If I Knew Then What I Know Now

United States
July 20, 2008 9:26am CST
Don't you wish we were born with just a little more insight, or at least developed it sooner? I've said, "If I knew then what I know now", so many times in my life I can't begin to count them all. If I knew more, or paid attention more, or maybe stepped outside myself more and realized the importance of issues around me and how they would affect me and/or my life, I wonder if I would have changed the way I reacted? Would I have loved more? Would I have been a better parent? A better lover? A better wife? A better friend? If you knew then what you know now, is there something you would change or do over? Do better? Do differently?
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19 responses
• Malaysia
20 Jul 08
It would be nice to be able to predict the future or even be able to know what the outcomes of our action will be. Even though it is nice to be able to do so, there are times that suprises are fun. If we knew everything that is about to happen, our lives will not be as enjoyable as it is. It might be very boring. In some cases, people might be living in constant fear or very depressed. For example, if you know that you will die soon, you would feel very sad and depressed or if you know you will be involved in a horrible car accident, you would be terrified of cars whenever you see them. Nonetheless, it is still nice if I could be able to predict something such as being able to predict what lottery number to buy.
• United States
20 Jul 08
HAHAHAH! Oh yea do I ever wish I knew what I know now beginning about 15 years ago. I can tell you I wouldn't have been through 2 divorces. LOL I would have finished college when I was young and would be making more money now. I would have saved money and not wasted so much. I would have a nice home, nice vehicle, etc... It's difficult to do things for your future when you don't know, so now I am learning (even though it's a little late) that I should plan ahead. There are of course things that I would do the same because well you know me I just would. LOL That's okay though cause I am still learning and am sure I will still be learning years from now.
• Lubbock, Texas
20 Jul 08
But even though you can see your decisions could have been better, would the decisions you made differently have made your life any better? Where would different actions have taken you. Just because you would have had a better education, more money, a better house doesn't mean you would be happier.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
I think that I would be happier yes. I know that money doesn't make the world go around so I won't say that the job, house, etc... would be the reason I would be happier, but there are other aspects of my life that I wish I would have done while I was younger.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Yes terilee I definitely wish I was born with more insight so that I didn't make some of the terrible mistakes that I made. So that I didn't hurt the people that I hurt, including and mostly myself. I wish I could have changed the way I did a great deal of things. But, honestly I don't think that there is a person alive who doesn't wish that they could "do over" parts of their life and if they say no I think they would be lying. No one is born perfect, everyone makes mistakes, some of us more than others. That is the way of life. We can only change and try to make it better.
• United States
21 Jul 08
True. That's just life. Some things might have been a bit easier if we had nore insight. As long as we learn from those mistakes and better ourselves, and others, I guess that's the important part. You understand completely.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
20 Jul 08
There are a lot of what ifs. I am forty and from time to time I do look back in retrospect and think I could have changed things. Sometimes I think I would have just made different mistakes. I just try to live in the here and now. The past is sometimes too painful for me to relive. Maybe if I would have listened to some advice I received when I was very young things might have turned out differently. We will never really know.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
Hindsight 20/20 Vision - George Benson - good song Terilee, Looking back, there is only one thing that I would have done differently... my daughter would never have left home that night. Sure there are lots of could haves, would haves and should haves that I look back and think about. But, I have memories that I don't want to change so those things have to be, yesterday... and I let them go. Maybe some things happen for a reason. Just think of the things we would have missed by changing yesterday. Great post!
• Lubbock, Texas
20 Jul 08
I think looking back and lamenting over the past is a big mistake. Every "wrong" turn you took led you to where you are today, and strengthened you. Look at it as I'm here now, I know this now, I will make different mistakes from here on out. I will learn from what I considered a mistake. If you knew then what you know now, there would still be much you didn't know, so you would have still made mistakes and they may have led you in a different direction, which may have taken you down a worse path. Don't ever regret your past. Learn from it.
