Is it normal for a man to cry?

Philippines
July 20, 2008 5:22pm CST
I cried when my cousin and best buddy died a week ago. I tried to contain it but tears just kept running down on my face. The will of not to cry was lost and drowned by emotion.
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@saludes (99)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
yes, there's nothing wrong with that, it does'nt mean that if a man cries, he is a gay or coward, god gave tears to shed out all the overwhelming emotions we have inside be it loneliness or happiness, crying is one way of declogging one's heart.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
that is lovely what you said . There is a reason the lord did give us tears . it is a form of expresion . You can be strong and still cry I have always believed . I never understood why they say men should not cry , who started that?
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
20 Jul 08
It is very normal While many of us grow up being taught in some way that boys do not cry (and therefore men don't either) but that is not true. If something affects you emotionally, like your cousin dying, then the best thing to do is let the tears flow.
@mmiller26 (1930)
• Canada
20 Jul 08
There is nothing shameful in a man crying. Expressing emotion does not make one less of a man.
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• Ireland
20 Jul 08
The most normal, and most healthy thing in the world is to cry. Even anyone who went through a healing session through reiki, water will pour out of you, eyes, body. This stupidity of male ego interfers with guys normal emotions, and i believe gathers health problems with it. How many times I have come across violent men who cannot show emotions? Instead scream of hit something of someone, sounds to me a physical way of crying for help. Crying is a wonderful feeling.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
It's absolutely normal. If you are a human being, it doesn't matter if you are male or female, you still hurt and, you still feel loss. I have heard people tell their sons boys don't cry. That is poppycock, as far as I am concerned. I have always thought it took a stronger man to admit he cries or will cry in front of others, than the man who denies his feelings and will not allow himself to cry, even in privacy.
@MizukiZHR (611)
• China
20 Jul 08
Of course.Why only can women cry but men should always be solid.In China,there is a song named that Men cry isn't a mistake.And I think the lyrics is actually right.Don't hold your tears,boy,it is harmful to your health:D
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
21 Jul 08
It is normal and it shows that you are a sensitive person. Don't let society dictate to you what you should feel or not feel.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
I think it's perfectly normal. Men are humans too and all humans have emotions. Some choose to keep it in their heart and some choose to cry it out. Of course, it's always more difficult to keep it in the heart. It's better to cry it out. Girls are more emotional so they tend to cry more. For me, I cry very easily. Do take care and I send my condolences to you.
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
It is abnormal for a man who doesn't know how to cry.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
20 Jul 08
It is very normal for a man to cry, and actually I find it heartwarming to see my husband cry. It reminds me he is not as macho as he may appear. He actually cried just last night. It is really only something he does every once in a blue moon, but sometimes things just get to him and he can't hold it in anymore.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 08
good day.. It's normal for a man to cry specially in dire circumstances. We as men are the same as women we also feel but our emotion by culture and training is to be contained unlike that those of women who are permitted cry. but sometimes we need to let go of our emotions.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
15 Sep 08
Yes, it's just the system that implemented into our minds that it's wrong for man to cry - but that is false, men are human beings as well, with feelings as well, and need to cry even though many of them try to look strong, inside they are boiling, or they choose to discharge in other (not recommended) ways - like smashing objects or other stupid things. P.S.: Yes, i am a man, and Yes i do cry ! P.S.: After you cry your eye are very very clean and also you feel a lot better !
• United States
21 Jul 08
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your cousin and best friend. I don't know where they came up with men crying being unmanly, but whoever tells you that is a fool. Crying is normal, and I think it's good that you were able to grieve openly. Tears can be very healing, and trying to contain them isn't always a good thing. I wish you much luck and hope you manage to overcome and celebrate his/her memory.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
21 Jul 08
yes, it is normal for a man to cry . I like a mean who can express himself in all ways . i know it is taught that men should be strong , and all the other blah , blah, blah stuff , but let it flow , and let it show . You can be strong and still cry I have always thought that
@laglen (19759)
• United States
21 Jul 08
tear - sad
I am very sorry for your loss. What happened was horribly sad. There is nothing wrong with crying. Now, if you were crying because you lost a ball game, I would wonder. But something so bad, I think it is perfectly healthy and normal.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
well it's normal for anyone to cry. crying is associated with women simply because women are more emotional. it takes more to touch a men but it doesn't mean men don't cry. i don't think it's a sign of weakness when a man cries. in fact, it is strangely touching as it shows the tender side of the man. if you didn't cry when you cousin / best buddy die, then i'll start to wonder about your humaneness. take care.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
21 Jul 08
I think it is normal for a man to cry especially when you are sad. Man are human and its good to relief your sorrow.
• United States
21 Jul 08
If you are human, it's normal. I'm tired of gender taking part of little things like this. Everyone is the same on the inside. There really isn't that much that make us different than each other, even though some people like to focus more on those differences. And having someone die that was close to them is traumatic enough to cause anyone to cry, if they're human. Let it out.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Yes of course it is very normal for a man to cry! It is a wrong notion that crying is only for woman. Man after all are human beings and they have emotions as well which they can freely express through tears if only to lighten up their heart. I've known great men and even godly men like King David, Elijah, Jeremiah, Hezekiah and a lot others cried at one or more points in their lives and they never lost their masculinity at all. Yes, a man could cry and normally at that in circumstance like losing a loved one, or out of deep desperation or out of great pity or out of exasperation or out of so many burdens or any circumstances besetting him. And when a man cried out to God for help over things he could no longer bear...then I would say he becomes more masculine in my sight.
@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
yeah it's normal for guyz to cry coz they are also human & they have feelings. & i have heard that it's not good if you will just keep it inside of you coz it's the toxin of our body so we better let it out, no matter what gender we are..