ex boyfriend hasn't called or text me in 2 days

United States
July 22, 2008 5:32pm CST
This is sort of pissing me off , why ? because i have been through a lot with my ex boyfriend and it seems like he still doesnt understand how i feel about him ..i try to explain how i feel about him but i cant ! i dont knw why ! its not that im scared to tell him because im not , it just seems like i cant say it !!! we broke up in feb after a year and a half and i mean we still talk and say we love each other but it just seems so fake to me !!! It hurts me because i know i love him but does he mean he loves me when he says it ? So the last i've talked to him was Sunday (july 20th) and here it is tuesday still no txt or call !!!! I mean if someone really loves you dont you think he'll make an effort to get back with me ? He says he wants me back but no effort what so ever....The thing about it is , im 5 months pregnant by HIM ! and atleast he can call and see how the baby is doing or if im hurting or something...I know he wont go so long without talking to me , but when he calls or txt me what should i say and how should i act ???? It hurts a lot because i love him more than anything and he treats me like sh*t on the other hand....I just dont know what to do anymore !!!!! please help me !!!!
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@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
22 Jul 08
Considering the fact that he's your "ex", may be you should consider moving on... I do understand he has responsibility but that's only to the child, not you... Once you guys decided to go your seperate ways, he doesn't have to answer to you, & vise versa... And from what it sounds like, it's not even about the baby... You are upset that he's not calling "you"... Secondly, if you say you love him so much, have you ever made an effort to get back with him? I say that because of what you've said... "I mean if someone really loves you dont you think he'll make an effort to get back with me? He says he wants me back but no effort what so ever...." I mean if you want to get back with him, may be you're the one who should be calling him & making an effort to get back with him as well... I know, I know... He said what he said, wanting to be with you and all, but from what it sounds like, you feel the same way, wanting to get back with him... If that's the case, call him & show him you feel the same way... Don't just wait around for him to call & when he doesn't, get upset... Also, him not calling you, there might be a reason... Are you worried about him at all? What if he was in an accident or something that he "couldn't" call you? Instead of just making him out to be an "a$$ho**" for simply not calling, you call him up & see if he's ok...? That would show some kind of effort on your part that you're worried for him... Relationship takes 2... Give & take... I'm not trying to take his side... He just might be an "a**hole" but from hearing just one side, it's hard to make a call...
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• United States
22 Jul 08
How is this pissing you off? I thought you said "ex" boyfriend, not boyfriend. He doesn't have to call you any second of the day anymore and he might still be hurting from the break-up. Give it more time and see how it goes. Good luck.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Still , the face is i should still be on his mind !!! Also , i have his baby in my stomach ......comman since would remind him
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• United States
22 Jul 08
fact not face sorry !!!
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
22 Jul 08
He is your ex, he has zero responsibility to call you. Yeah, he SHOULD be worried about your kid, but he doesn't have to call. If I were you, I would be happy with yourself and the child you are about to have a find a real man that is going to treat you right.
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@Ciniful (1587)
• Canada
23 Jul 08
He hasn't called since Sunday? That's only 3 days. Being your ex, he doesn't HAVE to call you every day, or even every week if he doesn't want to. And honestly, to assume he should call daily even to see how the baby is, there's no reason whatsoever. If something were wrong, you would obviously get in touch with him, making it unnecessary for him to call you constantly to see how you're feeling. Breaking up removed the obligation to have to call and check in. He can move on without having to do that now, and without being expected to. You tried very hard to make him out to be an insensitive jerk with your post, but it really does come off more as you being overly clingy instead. He's your ex. He doesn't have to call you.
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• Philippines
22 Jul 08
I think be angry not because he is not communicating with you. But because he is not being a good father. I just want to be honest. Once you broke up with a person, the agreement is not there anymore. The point of view has to change, I guess. Let him know that you need him for the baby more than ever. And tell him that you are hurt, but the baby will always be the reason... and not solely for you. I hope things will fall into place ... for the baby. Take care! Good luck!
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Thanks a lot .....
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@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 08
Hum ... does he know that he has a baby from you before you broke up with him?? If he already knows then maybe you was right he was a jerks after all, if e doesn't know, you should tell him the fact, that you still love him, and it means a lot for you, he should responsible for you and the babies later .... Please remember ... don't do anything that can makes harm yourself ... You can talk with your parents and his parents about this to help you out Hope it's gonna be allright, GBU
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Thing is he is your EX. He may still love you as the mother of his on to come baby but may not be in love with you anymore. Yes you are carrying HIS child but that still doesn't merrit a call and or text message everyday. How can either one of you move on if that is what is expected? He will not know how he really feels if there is no space. The honrable thing for him to do is be the father of the baby aka marry you but sad thing is now days that is not the way it happens people have the babies then get married or don't marry at all. Two or three days is not a long time not to hear from an EX. Remember he is an EX and may need space and if you get to pi**ed at him and nag him or b**ch at him you just may lose what you say you love what you love more than anything. Are you saying he treats you like sh*t because he hasn't talked to you in a couple of days or he doesn't spoil you or does he yell at you or what? Because sorry just because he isn't texting or callin doesn't make him a bad person or is it treating anyone like sh*t. You know the saying/song If you love me give me wings. Because if you love someone and they love you they will be back. But you have to remember he is an EX and well he is and you are EX's for a reason and do NOT have a responsiblity to keep in touch with each other everyday. Just hold your head up and smile the sun comes out tomorrow.
@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
23 Jul 08
Britzsofly, I feel for you in your situation. I think you need to be patient with yourself. You say that you are pregnant. Of course, you are going to be a lot more sensative and emotional during this time. I'm not sure how old you and your ex are. But since he doesn't carry the baby, he doesn't have the same sense of life that is growing inside of you. To him it is not quite real yet. Especially if he's young. Try to find other things to occupy your time and your thoughts. Be with friends or relatives. But you need to get and keep a positive attitude and let things fall where they may. If you two are meant to be together, it will happen without you struggling to make it happen. Good Luck.
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
good day... No offense but what do you want of him? A boyfriend? A friend? the father of your child? or all of the above? I mean you should clear it out with him. Since at the moment he's your ex, I think he's not obliged to call or text you religiously but being a father to be he ought to. If he doesn't call or text you and it concerns your pregnancy why not call him instead? I think you have the moral right to do so.
• United States
23 Jul 08
No offense at all !! I totally understand where you stand !! I would never get offended when im needing someone's help !! Thanks a lot for your answer though !!!!
23 Jul 08
Hello britzsofly, How does your exboyfriend feels about the baby? and who broke off the relationship? I really think he is afraid of commitment and wants out he does love you but not enough so I'm afraid you have to cut ypur loses and start afresh without him, I think if you were not pregnant he will be with you but that is selfish. Tamarafireheart.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
You still love him and he still love you. What could be wrong? Maybe he doesn't really love you the same way you love him. It's better to ponder about it. With all and the baby on the way I felt your pain and frustration. The only question remaining is what you really want may not be the same the others wants. So, it's better clear out things as soon as possible.So that you can plan your life ahead with or with out him.
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