DIVORCE, EASIER.....has it gone too far?

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
July 22, 2008 9:55am CST
I read a post just now of a husband requesting the wife for a divorce. I am saddened of the fact that the wife is trying to save the marrriage institution while the husband refused to compromise. Although the present day social attitudes regard it as in the interest of both the public and the individual to allow divorce, when a marriage appears to have become irretrievably unhappy, the plain fact remains that the couples concerned are breaking a solemn pledge to each other (and to their children). The christian marriage should be indissoluble. We are aware that there are alarming increase in the number of broken marriages. Has the relevant authorities relax the divorce laws? When couples knew that their marriage could not be dissolved without some difficulty, they often reconciled themselves to the situation and reach the best settlement.
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
22 Jul 08
Not only has divorcing become easier with no fault divorces, society has become more accepting of divorce, so it no longer carries the stigma it used to. I think it's a shame that our society doesn't encourage married couples to stay together but there are more lawyers than there are marriage counselors and they make a lot more money so they bark the loudest.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 08
More divorces means more income for the lawyers and they will be laughing their way to the bank at the expense of grieving families.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
I am afraid we dissagree on this since as much as God hates divorce i dont feel he wants his children to live either in fear or in missery these days with so much spousal abuse I fell why he may not totaly approve he definatly understands!
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Amen to that, RevDauphinee. Hmmmm....would you happen to be a Reverend?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 08
The majority of people are not practising God's Law.
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• United States
23 Jul 08
yes i am but i do not fllow organised religiON because i beieve it is of man and not of God
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
23 Jul 08
No I don't mind that you started this discussion. I understand your points too. I would love for to know that every thing will work out but I guess time will tell.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
Thank you. I hope that you'll be able to overcome your problems.
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@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Hey here is the update on us. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1636454.aspx
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
good day.. just a thought since we're talking about divorce. I mean these are other people's lives were discussing, that's their decision not ours. If one or both of them decided to have a divorce then why not? And if divorce is detrimental to marriage why not amend it and make it moot. Why when making divorce difficult, make marriage requirements harder instead? just my 1 cent
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
You have the point here, make marriage requirements harder. So not everybody can qualify to get married next time. Less marriage less divorce. So the option is stay together without signing on the dotted lines. Maybe this can be brought to the parliament to be tabled.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
24 Jul 08
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1616148.aspx?p=1 The discussion this lady started is about my discussion. Take a look at it so you can get an understanding of what is going on.
• United States
23 Jul 08
Here, in the USA, divorce in this country is insane. I see so many families destoryed because of divorce. My niece was forced into marriage and now she divorced her husband because he never loved her. A lot of my cousins are all going to divorce court because their marriages end so badly. My father has been divorced twice, everyone on my father's side of the family, including my grandfather and great-grandfather have all gotten divorces. No one takes marriage seriously in their family, except for me. I am hoping to change all of that. I think that divorce laws should be changed for the better. People should really think about it before making such a big committment.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
This epidermic is spreading all over. Marriage seems to have lost the real meaning. Married today and divorce the next day. This is kind of hollywood style. The law needs to be tighter not only for divorce cases but let there be counselling for newly wed couples or those who attempt to get married.
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• United States
24 Jul 08
If the laws were tighter, people would begin to really think twice about getting married. Again, my families were notorious for going to divorce court and I refuse to be another statistic.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
23 Jul 08
this just dont work out that way . specially of one of them has gone out on the other or beat the other lots of the=ings come to mind that just to me cant be reaconsiled. And really its the Cathoilic church that you have trouble with not any of th oother ones for I have seen lots of them out of other churches! And they didnt make a pledge to the children for they wernt here at the time!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
Time that the Catholic churches change their marriage laws to suite the new age society.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
23 Jul 08
really doubt that they will
@Elixiress (3893)
22 Jul 08
I think that the reason that divorce is more popular is because people are becoming more individual and a woman no longer has to be a slave to her husband, but while this individualism is coming in. The pressure to marry is still there, if you are reaching a certain age and you are not married then that still carries a certain stigma along with it. This also explain why the "Christian marriage" is no longer a religious affair, people are only marrying in churches as it is tradition, a large percentage of the time. I don't see a problem with divorce, just with the pressure of marriage.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
Most couples are excited at the prospect of getting married. But the one day affair of being dressed in a beautiful white wedding gown walking down the aisle would only be a fairy tale as sooner they will be heading for a battle in the court for divorce proceedings. This is sad. The divorce law has been too lax. It has a lot of loopholes for couples to jump to divorce at a slight problem in the union.
@Elixiress (3893)
23 Jul 08
If they should not be able to get out of marriage so easily through all of these loopholes and whatever, then shouldn't they not be allowed into marriage easily either?
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
24 Jul 08
well this is a problematic issue. i think that everyone that wants to do so has the right to do it. there is a problem that many young couples think that if there are some difficulties in the relationship, they should brake the connection. but they need gaudiness. i really think that things should be as they are now but we have to add a marriage guide for each young couple that want to brake up. maybe this would help.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 08
Age is a factor to the increased divorce rate. The ever increasing number of young people who marry in their teens, enjoy a year or two of passionate love, then get divorced in their early twenties. I agree that there should be guided and the social or political institutions have a responsibility to give a lead - and they should at least aim at ideal morality.
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Why stay together if no love and cant understand anymore? If a couple will stay together without love and understanding it will only create quarrel,argument and sometimes physical abuse.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
You're correct 'why stay together' the best option is to divorce when things can't work out.
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
i hear you about this...the number of the marriages thats being broken is outrageously growing..what i see in this todays marriage is this, people get married in the soonest time they thought they love each other too much nothing can break them apart...when they are faced with difficulties and trials they give up so easy they want the easy way out of it...the first time they thought it was heaven then soon to find out they wanna get out of the hell they got into...i say thats infatuation and they got carried over with it... another thing i see is that, people don't often see their differences while their inlove with their partners...soon they find out that there are lots that they don't like with each other like habituals that for them are not acceptable but too late they got married and thats when they want divorce...
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
They marry in haste, repent at leisure. When in love everything is beautiful, the feelings are enveloped with love. Even the annoying habits are ignored. That is how great a love can be but it can blind a person into believing that they have made their right choice which in fact is the beginning of many nightmares to come.
@boerema (60)
23 Jul 08
I think that there should be little to no restrictions on availability and easiness of getting a divorce. The government should not have their hands in family issues in any shape or form. Their job is not to keep people together in their marriages that is up to the vows of the people. Theres no one to blame but the couple when a marriage fails, the government is not a scape goat.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
I do understand that the Government should not be dragged to intervene in a couples divorce but the Government should regulate the divorce laws of the country. Create a tighter law so that intending couples have a hard time to proceed with divorces.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
23 Jul 08
it is sad but what I have noticed lately is the increase of husbands murdering their wives and or children rather than just walking away from the failed marriage...i seems to be happening way too much.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
I cannot imagine the state of mind a husband is in when he inflict injuries to his wife. The very person who bore his children! That is no longer a human but a satan in a human form. Better outcast him to another planet. He might be better off with all the lucifers.
@heart4u (409)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
if there is no reason for them to hold on get divorce
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 08
It is easy said then done. We have to think of the children and the impact it caused if their parents divorce.