Do your friends kids annoy you?

@dloveli (4369)
United States
July 22, 2008 1:08pm CST
I do home nursing and have been caring for a great family. As the infant began to improve, I was asked to stay on to provide care for the three children. I was recently approached by a neighbor who asked if I would be interested in caring for her 5 children daily from 8-4:30pm and some weekends. She uses a guilt trip to get people to feel bad for her. She has more money than me and my husband put together. She failed to mention that the 4 year old twins are hyper, and have ADHD, and I believe are autistic. The 14 yr old is mentally challenged. THats not the annoyance. He is the "Normal" 8 yr old. He is sooooo greedy. At first I thought maybe they dont get much at home until I visited them. He has absolutely no reason to behave the way he does. He is the only one in the family with the PSP. He walks around with it and the others beg him to use it and he says NO. Normally I would chalk it off to kids stuff but this one is off the chain. We have had a heatwave for the last 5 days and he complains he's freezing. This morning he looked at me and said you know I didnt want to come here and my dad says I dont have to if I dont want. I told him I would talk to his dad and mom. He is never happy. TOday was the last straw. Today is the other little girl that I care fors birthday as well as his sister. I had spoke to the parents and asked them if they would like to send in a cake mix I would make cakes for them. Their mom didnt send one in so I made the one that did. I figured I would sing to both and hand out a small piece to all 7 of the kids. He said I am going to get a big piece. I explained that there wasnt enough because I only had one mix. He told me "SO give them half of a piece". WHAT A BRAT! If he was mine I would give him an old fashioned spanking. He deserves it. The sad part is that the parents let their children run things. Now hes met his match. My own kids dont run me. For that matter my husband doesnt run me. LOL Anyone know the feeling?
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@shooie (4989)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I love kids and have worked with kids in church and even in a day care but well kids annoy me sometimes if that makes sense. Can go to dinner and just when we are leaving a family comes in and their kid starts to act up and pitch a fit and my husband will look at me or me at him and say we are leaving just in time. If we are in town and kids act up we won't stay in the store. If we are at a friends house and they have bratty kids and they act up we'll find an excuse and leave. We had my husbands kids and they weren't allowed to act out like that. My sister had her 3 kids and my brothers as well and well when she would go out people would come up to their table where they were all eating and say how well behaved they are. Now as for the child being mentally challenged that is no excuse to allow him to act out. His mom and dad need to get it under control now or when he is older and they aren't around he will find a world that will not want him around or a home.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
22 Jul 08
My sentiments exactly. The sad part is that the mentally challenged boy is great. Its the "NORMAL" one that gets me. I am sitting here and the other children havent got up from nap time yet. You should see him. He is completely put out. He is waiting for a piece of birthday cake. I have informed him that we have only enough cake to have a small piece for everybody. His parents sent chips. I am not giving him both. I will WIN! I cant believe I am saying this!LOL Thanks for the response. I really needed someone to talk to. dl
@shooie (4989)
• United States
22 Jul 08
sorry read that wrong....well probably what the problem is the kid is use to the others being catered to and well his parents give him a little more space or don't pay him any attention. I dunno. Maybe a nice spanking would fix it? We can only hope he grows out of it or his parents wake up. Maybe you can take him under your wing try to get in his mind. He sounds angry.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
23 Jul 08
You know after reading your second comment, I must admit that I hadnt thought of how I could change it or at least try to help him. Sometimes it takes someone elses story or comment to trigger a solution. I am going to have to realize that his behavior is from not being taught that we have to be considerate of others and think of others first. I was busy being aggrivated. I didnt think to try and help the situation. Boy I still have a lot to learn. Thanks for opening my eyes. dl
@bellaofchaos (11553)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I have five kids and let me tell you that little boy would have a rude awakening if he was in my household. I have two kids that have ADHD and I have a structured house that I have the children in if they don't share I'll just throw the toy away. That boy would so hate living with me. I can understand your feelings that this can be annoying. Unfortunately being a parent you can't let your kids rule you you have to be able to make them tow the line or else when they get older they are going to expect everyone to cow tale to them and I refuse to let my kids become like that.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
23 Jul 08
You are my twin! I couldnt have said it better! The sad part is that when the parent came to pick him up I explained the problem to the mother and she simply stated that he was being a brat. WHat gets me is that I dont have children with ADHD. However, I taught special ed kidnergarten for five years before moving on the mentally challenge adults. I cant help but wondering how is the behavior basically being ignored going to help the children in the family that really need structure? Not positively I dont think.I dont think that its fair to spoil a child on a daily basis. I spoil my daughter once in a while. I think every child needs special attention. These moments are memory makers. I honestly felt like this child thought I worked for him and not his parents. NOT! Trust and believe tomorrow when everyone has arrived, we will be having a conversation regarding rules. Wish me luck. Thanks for understanding. Its nice to know that someone out there agrees with me. DL.
