be the effect of her problem to her..maybe its time that you should do your friend a favor..just always be there for her, and may be wait for her to talk, don't keep asking her about it..
18 Jul 08
thank you for that reply it sure gives me something to think about, cause i have been asking what is wrong i was just more worried about her.. i guess the best thing is just leave her be, when she is ready she will come around time will tell... hugssss
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17 Jul 08
It could be that she has that fear in her, that something might try to take you away from her again so she is withdrawing into a shell when it comes to the friendship. Or maybe she is going through a tough time herself and she doesn't want to stress you or your family out. I think your best bet is to sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk about it. Tell her everything you just said here and straight up ask her why she has pulled away. It will be up to her then to take her turn at getting her feelings out on the table. I've had this happen, a few months ago as a matter of fact. And I did just like I suggested to you...laid it all out on the table in order to get to the bottom of things. I really hope this situation with your friend gets sorted out. I know how much that can hurt. Hopefully it will work out to a happy "ending" so to speak. Hugs to you hon.
18 Jul 08
hi sweetie, i have tried all that but she just wont open up.. it was a year ago on the 21st of this month that it all happened so i hoping she will give me a call,so we can take it from there.. its just soo hard when your friend is the one you turn to in this situation and she isnt there... thank you for your beautiful words hugssssss