"it's over"... when you hear this from a person you are courting or dating....

@makaira (1159)
Philippines
July 18, 2008 10:40pm CST
you heard her say to another person "its over between us" but the you haven't really talked with her about the status of your current situation since your still trying to make things right with your previous relationship. how would react? what would you do? would you talk to the girl or just let it be? would you swallow your pride to ask her the reasons?
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@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
19 Jul 08
They always say that the other person in the relationship is the last to know--and I guess this is true in this case. What I would personally do is to go the straight route and say, "I heard you discussing our relationship with (person's name)and saying that it's over between us. I'd like to save our friendship at the very least, so let's talk about it." Then, we'd take it from there--and, hopefully, he wouldn't respond by shutting me out.
@makaira (1159)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
i also think that is what they should do but what is currently happening is the total opposite. nobody is making the move to discuss the matter. maybe they are looking for the right timing or they just let the situation be... let things fall on its perspective without giving a talk. we think it's kinda weird. what should we advice them?
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• Anderson, Indiana
20 Jul 08
Definitely advise them to talk to each other--but, of course, this is up to them. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Just put in your two bits and figure that they can now make an informed choice--and, hopefully, they will.
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@shlooper (310)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I would talk to her about it. If I were to tell one of my friends that it was over between me and my boyfriend without talking to him first, it would probably be because I didn't know how to approach the topic. By asking her, and talking about it, you may still be able to salvage a relationship of some sort, or decide it is best to let go. By not talking about it, it is putting a wedge between you. Courage, courage!
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@makaira (1159)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
your absolutely right, i think the both of them needs courage. a lot of courage. and the ability to hear out what the other has to say and to accept what ever they hear from the other person.
@mich_23 (121)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I would surely be hurt by this. But the best thing to do maybe is to talk things over and to open communication lines because I think this is whats been missing in the relationship
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@makaira (1159)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
i also think that they lack communication. i also think that maybe the guy is just too shy to ask the girl why and the girl is also shy to explain to guy. what can we suggest to them? do you think they can still fix it?
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
hi makaira! of course i would talk to the guy if i heard him saying that to other persons. that would be really embarrassing because he's talking that way probably to his friends while i am talking in a different way, that we are still doing good and okay. i would surely be angry but i would remain calm and just ask him what does he want to happen. if he wanted to call it quits, its fine by me. he just had to ask me and tell me directly. but i'll be the first to say "i didn't really love you anyway".
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• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I don't get hurt easily, but if this happens to me, I would ask him directly to explain things. I believe every person has the right to be happy but not to the extent of hurting others, especially the one you are in a relationship with.
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