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• United States
25 Jul 08
I think the more you talk about it they parents need a baby sitter and some parenting courses. LOL!!!
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
28 Jul 08
God bless the person that takes on that job.lol Its the parents fault. I think parenting classes should be mandatory for everyone. We take other classes to help with our pregnancy. Most people would appreciate the help or advice. It should be mandatory for first time parents or parents that have issues with their children. If only..... dl
@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 08
yeah i do know what your talking about you have some brats that would want to boss you around and they do it to their parents an what hurts you are the one who have to deal with it. it makes me want to slap the day lights out of them and if the child meet up in difficulties hey would run to you for help.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I am sooo glad to finally see that someone is not afraid to mention that they would like to slap the daylights out of them. I know it is not politically correct but fact be told if half the kids today got an occasional slap not a punch or a kick a SLAP, we wouldnt see so much disorder in the teens today. My daughters are 13 and 20. My oldest will be the first one to admit she got slapped when she was out of line. She is now 20 years old, no children, holds a full time job, never been arrested. She isnt violent or rude in any way. Discipline isnt to put terror in a child. Its to give them an uncomfortable consequence. Thanks soooo much for your honesty. I hope we talk again soon. I think that too many people are in denial. dl
@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
2 Aug 08
yes I've gotten my slap from mom and no one has never ever complain about my being rude,children really need to recognize their roles and responsibilities in society they make society proud not annoyed,disgust and ashamed,it is the role of the parent. I've felt like slapping the day lights out of them but I've never done it. lol
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
29 Jul 08
Kids are annoying everytime but sometimes it depends on our mood whether we take it serious or jocking.When we are exhauted and tired we want to rest and if some kid crys or do their daily things then we feel much annoyed but when we are in fresh mood and want the kids to be with us they are like angels to us that time,nothing so sweet and cute in the whole world seems to be than a kid. Kids are annoying at times but sweet also at the very next time.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Sooo true. I do home nursing. I have an infant with health issues that I take care of daily. The parents have two other children and were going to have to get another care giver to watch them as I took care of the baby. I have decided that having someone else in the house would just bring confusion so I watch them while I take care of her. Yesterday the 4 year old was HORRIBLE. The mother lets them do what ever it is they want. When I tell her they were bad she takes them home and doesnt even broach the subject. She is a friend of my families so I do have the luxury of not having to bite my tongue. Yesterday when I was telling the mother, the 4 year old was spinning around with the cockiest smirk on her face. I wanted to smack her and I dont hit anyones kids. I felt like it yesterday(but I didnt) As I was talking about it the mom was matter of fact about the whole thing as well. If this was a one time thing then I could understand. However, it's not. I came right out and told the mom "You need to follow up with a punishment at home or find a new person." I was not saying she had to kill her or beat her. The child thinks its a joke and when she goes to school they wont put up with that. It ended up that she agreed to implement some time out. We'll see how it goes. SOmetimes its the parents too. Thanks for responding. dl
• United States
24 Jul 08
no,just my neighbor's kids. there's a boy who screams like he's being murdered over something like "no,you can't have a cookie before dinner".i'd never heard anything like that.it goes on for an unbelieveable amount of time. i really don't know what his malfunction is other than in desperate need of a butt smacking.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
28 Jul 08
If you think about it, most of the parents these days probably grew up with a spanking or two. And most turned out okay. I bet you half of the child advocates of today got a healthy spanking now and then. The things parent allow themselves to be put thru. I run a daycare. I run it by the book. I also have no problem letting the parent know the child is or was not behaving and it needs to be addressed. Just last week I had a talk with a mom because she wasnt following up or taking the things occurring at daycare serious. She is a friend of family. I know her on a personal level and I know that she allows herself to be embarassed. No one will even go with her any where if her kids are there. I have talked to her and been very blunt. She says "I know and I am so glad you are helping me." How good is the work I am doing daily if when she goes home and disregards the goings on at daycare. Some people will never get it. dl