After starting a discussion, what do you do next?

watching my discussion grow - I usually stop for a while, refresh my page a couple of times to
see if there have been some responses already. Usually, I wait some
10 minutes refreshing the page. And then I would go to the "discussions
with no responses" and see it there. After some 5 more minutes, it
would go to the second page and I would be praying so hard that time
because I know my discussion have a lesser chance to get a response.
@richiem (3644)
Philippines
July 19, 2008 1:55am CST
Do you leave it and go responding to other discussions or start others? Or do you stop for a while to watch your discussion grow and receive responses? I usually stop for a while, refresh my page a couple of times to see if there have been some responses already. Usually, I wait some 10 minutes refreshing the page. And then I would go to the "discussions with no responses" and see it there. After some 5 more minutes, it would go to the second page and I would be praying so hard that time because I know my discussion have a lesser chance to get a response. What do you usually do after starting a discussion?
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Whenever I'm done posting a discussion that I have just thought of a while before, I'd simply go back to the usual routine of checking if I got new replies to my posts and comments and see if my other discussions as well have been given new replies or comments. I have made a couple of discussions that either had a few responses or those that didn't have any up to now but, that's okay. I always think that its either the topics are not catching anyone's interests or other who do have the same interest with it haven't yet seen it to participate. It'll have a response if it will but, as of the moment, if there aren't any yet, I'd just keep on what I've been doing before and perhaps start some new discussions again if something crosses my mind
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
That's a good way of thinking about it. That those that share the same interest has yet to see your discussion and participate in it If you really want to get your discussions easily be viewable, aside starting them on their right topics of interests, you should also add more tags that are related to the discussions so that when others try use the search feature of the site, your discussions would most probably be among the results.. though, I think you already know those things. Anyway, as long as it gets updated with more and more responses, it will always be among those discussions that are among the 'recent' ones. I see that you have nothing to hate about since all your friends somehow participate in all the discussions that you begin If you have discussions with no response, you can PM me the link so I can respond to it if I have something to share. Thanks for the suggestion but, that's okay. I'm guess you have already participated in some of the ones that I have started. Have a nice day too!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I am always thinking that it is the other reason: "that the one who have the same interest with it haven't yet seen it to participate". And what makes me worry is that, What if they won't have the chance to see the discussion because it has been covered but other newer and fresher discussions. I just hate my discussions having no responses. So I am always hoping that someone would response to my discussion as soon as possible. So far, I have been thankful to my friends here for always responding to my discussions. I don't have discussions yet with no response. If you have discussions with no response, you can PM me the link so I can respond to it if I have something to share. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
You are right about the tagging. I usually make two tags before I let my discussion to start rolling. So the other ones are really not from me. I let other respondents to tag this discussion too with any tags they want. And I am really hoping for more responses so the discussions will be kept active and stay on the 'recent' discussion lists more. That way, I will have more exposure and more responses.
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
19 Jul 08
Whenever I start a discussions I keep checking for responses every few minutes. And especially from those friends whom I have got quite close to. I know I should give them some time but then I get too impatient at times.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
It is sometimes hard to wait for them because you don't know who is online and who is not. So waiting is really hard if I don't know if my friends are online. But sometimes, I look for discussions under the "friends started" and see who is around and I respond them hoping they will respond to my discussion too. Of course, I am not obliging them to respond to my discussion but I am just hoping. Thank you for your time. Have a nice day!
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
19 Jul 08
I keep checking on my friends pages for their activities so I have an idea if they are on mylot or not. So I know whose replies to expect.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
That is also one way of checking out who of your friends are online. I also use that sometimes but I don't really know who are the friends to expect from. I have a lot of friends and they seem to respond to my discussion always but I don't think I can pick someone who I can say will always respond to my discussion no matter what. Good for you for knowing friends like that.
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• United States
19 Jul 08
I just go about my way reading other discussions and answering to them. Sometimes I go back to see if there are replyes to my discussions on the same day and sometimes I wait until the next day. I always do go back to check if anyone has replied. Because I always like to reply to their responses.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Sometimes I am so worried about the discussion I have started that I can't concentrate giving responses to other discussions. I sometimes end giving less responses and unfocused replies. But I think I should change that attitude. I have just recently learned of the notification feature which would really ease my worry of the discussions I have started. Have a nice day!
