Do your kids think they're sneaky?

my kids do that some. my oldest is 5 and sometimes i will catch her whispering something into her sisters ear and then her sister will either do it and get into trouble or she will tell her no. i don't like people or kids lying either. i've been working on my 5 year old since she was old enough to understand. i told her i don't ever want her to lie to me. i said she might still get into trouble but i will be a lot easier on her if she tells me the truth right off the bat.

Well you must be doing something right, cause your son said, "No, because mom will come out and catch me". That's positive! Your son is manifesting an understanding that he should not act out behind your back. This could be the beginning of a good thing. It's ideal to think that children will be good behind our backs for their own sake. But that rarely happens. Kid's usually don't have a conscience about good or evil, right or wrong. Even after we tell them. In public situations, it's unavoidable that they are going to be sneaky. Kids usually have a different agenda than moms and don't understand why they can't just do every little thing they want to do. They'll still do what they want in front of you or behind your back. That's where the sneaky part comes in. My daughter knows better than to stand on the bed or get up in chairs. She won't do that in my presence. But she is more than happy to do that behind my back. Sometimes, I walk into her room and she is standing on her bed. And instead of making a big hairy deal over the situation (and reinforcing the behavior), I ask her, "Do you think that's what you really should be doing?" And she always, answers "No!" And then she doesn't do it again. Kids have to be sneaky, cause moms are no fun. I know that, cause I'm no fun! I wish I could jump on the bed and hide under the clothes rack at the store or pelt rude store employees with a spit ball. But that is not going to happen cause I'm an adult. If I did, I'd go to jail. Kids are kids once in their lifetime. Pick your battles. Not every sneaky thing is so bad. Of course, you should raise your children in the way that feels right for you. This is just the way I do things and not that it would work for every mom. So, I do respect your position as a mom and your opinions. I'm not trying to be discouraging. Best of luck with your kids. Wish me luck on mine!

My son tries to be sneaky when it comes to taking snacks without asking. He normally locks himself down in the basement on his PS2 or watching movies or playing on the computer. I will see empty candy wrappers and other things in the trash can by the computer all the time. I guess he is not too good at being sneaky cause he always leaves his stuff out in the open.