would you do something if you knew that it made your "other" uncomfortable

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
July 19, 2008 9:59pm CST
as i have already made a discussion about earlier i have this friend that has been with this girl for about five months or so and they really love each other...and certain things make him uncomfortable due to things that have happened in the past...and he has told her in a calm voice before that things bothered him and she doesn't really seem to care because she always says thats just stupid or something like that but in the past she has said that some things bother her and he has stopped doing it because it did make her uncomfortable...what do you think about all of this and how should he handle all of this...thanks for reading my discussion!
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• Lubbock, Texas
20 Jul 08
An ideal relationship is give and take. Equal consideration on the part of each partner. But the world isn't ideal. It is a one-sided relationship if one person gives up something that makes the other person uncomfortable and the other one just thinks the partner is being "stupid" and refuses to give up anything. Your friend has to either resign himself to always giving in, or firmly and calmly stand his ground. If she really loves him she will learn to compromise. Unfortunately many people just don't stand their ground, stay in a relationship til it "rots" then get out with much bitterness and cynicism. Lets hope the latter doesn't happen to your friend.
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
20 Jul 08
thanks for reading my discussion and replying and i agree but he says that he loves her and can't see himself without her...so where do you think that he should do? thanks
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• Lubbock, Texas
20 Jul 08
Quite frankly I think he should run. . .FAST. But face it, he loves her. He's not going to do that. All you can do is be his friend and be there for him if he needs somebody to pick him up if he falls. Sad, but true. He won't get out until he's ready.
• United States
20 Jul 08
if i knew that itmade other people feel un omfortable i would try and not do it becaus eof that reason and also i wouild not liek for people to make me uncomfrotable if they knew it was possible.