I don't know what to do!

United States
July 20, 2008 8:42am CST
Long story short: I cashed a check for $275 and a $10 check, the other day. I put all the money in my wallet, came home and gave my daughter a $10 bill because it was her check. Then Thursday, I was sitting at gymnastics and noticed that all I had in my wallet was ones, all of the $275 is gone. I have searched my pocket book and purse. It's no where. My daughter thought she remembered me saying that my wallet was too full with all the money and that I took it out, but I don't know where I put it. I have been tearing my house apart, which is kinda of hard to due without telling hubby what I am looking for. I have racked my brain, retraced my foot steps. I can't remember every place I have been but I used my debit card for everything this week. I feel like I am loosing my mind. It was the money for the girls for back to school and it is like it disappeared into thin air. I don't leave my purse in my vehicle or anywhere unattended. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do?
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Only suggestion I can give, is what has been given to me. Just sit down, relax as much as you can. Then, slowly retrace every move from the time you cashed the check, until today. You might have accidently dropped it, when you where doing something. Honestly, if your known to lose things, small from a phone to large like money. Maybe your husband has the money and he's trying to teach you a lesson. This sounds like something my husband would do to me. I lose a lot of things, it's not even funny. Even worse, I won't stop until I find it. Good Luck, and I pray that you find it. Just remember more you stress, less likely you will find it.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Oh no that is not good where wee you at the time when you gave your daughter that $10.00? start there and try to remember what you did. is there some sort of desk there that maybe you put it in a cubby hole there ion an envelope? double check your wallet again take everything out put it on the table just to make sure you didn't bypass it while looking in there the first time. Is it possible your husband may have taken it to deposit it into the bank thinking you didn't need all that cash in there and forgot to tell you? That would drive me crazy if I lost tat I'd be like you are now searching every where. Good luck on finding it and I hoe it turns up for you.
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• Slovenia
20 Jul 08
Well, I agree with what's been said before... If all else fails, the thing that has ALWAYS worked for me so far is... (after usually frantic searching that led nowhere!!) relax, let mind wonder off or such... then somehow loosely & in a relaxed manner FOCUS, really focus on holding that item or thing in your hand & being happy you found it, imagine as if you had it already, with all senses, & then see what your subconsciousness/mind drifts off to... (maybe a closet or something you haven't searched before.. or even have searched before, but not that particular drawer or compartment!) I've found a few things & lost library cards or such this way... /It doesn't work if you're still frantic or if you can't really focus on the feeling proper.. I always approached it with a 'Let's see if this works...' recently & it worked :))
@zeloguy (4913)
• United States
20 Jul 08
[i]I know it sounds like a dumb thing to do but it works a lot for me. I am always losing things and it really [is not good]. What I do is go as far back as I can remember to when I had what it is that I lost and then try to as completely as possible retrace all of my steps even pretend like talking to people that I talked to and such... I will eventually go 'ahhh, that's where it is!' Eureka! Best of luck to you[/i] Thanks Zelo
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@spalladino (17923)
• United States
20 Jul 08
The only thing that I can suggest is that you continue to search but also look around your home for something that will jog your memory. I once stashed some cash on top of the upper cabinet in the kitchen because my husband was taking a nap and I didn't want to bother him by going into the bedroom. When I needed it I forgot where I had put it so I did the same thing that you're doing but I also scanned every room with my eyes hoping that seeing something would help me to remember. When I looked at those cabinets I suddenly remembered. By the way, since I'm over 50 and can't count on my memory much...especially if I'm in a rush...I have very specific rules for cash and car keys. I always keep them in one location and, if I take cash or a credit card out of my wallet, I put it in only one place in my house...even if hubby is napping. Good luck, I hope you find it.
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@jerzgirl (8058)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
20 Jul 08
First of all, go back to where you where when you handed your daughter her money. Then sit down and relax, concentrate on every move you made after that. Sometimes, just being where I was and looking around will trigger the same thoughts I had the day I did whatever it was I forgot. Then, if that's not successful, think of everywhere you were that your purse might have been out your sight for any length of time. It's possible it was stolen, although I can't imagine why they'd leave the ones if they were after money in general. My father had $700 he'd set aside for their quarterly property taxes disappear from the deep freezer in the basement (he'd put the money inside a freezer container and put it under the other vegetables they had in there). My kids and I had moved in around that time and he thought it was possible it was my son who'd taken it. But, unless he was rooting, and for what in a freezer I can't imagine, I don't know how he'd have known it was there since we'd never told him Dad would do that. I didn't even know he kept it down there. I knew they sometimes kept money in the upstairs freezer. That was 12 years ago and my daughter still swears my son didn't take it - we didn't notice any increase in spending by him during that time (and Paul's not the most inconspicuous person at all) and she says he swore to her he didn't. He swore to me he didn't. He still says after all these years he didn't. So, we think it's possible, since Dad was beginning to lose track of things (he confided in his cousin that he'd be some place and not remember going there), that he may have done something with the money and lost that memory. Not that any of this helps you, but there are just so many reasons it could be gone. I do hope you find it. Do your best to relax and just let your mind drift back to that day. And "relive" each step. I hope that helps you remember what you did with it.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
28 Jul 08
If you do not need the money like NOW, then dun think about it! It works for me a lot of times. I try not to think about it. Then I go about doing my other things. Then WHAM! BAM! I just remembered it like I never forgotten before. The more anxious you are, the more you will think of a lot of places where the money will not be in. Thus cluttering your mind in the process. Try a hot bath or a nice big cuppa your favorite beverage. And try to think of other things instead of brooding over the money. I know it is not a small sum. But you can try my method. It works wonders! Once your mind is clear of all the cluttered thoughts of where the money is not in, you will naturally be able to remember where you misplaced the money. Hope you find your money soon!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I hope that you have found it! If not, do you have a desk that you may have put it on?
