OOPS I could be in the s***

@ruby222 (4848)
July 20, 2008 5:20pm CST
My son in law is a teacher at a small primary school.They were supposed to have sports day last friday,but the ground was too damp,and in case any child slipped it was cancelled.So instead of sports day they were allowed to watch a film.He chose a film that was a U certificate,and popped it on to play..all was going well,and they were really enjoying it..when out of the blue the owrd SH*T was said..well son in law was really annoyed ,as he certainly hadnt expected this film to have that word in it!!!He now feels that some of the parents will complain,mainly as he was sure that the children picked up on it!!..would you complain??would you be mad that the word had come up in a film that your children had watched in school???
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
21 Jul 08
LOL. What a sad state of affairs but I am afraid that it is indicative of our language these days. Of course schools shouldn't show films to children that are likely to set them a poor example, but that word is now in common parlance and I must say that as a parent I might tease the teacher when next I saw him, but there is no way that I would complain formally. Unless of course it is something that happens regularly, which I doubt. Reminds me of when I was a callow youth and belonged to the village youth club. A man that lived in the village had been in the crew of a film called "The Belstone Fox" (about a fox that managed to evade being hunted) and offered to show it to us. So there we were all settled down in the village hut (hall is too grand a term). In those days films came on separate reels; after 20 minutes or so the reel was changed and on came...... Let's just say that aunty needed her smelling salts. Much to the disappointment of we boys, after about 15 seconds of something that looked much more educational it was taken off to be replaced by the proper film. Wonder what happened to the chap that was showing it? He doesn't live in the village now. But hi sister in law does. I must ask her next time I'm there.
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@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
It is a little sad Piky but ive got to say it one of those words that im none too keen on myself!!..yes hes there to set the kids a good example and im sure he does more than his best to do so,but he was quite upset with himself when he came home!I think the end of term period is a busy time in any teachers life,and he had been working endlessly on the leavers year book..then to top it all off this went and happened!!But im going to call him later to see if there were any repercussions..im sure it will all be ok..by the way..the film that followed The Belstone fox..what was it again???
@p1kef1sh (45640)
21 Jul 08
Since I wrote my response I wondered whether any of the children had noticed the naughty word? An adult in that environment would, but maybe it wouldn't especially register with a child. I presume that you have staggered back to Ripley now. All well I trust and it will be good to sleep in your own bed after the couch. Glad you're back in one piece. I expect Mr Ruby is down at the allotment checking that all is well.
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@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
Yes the did notice Piky,but it was a sort of tittering between themselves!!!but im going to call him and see if there were any complaints!!I am in Ripley sur la mer,in my chair,the dog is snoring,Mr Ruby has had a pint of the finest Derbyshire whatever,the sky is blue,washing is drying,the sweetpeas are in full bloom,and it more than wonderful to be home!!.I love my children with a passion,but as the saying goes..East,West..home is best..looking forward to some good topics now!!
@Elixiress (3893)
22 Jul 08
If I was him then I would shrug my shoulders, okay it shouldn't have happened but it was not his fault. A movie with a U certificate should not include bad language and if any of the parents complain then I would just explain that.
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@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
There were no complains at the end of the day,but yes a U certificate indicates that its fit for kids to watch!so they shouldnt put any bad language in t..but thankfully its all over now.
@Elixiress (3893)
25 Jul 08
I am glad to hear that there were no complaints made.
24 Jul 08
You can be sure that there will always be one parent who will be first in the door the next morning to complain.That is life.I would not have complained,as I am perfectly sure that the children will know far better swear words than the one heard in the film.Maybe my opinion is a little lax,but for me there is no issue.
@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
No I feel that you are quite right saying that the kids hear worse than that,but its just the fact that you dont want them to hear it in your class at school!he was mortified!
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Definitely yes!!!, I don;t like to hear my child saying those words because he pick that up from the school. As a parent I trust the school personnel to have good influence to my children. I maybe would suggest to the teacher the next time that he would preview the film before showing it to the kids. Censure the words that are not good for kids to imitate. I'm sure that your son in-law learned a lesson on this.
@ruby222 (4848)
24 Jul 08
Im sure that he did learn a lesson by this,but the annoying thing was that the film was a U certificate,therefore deemed as perfectly fit for children to watch.But there were no complaints in the end ,the film was called The flight of the Navigator.im not sure if you have ever heard of it?
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I know that there are people who are just waiting for someone to slip up so they can give them holy hell. No one is perfect and anyone can slip up in my book. If it happens often enough then I might take a look at it and maybe complain or do something about it.
@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
Perfectly true,it was a one off,and yes if it happened time and time again then that would be fair enough grounds for complaint,but he is a dedicated teacher,he really gives it his all!and he just felt so awful that it happened in the first place.
@fiona08 (454)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Well, sometimes sh*t happens! Sorry, I couldn't resist. I know how your son-in-law feels, though. I am a teacher, and it is scary making sure you don't expose the kids to something unintentionally. I think the only way to be certain, would be to watch the whole movie ahead of time. Hopefully, most parents will not be too alarmed about such a minor swear word. If they are, he should just assure them it was an accident, and that he will be more careful in the future. He should be sure not to be too defensive with parents, and remain cool, and just listen to what they have to say. If he is humble and apologetic, I think he will get further with parents. They will most likely be understanding. I hope everything works out for him.
