She tested positive but I got tested last Sept and was ok

@raydene (9871)
United States
July 19, 2008 11:15am CST
Do you all think I should test again? I got tested right after I discovered that my husband had been having an affair for years and there was more then one woman. For those that are new to my drama I kicked him out and will NEVER take him back no matter how much I still love and miss him. I can't/won't live with someone I don't trust! In my haste I wouldn't allow his gf to tell me what she tested positive to but from the gossip it is an std. I have not been with anyone since I kicked him out and did get tested so is it important to test again. I've been told that it takes time to show up..But then she is just now testing positive.. I hate drama but it seems to be a part of my life at this point! Any thoughts Friends? xoxoxoxoxo
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@ShealM (388)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
Depends on which STD you are testing for. Personally I would play it safe as well and test again. Sorry you are going through all of this.
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• United States
19 Jul 08
I would just to be on the fe side. She could be lying to you about testing positive for a std. But, of course she could be telling the truth. Just to have a little ease on the mind I would get tested again. If it is something then you can get treatment for it.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 Jul 08
To be safe, I sure would get tested again to make sure you are not infected with an STD. I think you will be fine though since you are not showing any symptoms of and STD after all of this time. You may go ahead and take the test also since it took a while to test positive. I hate drama too but that is all I have ever been dealing with in my life also. It drives me nuts. It is worse than a soap opera.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
19 Jul 08
For your own peace of mind, Go ahead and do the testing again. Then you will know for sure exactly where you stand in all of this. It is important for you to know if you have something to worry about or not. If there is a problem, you would want to catch it early and take the necessary treatments. Discuss it with your doctor and see what he says also. Stay Safe, Stand Strong ((hugs)) Royal Mom
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
20 Jul 08
My cousin works in the records office at my doctors. She never tells me anything personal about anyone but she did say it is a good idea to do a second testing also. I have to listen to the people that love me because I know they are looking out for me. xoxoxoxox
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Well, I would be tested once again just in case. It will ease your mind and it will prove to you that you don't have anything. He should have to pay for the testing as it is his fault that you have to be tested. I am thankful that you kicked his butt out and I would never take him back. I hope that you are healthy and I feel sorry for his girlfriend!
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• United States
19 Jul 08
to be sure and play it safe it's best to get tested again. it your health that is at stake because of him of course. sorry you had to go thru that. it must be very painful and heartbreaking.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I would get tested again, just to be safe. I am sure you are probably fine, but its better to be safe then sorry.
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@nini89 (670)
• India
21 Jul 08
Good thinking. it is being said that prevention is better than cure.
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@kareng (53440)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would go ahead and test again just for MY piece of mind. It's been over 6 months now (if I am remembering correctly) and two negatives in this time span should clear you and your mind once and for all. I agree with you that she was talking about an STD. Get tested again and then you can erase all doubts within your mind.
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@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would get tested again. If it takes time to show up then I would keep getting tested. This is something you dont want to take lightly.
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20 Jul 08
I would get tested again as who knows she may have been cheating on your husband with someone. Not only for peace and mind but think of your health. If it was a friend of yours in your position, you would encourage her to get tested again so its time to look after number one now so I say get tested!!
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@jerzgirl (9208)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Yes, definitely, get tested again. Most of the STDs are curable, but if it does happen to be HIV, you MUST get on medication ASAP! And, even if you're exposed, it doesn't mean you test positive the first time you check. If you were exposed to HIV, you need to test and test again for about a year to be sure. Please be tested. Please make sure his stupidity doesn't take your life. Assume it's curable, but be sure.
@4aps777 (1528)
• United States
20 Jul 08
it would be good to go and get tested every 3 month for awhile just to make sure you are ok nad if you do have anything atleast that would give the docs the chance to catch it before it gets to bad.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Hey Lady! It is recommended that you be tested yearly after possible exposure to an STD. Remember, these days VD is new and improved. We must unfortunately have to have much more than a couple of penicillin shots. That being said...take really good care of yourself and take some supplements to help your immune system stay strong. I drink one of those mixes made for adding to a 20 ounce bottle of water that tastes like grape and has "immune boost". I'm so sorry you had to experience your husband's betrayal. I am also happy to see that you are smart enough to forgive him and yet not being forgetful, even at the cost of alot of tears and pain.
@nini89 (670)
• India
21 Jul 08
When you came to know that your husband having affair with more than one women and you dont want him to do drama in you life you have kicked him out. It is better to go for a test once again which will satisfy your doubt.So sorry to comment on this topic.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
30 Jul 08
It's been such a long time hon and I feel you would have had some symptoms by now but for sure...get another test done. I'm really sad that you are still having these feelings for your ex. But then, you had such a long life together even if most of it was a lie (if I remember he was cheating for years, I think). You still love the person you thought he was but he wasn't that man. He was, is, always will be a cad. Give yourself permission to grieve for however long it takes but you need to shut that door and move forward. Big hugs.
@gtdonna (1738)
21 Jul 08
Prevention is better than cure they say, I would say go get that second test...there is what is call a window from the time a person gets infected to the time it actually shows up in ones system - I however do hope that you are going to get a negative results again if you haven't by now
@tessah (6617)
• United States
20 Jul 08
it depends on the std shes positive for.. if it was gonohrea or syphalis or the clap.. if youve tested negative.. youre fine. herpes requires a specific blood test and sometmes doesnt show up for a bit, so get retested. but if its hiv? you should get tested every 6 months for a couple years to ensure you are still negative. heres hoping ALL tests come back to you negative and that yer perfctly fine good luck
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
22 Jul 08
By all means yes! Get tested again.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
28 Jul 08
It would be good to be tested again so that whatever the outcome you can take something to make it better or perhaps you will be safe from that thing.Good luck!i hope you are feeling fine now.
@bbjwlsn (263)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Hi raydene, I too was married to a cheater. That was back in the day (70's) when I was young and could stand the drama (even though at the time I thought it would kill me). No, you don't need the drama. If you are over the age of 30, it is time for you to be enjoying life. When we are young, we can tolerate this sort of stuff going on, but as we get older, our life needs to mellow out and be less stressful. I'm sure it is hard to believe right now, but there are many good men out there. Ones who will be faithful and loving to you. And, even though you may think that you don't want another man because you still love your husband, when the right man comes along, you will change your thinking. It's so hard going through something like this, and I feel so bad for you. I hope that you will try to just do something nice for yourself this weekend. Try to get those "rats" out of your mind for a day or so. Do something you really enjoy doing, something that maybe you haven't done in a long time. Well, anyway, these are my thoughts on the subject. Good luck, sweetie. Hang in there. Your friend, Barbara
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