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
good day...just relax retrace your step and think. also consider that you might have use your money to something or pay someone. Worst scenario since your daughter is the only person who've seen your money then you can ask her heart to heart.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
21 Jul 08
maybe there was a magnet hand and magnet eyes. do you trust your daughter? sorry but you need to ask your daughter coz this time so many nice stuff for teenager and tempted to buy.sorry if i am wrong.
@Monkeyrose (2850)
• Canada
21 Jul 08
ack! Thats a really unfortunate situation. I lost a cheque a few weeks back for $100. THat was enough of a scarefor me. Of course with the check i could cancel it and get it resent. I think you just have to retrace your steps and ask your daughter again. Other than that you are out of luck. Wish I could help you more
@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Well aside from retracing your footsteps, thrown in some prayer to St. Anthony. It might work you know. Then try looking for it again in your bag, in your wallet, everything you touched. Recall if you ever made any other purchase. I wish you goodluck, I hope you find it soon, without the hubby knowing what you are looking for.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
21 Jul 08
how sad I really hope you find it,you should tell your hubby and maybe he can help you. If you cant find it in your house then did you look in the car? It couldnt of just disappeared did you question your daughter?Well good luck to you.
• China
21 Jul 08
You can followed by these steps: 1 Check everywhere you have gone.perhaps someplaces or some subjects will trigger your memory. 2 Go to ask your daughter if she have taken up your money.Please don't mind i have said. 3 Go to tell your hubby what have happend,not try to cove up the case.Perhaps he can offer you some suggestions. I hope you find your money.
• United States
20 Jul 08
Well you have to do the obvious first,which we as parents don't ever like to do? If you haven't already so you need to ask your daughters if they took the money. Im not sure how old they are,( so maybe thats not an option) but just tell them your not mad, you just need the money back , that it was for them in the first place for school! What about the clothes you had one? Do you remember saying anything like that?(wallet to full), It kinda sounds like you didn't want your husband to know about the money, right? so you probably hid the money. what about in the sock drawer, what were you standing by when you took the money out?.Could it have fallen under a sofa or chair. Does your husband go into your wallet? Could he have moved it, and is waiting on you to come and ask him? Could he be playing a joke on you? Even though we both know its not funny at all. I wish you luck in finding it.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
20 Jul 08
First and foremost tell your husband, don't hide or cover up a thing like this. Admit you made a mistake; hiding things like this are the things that tear up a marriage. It shows a lack of trust. If your husband loves you he will understand. He might even have seen or taken it not realizing you put it up. Thinking it was something he had put aside and not remembered. Second as someone else said how old is your daughter. Kids have been known to take parents money, I had a son and nephew did that but I knew I had it and I blunt asked them. My nephew lied he was always ripping off his mom. My son confessed they both had been in on it. They were both 13. As others said was your purse even for a few minutes out of your site while using the bathroom for instance. Was anyone in your home your not well aquainted with like a friend of hubbys, daughter or even someone you know or thought you knew at or around that time. Including service men or women. Did someone bump you even slightly on the street or shopping. Do you go to church was there quests at church. Last of all if you believe in prayer then get down and ask God to help you find it. I have found this had worked amazing results. Once I lost my glasses and we searched high and low, I need them to drive. I had an old pair 2 weeks later my son found them laid on the dash board of the pick up truck we were driving to get some firewood, No mind you we had tore that truck apart everywhere they were not there, six people looked. But they were found on the pick up dashboard like I had just laid them there 60 miles from home. I rode all the way to the woods in the truck and they were not there. About a year ago my 9 year old granddaughter lost her glasses, She thought she lost them at the creek. We searched and searched along the bank and in the water, Nothing we prayed and as her parents were getting ready to go home her dad caught a glimmer along our porch walkway, There they lay, clean, folded and neat on the along the walkway cement out of the path. She had been no where near that part of the yard. There have been other incidents similar with money and other things, My husband misplaced his wallet and found it a year later we prayed about it and gave up and finally he found it in a jacket he put it in he forgot he had worn. With $500 we lost in it. God is powerful he loves you and will help you. My daughter lost her wallet she was sure she had put it in her purse with all her money for school clothes some $300. We prayed and 2 weeks later we got it in the mail from someone who had seen her drop it as she got in our car 400 miles from home. They debated on keeping the money and decided how they would feel if they lost it and needed it and mailed it with address and phone number and return receipt requested. All the money was there with the letter. We felt so blessed, she sent them $25 back for a reward and their honesty.