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@paid2write (5201)
19 Jul 08
After starting a new discussion I will spend at least half an hour doing something else, or continue adding responses to other people's discussions. Then I check my email to see if I have any myLot notifications of receiving new responses. I start a discussion when I know I will be online for an hour or more, then I can comment on new responses soon after they are made. I know that each time I check my email I may have some more responses to comment on. When I finish for the day I know that in the morning I can expect to see some more new responses to my discussion. I know some poeple start many discussions in a day so they will always get new responses, but I start so few discussions it's always exciting for me to see I have a new response to one of them!
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I have just discovered the usefulness of turning the notification about new responses on. And I think I will be using more of it in the future. I like your way that you would make sure that you have an hour before starting a discussion to keep the discussion alive. I think that is a very responsible act to do. From now on, I will be doing it too. Thanks for the input. Have a nice day!
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Hi richiem. I have a toolbar icon on my page. So whenever I start a discussion, I go to discussions my friends started or from my interest and do my business. If I see the icon I will check my email for notifications if someone replied to me. It is more easier for me. But there were times, that I would wait until someone responds to my new topic before I go on. Happy postings. HUGZ!
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Yes my friend, it is available in Firefox too. It's in my yahoo toolbar.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
That toolbar icon is very helpful. I would just like to ask if that icon is also available in Firefox? I know I get that kind of icon and it quickly shows if I have new mail in Internet Explorer but I don't know yet if it is also true in Firefox. I am new in using a Firefox browser. Thanks for your time and Have a nice day!
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I see it now. It is shown with a bell when new messages come in. I think it is there before but I hadn't noticed it because I am used to the yellow sun thing that is popping up in the internet explorer when I receive new messages. But it is there. Thanks.
@successlog (3172)
• China
19 Jul 08
hi friend, i usually continue to respond other people's discussions when i start a new discussion myself.I think it is wasting time to wait for other people to respond yours..If i can wait 10 minitues for the comment,it means i have lost 2 responses for others.lol.so my friend, not waiting,just go ahead. have a good day.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Yeah, maybe I am just wasting my time doing what I have been doing in the past. It's just taking up my time and I am being unproductive just watching my discussion to get responses. Yes, the 10 minutes can really be useful if I would make more responses with it. Thanks for the advice. From now on I will not be monitoring my started discussion too often. Have a nice day!
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
19 Jul 08
I will go respond to other discussions, I don't post discussions a lot of times because I haven't got many bright ideas on starting new discussions that aren't allready out there. Basicly everything has been on sometime and I don't want to post a double discussion.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
20 Jul 08
Thanks for that information on the older discussions, I was about to post a discussion that had been on a year ago and got 2 replies but I daren't post a new one on it. Now I know that it is okay to do so it broadens my possibilities. Thanks! .
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I also don't start a lot of new discussions lately because I am running out of new ideas. And I am also worried that I may duplicate topics, so I would search first before I start a new one. But I have read that the admin says it is ok to start a discussion on the same topic as long as the similar discussion is now old and irrelevant and that you would give a new angle to the topic. So we can still touch topics like that. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Your welcome! Just be careful not to post with the same words. You may be accused of spamming when you do that.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
19 Jul 08
no most of the time i just move on to the next one. i either ask another question or i go and answer other post. i don't go and check to see if people answered my post. i see you got a lot of post with this one. keep up the good work
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
20 Jul 08
i like responding to fun and interesting post. so as long as you keep them fun and interesting like this you don't have to worry about getting responses to your post
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Thanks. I am very thankful to my friends here who have been always responding to my discussions. I really feel glad that I always receive responses for my every discussion. I am somewhat still worried that the discussion I have started would not receive responses so I check on it frequently. But as I said, my friends here have been helpful to me. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
What is fun for one person is not fun for another. But anyway, now you say that you like discussions like this, maybe I will think up starting discussions of this type. thank you!
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Hello richiem, After starting a new discussions. I leave and forgot about it. I start looking for discussions to post to and start working on it. I just leave my discussions and don't anticipate anything because I can't control if someone will response or not response. I don't worry much about it. But while I am posting to discussions, I see to it that I look into my new discussions. If someone responses, I go and read the response and give comment. This go on until the day no one is responding anymore. Everyday I make sure to check my discussions and see if someone responses so I can give comment and make my discussions active again. I only start a few discussions so that it's easier for me to give comments and give the best responses. I kind of like to post to discussions better than start a new one.
