Regrets after the loss of a loved one

United States
July 20, 2008 1:57am CST
Have you ever lossed a loved one and regretted that you didn't tell them something or do something with them before they passed away? My grandmother passed away several years ago and when I think about it now there are things that I regret. She had alzheimer's and before she was put into the nursing home, I went to visit. She asked me to spend the night at her house but I was to scared. I was afraid that she would wake up in the morning and not remember who I was. I can remember being a little girl and ALWAYS wanting to be with my grandmother. We would stay up really late and sit in front of her tv and watch "MASH", cause that was her favorite show. We would eat ritz crackers and ranch dressing. LOL I do regret not staying with her when I was able to, but I know that she knew that I love her very much and not a day goes by that I don't think about her.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Hi prnces..... Memories of someone you had in your life, like your grandmother, are precious memories indeed. That you think about her like you say you do, only means she is around you at times. (At least that's what I believe). I think about my grandmother like that too - and my mom - and my dad... I guess we all think about the ones we've loved, and lost. I know when 'grandmother' was sick, we did everything we could with her and for her, knowing the day would come when we wouldn't have her around us anymore; knowing we would be secure and at peace that we did everything we could while she was here. I can't say that for many of the other people in the family, although to hear them talk, they were at her bedside every day and night, which is NOT the truth. (I know 'cause we were there and didn't see them).lol. They must have been invisible.??? The same is true for my mom and dad.....I know we did everything we could for them while they were still with us and I know when they left this world, we were at peace and (really) had no regrets to the way we treated them and loved them. As long as you do everything within your power for the people you love now, while they are still here, you can live the rest of your life knowing you did what was important. Sometimes, circumstances might prevent us from doing and saying the things we wish we could, like spending the night with grandmother. If we all go back and have do-overs, there's a whole lot of things we could make right. But at least you have 'the now' to recognize and love the people you have in your life - and the ability to let them know it. Don't let 'the now' slip away from you, because you never know what tomorrow will bring..... Because of that - I will say this - "I love you"..........
• United States
20 Jul 08
Thanks Mommy! I love You!!!
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• Singapore
20 Jul 08
well all that i can say is no pain no gain , we always never realise that something is important when we loses it yea .
• United States
22 Jul 08
i regret not spending more time with my grandma. she got sick very quickly and i was only 21. i was to young to realize what a big part of my life i was about to lose. i am soo happy she got to see the birth of my daughter and i think that made her final days the best they could have been. you should not have any regrets just remember the good times