@kidjuwee (612)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
That's the essence of life that's why people are not perfect and there will always be somethings or many things that we could have done better in life. What is also painful in life is the feeling of regret and it's sad. But it's normal so I am so thankful that I'm still alive and I can still enjoy life to the fullest.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
20 Jul 08
i don't know what i would do differently. i mean everything that i have gone through, seen, touched, experienced has made me who i am right now. are there things i would like to have changed, i guess there are a few things i would like to have a chance to change. i have learned so many wonderful life lessons, i don't know if i want to have to give them up to change something that needed to happen so i can be where i am right now.
@Stiletto (4584)
20 Jul 08
I don't have lots of regrets but there are a few things that come into the "if I knew then what I know now" category for me. I would have stayed in school instead of walking out when I was 15. Career wise I've done ok but it would all have been easier if I'd had the paper qualifications when I was starting out. I would never have started smoking because now I just can't seem to stop. But most of all there's a lot of people I should have treated better. I was pretty arrogant and self-absorbed when I was younger and really wasn't a very nice person.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
20 Jul 08
sure, there are alot of things i think i would have done differently but we don't have that chance. we just have to take what's happened & make the best of it. mourn some of the things that u did & celebrate things that u did good.
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
21 Jul 08
I wish I knew when I got my first credit card that they are not cool. I thought I was so cool because I got my first credit card at 16. Credit cards nearly ruined me at one time. If I had known how evil they were I would have never gotten one.
@snowy22315 (43928)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Yes, defintiely. I would have tried harder to stay in my first marriage and been a better parent to my son. I would have picked a differnt major in college. I would have stayed at agood job that I left years ago. the list can actually go on and on. You can only do the best you can at the time. Hindsight is always 20/20. You cant redo the past. You can only forgive yourself for it and try to do better in the future.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 08
There's always a chance to do better next time if we always learn from our past mistakes. Make an affirmation everyday such as "I'm good", " I am more than I appear to be, all the world's power rest inside of me." That's my favorite and it works.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
There is one thing that I would do differently if I had been able to look into the future. That is I wouldn't have got out of the service like I did when I got married. Don't get me wrong I love my husband very much but I would have continued in the Air Force and if I had not only would he have a retirement check coming in but so would I have. I don't kick myself for marring him. I love him very much and we have been married in August 36 years. But I have kicked myself more than once for not staying in the Air Force for 20 years and getting a retirement check.
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@1337speak (170)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I've had those moments, but I realized that everything that I did was the best decision then. Past is past and the best I can do right now is learn from my mistakes, not cry on spilled mild. That's the very reason why I always do my best, because doing my best, I save myself from future regrets.
@cmathias12 (1025)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
21 Jul 08
If I knew then what I know now, I would stop and smell the roses more often, so to speak. Life flies by so quickly along with the ones you love the most. I would have laughed at every crisis presented with my children instead of scolding. I would have hugged them 101 times instead of 100. I would have taken 1,000 more pictures to reminisce with later. I would have taken my own happiness into consideration instead of doing what made the rest of the world happy. So much to dwell on from the past but now I choose to live the way I would have then if I only new. Therefore nothng is lost, but gained.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
21 Jul 08
great to know a lot before being human, but it is Gods plan. i would like it more to know more so we can judge and do everything correctly. but that is
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Well, they say hindsight is 20/20, however I don't think there is much I would change. Knowing that everything in my past has led up to where I am now, changing my past would also change my future, and who is to say even something that seems miniscule or not of importance could be. I can think of one thing off the top of my head, and I think it would be to be less involved in a certain group. If what I figure is true, having backed off instead of getting involved would have prevented a friend of mine from getting angry with me. I am not completely clear on what is going on, but I just 'feel' that there is tension, and if I had never been willing to be involved, I'm sure there would not be tension.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Well it would have been nice if things were that way but unfortunately things are not. Regretting what we have done and not moving on is actually not good for us because there is really nothing we could do about the past. What we could actually just do for now is to learn from our mistakes and live better lives because in that way you would learn that the mistakes you did actually did made you a better person.