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
Hello richiem, That's very thoughtful of you to prioritize your friends discussion before anything else. That's very admirable. For me I usually look for discussions I am familiar with, either friends or not. I am more focus on my earning here that's why I choose some discussions I can post easier. I do post also to myfriends discussions but not like you do. Have a good one.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
That may be the benefit of starting only a few discussions. With this you can have more time commenting on the responses to your discussions and keeping it active and alive and attracting more responses. Before I have the rule of resolving my discussions after a day so I can start a new one and forget about the resolved discussion. But now I am thinking about it again. But I don't want it to take long before I select a best response. Before, I always check my discussions for new response but now that I have limited time, I just respond to my friends discussion because I think it is more productive and helpful not only for me but for my friends also. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I cannot say that I respond to all my friends' discussions. But when I am looking for a discussion to respond to, I would first go to the "friends started" tab. And most of the time I find some discussions I can respond to in there. Also, my priority here is the earnings and I prefer responding to discussion to where I can respond easier. Looks like my friends are good in making that kinds of discussions.
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@snowy22315 (168445)
• United States
19 Jul 08
I check back every once in awhile to see if someone has answered. If they have i feel happy. I like to have respsones of course. The more the better. it is disappointing if you get very few responses. You feel like nobody likes you, or that you started a dumb discussion or soemthing. Usually if you wait long enough though you will have responses.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I like having a lot of responses too. It really make me happy to have them in my discussions. And it is sometimes frustrating when my discussion would not have any responses for about 45 minutes to one hour. It feels like my discussion have failed and I keep thinking what have I done wrong? Is it the title? Do they understand what I mean? But I am thankful that I always receive responses. I usually start responses wherein a lot of mylot members can relate to and share their own experience. That way, I get more responses. And you are right, responses doesn't all come on the first day. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I leave it for awhile and lurked around the site. I'll respond to other discussions while waiting if there's a response. I used yahoo messenger so I'll know if there's a new mail alerting me that I have received responses or comments.There are times as well, if I am too excited to see the response, I'll visit my discussion once in a while, like after 15-20 minutes.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I am very excited often that is why I wait for it to get a response' before I go on with my other business. And I think I am also worried that my discussion won't get any response at all that is why I have to wait until it gets one. But I think I have to change that method. I should make use of my time more productively and just come back to it after some time. Have a nice day!
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
19 Jul 08
Well, I haven't started very many discussions, but I usually just go and do something else and when I check my email later there might be some replies! I don't take it personally if only a couple of people answer, as there are so many discussions to reply to, and everyone must receive heaps of notifications each day if they all have their friends turned 'on'. Also, I understand that people may not be interested in certain topics - so that's fine, too. I haven't had anybody being rude or unkind yet on myLot - so that's a nice change!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I think I am the only one in here that doesn't have the notification for new responses turned on. I have turned it off before because I am always here in mylot and I have more time so I see no use in looking at my mail just to find out who have responded to my discussions. But now, I don't have that much time here so I think I should turn that notification on again. It's good that you have not met rude people here. I think I also haven't met people like that. I am thankful to all of you that so far all of my discussions are responded to. Have a nice day!
• Malaysia
20 Jul 08
Hie Richiem, I normally will carry on searching for interesting topics to respond to or make comments whether my friends' or others. I wouldn't worry too much about my discussions getting responses or not as I would get a mail alert notification as soon as I get one. I have a separate email account for this and I have confidence that my friends will response to my topics. If I don't get any responses in certain amount of time and it is a pressing topic that I need some answers then I would revive it into a topic of discussion instead. I believe it is always bad timing at times when it was posted and not many mylotters have noticed it. Cheers and best wishes.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I usually blame it on wrong timing when my responses don't get a lot responses. I have a discussion which received no response before and I don't feel good about. I just thought maybe my friends are not online at that time or maybe they are engage in more interesting discussions. I have turned my notification for new responses only lately so I was not able to use it before. But now I think I would rely on it whenever I start a discussion. Reviving a discussion in another topic is a good advice. Thanks! Have a nice day!
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• Malaysia
21 Jul 08
You are welcome and you will have more fun with your alert notifications. You are doing great and just keep posting Cheers,
@darksorrow (4666)
• Bangladesh
19 Jul 08
I have turned the notification on so when anybody responds to my discussions then i get notified. So i don't have to wait. If i get a response i try to give feedback to the responders. I think if you do so then your discussions will get more response knowing that they will get a feedback.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
19 Jul 08
I think it is also to rely on the notification than rely on manual waiting because waiting and doing nothing would be very unproductive. I also give feedback to the responses in my discussions so as to keep the discussion active and a more lively one rather than just a question and answer routine. Have a nice day!