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@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
He is a cool and level headed type of man,and he comes over very well,so im sure as you say that he will expain it if needs be.It was just very unfortunate that it happened in the first place,and as it has upset him im sure that he will be even more vigilant when choosing his next film for the children to watch.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
20 Jul 08
uhoo ruby, I think your son in law might be in deep doodoo! lol That's a shame. He didn't do it on purpose. But you know how kids are, especially when attention is brought to it which I'm sure it was. Hopefully he won't get in trouble. I sure hope not. He meant well. I'll keep my fingers crossed. He was only trying to keep the kids occupied in the bad weather.
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@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
He went off to school this morning,and he was nervous anyeway!as it is the leavers assemly,and he has written a year book,that he will read out in assembly,now hes a confident ,lovely chap,but he isnt into reading out aloud amongst lots of people,plus he had done a very good poem to read out all about the class that are moving on to senior school.So he was extra edgy as he has had this on his mind all weekend,waiting to see if any of the parents have omplained,im going to give him a call later and see how he got on.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
20 Jul 08
Most person who is inconsiderate will question and complain. But I think he has learnt from this experience. What he needs to do before putting any script infront of a child whether it is a video or print he needs to prove read/watch it first. Most of the time the label will tell you something and the content is different. He should just consider it as an experience and if a parent(s) complain just explain that it is a misunderstanding. All the best. Kerry
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@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
He had seen the film before,but it was one that came out in the 1980s so maybe hadnt recalled it ever having any bad content in it,all I know was that he felt really bad about it all,he was on about it all night ..after the `word` had been said he went to see his head teacher,and she told him not to worry at all,that anyone can make a mistake and the world wouldnt end because of it,but he still was worried.Being a Dad of two himself makes him more aware,and he wouldnt have wanted to have his children hear that word either.
@Humbug25 (12551)
21 Jul 08
Hi ruby222 I really wouldn't worry about it. I think that in fact the kids didn't pay that much intention to it unless your son-in-law panicked and turned it off which would have drawn attention to the issue and made a bigger deal of it than it really was! I have 3 sons, 3, 5 and 7 and they a few swear words and refer to them as the sh word or f word but never actually say the word and they only say it when they are telling me about someone else who has said it. I have a friend who swears like a trooper even around my kids but my boys just simply ignore her as so I. It does annoy me that she does it but she tells me that is just her and true enough kids will hear a lot more as they get older, I also value her friendship.
@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
Thats true,they will hear a lot more before time goes on,and im sure the words will be a lot stronger that that one.But that still didnt make him feel much better!im sure he was thinking about the barrage of complaints that would be waiting for him when he gotr into school this morning!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
21 Jul 08
I really hope he didn't get too much grief today, you'll have to keep us informed!
@Humbug25 (12551)
21 Jul 08
You must tell me ruby222, I've got to know, what was the movie that seems to have made such a stir?
@gemini_rose (16193)
22 Jul 08
Ruby I would be disgusted and would complain and moan and whinge and demand that teachers instant dismissal immediately.....NOT! Would I eck be mad, my kids would no doubt tell me but I would just say "Oh dear, well never mind you have heard worse!" I mean did you see what my daughter came out with the other day in a discussion I did? SH!T is tame compared to that! A lot of these films now have the odd swear word on it, but it should actually say somewhere on the case as they have to say if there are any bad words in it at all. But, no doubt there will be some complaints there always are but hopefully the majority will be like me.
@ruby222 (4848)
22 Jul 08
I know Rose,but he was still never the less a bit upset to say the least!and someone else has asked me the name of that film,and im going to ask him tomorrow so that I can let you know waht it was!
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Hi ruby, If my kids will used the word in the house and to anyone and I know we are not having that, I will be asking my kids how did he/she got it...Then I will maybe talked to the teacher what happened...I will be surprised of course but I will not be mad... I will be open enough to listen and I know teachers are also responsible to explain to the kids the lesson of the film afterwards and being a responsible parents, I will also follow up at home!
@ruby222 (4848)
22 Jul 08
I dont care for that word Che,or any other swear word really,I know full well that the all will hear it sooner or later,but it would just be so good to think that they could stay children for a while.
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
21 Jul 08
As a parent, I would like to think that someone on the school staff had viewed the movie before it was shown to the children. What that movie raters consider to be appropriate and what I consider to be appropriate is a completely different thing!
@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
That is very true,the movie was a U certificate,which means that it is deemed perfectly suitable for children to watch.But I have a strong feeling that after this happening that my son in law will sit and watch any movie that is shown to his class and scrutinise it horoughly.He was very embarassed that this happened ,as he said it didnt ought to happen in any class.
• United States
21 Jul 08
I would not be mad because they are going to hear that word eventually.
@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
They are ,a true fact,but I suppose when you are in a position that he is in you maybe wouldnt choose for it to be during a class .It was an unfortunate happaning and it embarassed him a great deal.
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Oh well I think this is the problem with films nowadays, language is not being watch out carefully and the classification is not being done that is why. I think your son in law is not at fault as he did not know that the film has that kind of word in the film. I guess the only thing he could the least is to inform or educate the children about that word.
@ruby222 (4848)
21 Jul 08
Thats a good point you have there,when the word popped out,he was so taken aback that he saw the childrens faces,and as kids do they sort of did a giggly shy look at each other,and he decided to try to ride through it.But he went straight after to tell his head teacher what had unfortunately happened and she told him not to worry to much,that although it was unfortunate that the word had been said,she felt sure that the majority of the children had heard it many times before.