Should i left her

Indonesia
July 20, 2008 9:57pm CST
My Girl Friend ask me to married her. Well, i'm not answer it yet. Guess it makes me confuse. Now, i'm not thinking to married anyone yet. I thought i need 3 or 4 years to be ready. But she won't understand. Dear all, what shoul i do ? Should i left her ?
5 responses
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
I think you should talk a heart to heart, really lay down your cards, tell her really your reasons why, but if she's really in a hurry and she thinks she wants to let go of the relationship set it free. If it's really yours she will come back and will wait for the right time. If you love someone you have to accept every reasons and understand your love one more. I n love you should not ask for anything in return. Have a nice day!
• United States
21 Jul 08
You should do what your heart tells you to. You don't need a website to tell you what to do in such a big siduation. And if you really love her you will say yes, if she asked you she probally has a spot in her heart for you, and if you say no that spot will be empty. But do what you think you should do.
@dextornap (333)
• India
21 Jul 08
You should be very clear about your future. Marriage is a lifetime decision, and has to be made with a practical approach. If you both really love each and understand each other, you can sit and talk practically. Looking into all possible options and hurdles you have and what plans you can make decisively for these 3 - 4 years. You should explain her frankly and comfortably, why you wish to wait and what will be a suitable time for marriage.
• India
21 Jul 08
See in a relation ship every thing is based on both the sides. I have a girl friend 10 years elder to me she is 31 and I am 21. But She is ready to marry me because I like her to great extent. We understand both of us very well and we dont have quarrels at any time not even on single thing. Relationship goes on a floating base which has all the enjoyment and risks involved, Like travelling in a steamer is enjyed but never know when will it droem right ? You have not mentioned your age so I can only tell you that if you really love her talk to her please her request her and assure her to thta extent that she will wait because she loves you. Make her understand the practical tings of life, the need to become a successful couple, need of money education everything where you think she needds attention. But you yourself have to be well known about these issues, and if you are not then its not the right age to be in relationship. Hard to digest but accept it.
• United States
21 Jul 08
if you're not ready to marry then you should not get married. those who marry because they feel pressured end up regretting it later on. and they hold resentment against their mate. be honest or you will not have a relationship worth having.