What happen if your friend don't believe you?

@alkurishy (2069)
Iraq
July 18, 2008 6:28am CST
If your friend invite to take a dinner or lunch with him and you was so busy to do that, and you apologize to him, then he invite you that another time and you can't accept his invite because some another reason. Do you think he will believe you that you a have some reasons or you are some busy? Or he will think that you don't want to accept his request? Tell me what do you think pleas.
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13 responses
• Canada
18 Jul 08
I don't think I've ever had a case of a riend not believing me. As riends we all trust and believe eachother. We are always honet with eachother, because we all know that trust must be earned.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
18 Jul 08
Yes I agree with your view, friends should be always believe each other and trust each other, unless they are not friends. Thank you for your response and have a nice day.
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• Canada
18 Jul 08
Thanks for the best response on this discussion. I'd rather have a ew good friends whom I can trust, than a lot of false "friends" who will only take advantage of me.
@petiksmode (2986)
• Philippines
18 Jul 08
i just had this scenario yesterday when my friend texted me if i can meet them tomorrow for a videoke session, the thing is i have work on saturday. since that is very unusual for me to have work on sat she dont believe me hehehe...but i am sure she will understand... i am gonna be busy these coming days, well they cant do anything but to believe hehehe..we are friends for so long so issues like this dont really matter hehehe..
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
18 Jul 08
If he has no reason not to trust you, i can't see why he wouldn't believe you.
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18 Jul 08
Hi alkurishy, When my friend ask me to out with her and if I have other egagement on I tell her but if I don't want to go then I tell her, it is better to be truethful otherwise they won't invite you anymore and eventually they leave out of everything. Tamara
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 Jul 08
Hi If they are a friend they would understand as this is what friendship is all about, perhaps though instead of waiting for another invitation you could say 'hey I know the last couple of times you have invited me over I haven't been able to make it but I am freee this day and that day and maybe we can prearrange something for then?' that way it is not you refusing them each time and just letting them know you would like to spend time but couldn't on those particular occasions. Ellie :D
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
18 Jul 08
Hi alkurishy, I guess he will think that you are just making excuses, I mean it can be true but for consecutive refusal, it can't be avoided to be thinking that way.. So, the better thing is, when he called up decide and set a day where both of you are free in that manner, there will be no surprise invitation considering that both of you have different work and schedule..
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• United States
18 Jul 08
To me for another friend to do this to me like the way you put it show's me that they basically don't want to be friends anymore. I can see 1 time saying you can't because ok you might have something going on that day but for every time after tht to keep on doing it. No it's show's their not a true friend if you know you will never do this for them be honest tell him your interested don't just leave them hanging to reask you again.
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
18 Jul 08
Hi my dear Mylotters, for all the above responses on this discussions I just want to say for you that it is not happening to me but it is a public topic I was happy to share with you and know what are your thinking about and if it is happen what to do, that is all, so please don't refer to me as a person who have this problem, some times we like to discuss a society case and want to know what we gona do about it when it happen, as a learning from your ideas and your thoughts. Great thank for all of you for your time to response to this discussion, I hope all of you a good life my dear friends and Mylotters. Hugs and kisses for all of you.
@miryam (6507)
• Italy
19 Jul 08
nothing i'm a 1° that not believe in a friend........ i'm a new friend for you in mylot thanks shakra i love egipt..... salam bye myryam
@chenmeiyi (973)
• China
19 Jul 08
yeah,it happys commonly in our daily life. i think we can do something to compensate for our contemporary the so-called somewhat stupid action. we can invite our friends to have dinner with us some other time,or go shopping tegether. i think the important point is not the dinner,it is because our friend want to stay with us and enjoy the beauty of friendship.sometimes, i think we can sacrifice our spare time to share with our dear friends. hope you can deal with it.
@mich_23 (121)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Apologize and explain that you'd love to be with your friend but you have been busy lately and offer to make up soem other time
@zhuxia (344)
• China
19 Jul 08
If this happen to me,i will try my best to explain for him/her clearly. I believe my friend could trust me.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
It's possible that he's going to think that you're just making up excuses and that you're not interested at all into having lunch or dinner with him. But you can tell him that he shouldn't think that way because it's only a coincidence that you can't find time to go out with him. If he's a friend, he'll understand. Dianne
@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
If they are a real friend, yes they will. I've always been nervous, as youi are, to turn something down twice. I felt the same as you that it damages your credibility. It really doesn't. There were times when I would accept the second one because I felt bad, but it always got me into more trouble for missing what I was supposed to be doing.