Happy even if you cried inside
July 19, 2008 2:12am CST
Maybe that's what one of the thing love is all about. Happy for someone you love even if it really hurts you inside. A girlfriend of mine regrets when he let her boy bestfriend slipped away. They were best of friends and right from the very start, he is being honest and vocal to his feelings about her, but the feeling isn't mutual, still he respected it. Still loving her and waiting for the time she will learned to love him as a man and not a friend. They separate ways after graduating from college. He have to go afar to mend his heart,but he didn't stop loving her. They still communicate with each other through chatting and texting. He never lose hope but after two years she never ever give a sign that they could be possibly a chance of going further beyond friendship. He knows, he have to move on, which he did, maybe not that fast but slowly. Until she met this woman who never hesitate showing her love to him. A friend of mine came crying to me upon finding out that her bestfriend got married already. It really hurt her that much knowing that she loves him already and just waiting for the proper time to tell him about it. But it's too late. And she really regretted it. She's happy for him but she's really crying inside. Now she equally feel the pain how it feels to be be like him when he was in her shoes. I just adviCe her to move on. That's one of the irony of life sometimes. But it happens already and she can't do anything about it. The least she can do is to be happy about him. But it bothers me when she said, to be fair she would like to tell him that she is loving him now. Just to make her feel better. Is it okay? What's the use?
19 Jul 08
hi dear that is really sad..hi dear well this is so sad..i never faced any such thing so far...and i dont think i am good at hiding my emotions if i like i would have told it long back and atleast would have been happy that i tried..anyways life goes on..i hope your friends comes over this and starts new..it is not right to go and tell anything now..this s mre of a closed chapter so tell her she has to let go..
28 Jul 08
Hmm... I can only illustrate with one analogy. Think of a badminton game. It takes two to play the game. If one party keeps trying to shoot a shuttlecock to the person standing in the opposite side of the court and not responding, there will be a time when the shuttlecocks will run out. Now, if another person comes along and respond to that shuttlecock that was shot, a game can be played. And the two happily plays the game of badminton. What good will it do to the game if your friend joins in? It is a game of singles badminton. Three people cannot play in the same game. Your friend was given so many chances to return her love to him. Taking him for granted for so long, now that she lost him, she wants to profess her love? Don't put the poor fella in another misery. He was miserable enough waiting for her. Now that he has moved on, leave him alone. There are so many other guys around. I am sure there is one that is waiting for your friend. Don't go and spoil a good thing for him when he finally found one. Relationships are to be treasured. Not toyed with. If your friend never treasured it in the beginning when the love was given to her, don't go crying when she looses that love. Move on. The world is big. I am sure she will find her man soon enough.
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19 Jul 08
I hope she doesn't do that, it would make her feel better but would make his marriage less happy so it's a selfish thing to do. We should voice our feelings, not hide them, before it's too late. I'm sorry for your friend but she's being selfish if she tells him how she feels at this late date.
12 Aug 08
Wow!!That’s a sad story, hope it don’t happen to me. Anyway, it already happen and the best thing she can do is to move on. The guy suffered so much waiting for your friend and telling him that she loves him will only prolong the suffering. The guy is already married!!
28 Jul 08
Well i feel sorry for her but that's it. That's life and love. One can't wait forever for a love that has no guarantee. It happened to me that I waited for my best friend as well but it happened that at a certain moment I just didn't love her anymore and soon I found another person to love who loves me as well. We're still friends though but of course there were some things that couldn't be brought back I just hope she finds the right person for her. For your friend I think letting her get enough time would make her feel better. I think you're right in advising her to move on .