• United States
19 Jul 08
Since I have it set so whenever anyone responds to my post i get a email. so I start a discussion and go to the next subject.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
My G-d, I could never worry that much about every post like that. I guess I am too busy. I think of posts as good questions and as long as they are asked under the correct category and it will answered.So I just let my questions flow out into the world of MyLot and most get answered. Some right away, others weeks later. But I would go insane waiting to see If they were answered.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
It really is helpful in setting the notification for new responses on in that way. Good for you! Maybe you don't worry too much. I am always worried that my discussions won't receive responses. But sometimes, after maybe some 30 minutes of waiting, I just leave it be and go on to the next business. I would just pray hard that there would be a miracle that someone may still find my discussion after such a long time. And lucky for me, someone always seems to find it!!! Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
After a week? I don't know if I can wait that long. In that case, I would just leave my discussion and forget about it and move on. Or maybe I would do something to bring it up like starting a discussion about it or something. I have done that a time ago.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
Usually after I post a discussion and if I still have some time to spend here I go back to my email to respond to the email notifications with discussions from my friends. Eventually there will be notifications of answers to my own discussion and I will address them at that time. I don't worry much, though. Sometimes it takes time to get some responses, and sometimes we never get responses. I still have one discussion from way back that I wasn't able to resolve because it has no answers to choose for best response. I don't take it personally. I don't take anything here too personally. I am here to relax and enjoy my time, so I won't allow myself to worry :)
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
Well, my friend, you keep posting and answering and you will be able to reach your goal. The main part of it is enjoying what we do here. Interacting with others, learn new things, give a helping hand when we can. Ratings and rankings are not even that important as a rule, but I guess when one respects others and their opinions we get respected as well. Thanks for your offer, I will pm you and appreciate the help :)
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Wow, you have a rating of 100/100 and ranked 7 in the mylot.com interest!!! I feel honored that you have responded to one of my discussions. It is my longterm goal to reach the leaderboard of a popular interest like "mylot.com" while keeping my star. You should be a very good member here for having a star like that for a long time now. About your discussion with no response, you may pm me the link and I'll see if I can respond to it so you will be able to resolve it. Anything to help a high-ranking myLotter! Have a nice day!
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@amirev777 (4117)
• India
11 Aug 08
hi after starting a new discussions,i usually go to some other discussions stated by my friends or discussions frm my interests.i respond to couple of them and then come back to see if my discussion has recvd any responses.if i do recv responses(usually i dnt recv many)i ensure that i do reply them back thanking for their response.usually its very rare in my case that i have recvd instant reples.but i think its different in ur case.it must be appreciated that u recvd more then 100 responses for this discussuion,the best i have recvd so far is 25 responses.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
This is my best discussion so far if we are talking about the number of responses received. I am very happy for this. For me, the key is having a lot of active friends. You really don't know how many of your friends are active so you just need to have a lot of friends. And also, start discussions where anyone can respond to no matter what their age, location and gender are. Have a nice day!
@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
19 Jul 08
I don't start a lot of discussions, but if I start one, I just let it be. I hope people of my friend-list will notice it and respond to it, and further I just let it go. I will respond to the people who take the time to read it and formulate an answer, but after that it's out of my control. Have a nice day
@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
21 Jul 08
It really is out of our control. We can't make people respond to our discussions, although we really want to. There's nothing we can do, but post interesting discussions. Have a nice day
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Maybe it is really out of our control. All we can do after starting a discussion is to comment on the responses so as to let the respondents know that their responses are appreciated. I also respond back to them when I can share something to the discussions they have started. That is also to show my appreciation.
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• Indonesia
7 Aug 08
just after starting a discussion, i will respond other discussions till i don't find the interesting discussions to respond anymore. then i will check the discussion i started. if it gets responses, i will comment it. i will also check the discussions i started regularly.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
It has always been my habit of checking my discussions regularly but now I try not to do it a lot because sometimes it becomes time consuming and unproductive, especially when I don't see any new responses in the discussion. Have a nice day!
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
19 Jul 08
after discussion i will check in "todays top" and since my yahoo messenger is on i can see the replied of my topics and go in my mail and read the replies.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
I am not really an avid user of the yahoo messenger so I just wait for my toolbar to notify me about the happenings in my discussions or responses here in mylot. Why do you choose to go to the "todays top" and not in other pages? Do you usually respond to todays top discussion or you just read them for information?
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I am thinking now of what is really the difference between the "todays top" and the "hot" discussions. I mylot staff said they are the same but computed differently, I am hoping to know how it is computed.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Jul 08
i love yahoo so much so i need to log in anytime. well in "todays top" i always read it but dont response all,i am depending the topics which one shall i reply.thank you and have a nice weekend.
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