Commenting On Your Discussions -"If It Doesn't Appy-Let It Fly!"

I have a "three strikes and your out" rule in such cases Opal. I will respond to a maximum of three of a non replier's discussions. If they don't respond I don't post to one of their discussions again. If they come to mine I do respond of course. The matter is not helped by the fact that myLot Guidelines state that there is no point in responding as it won't improve your earnings. Personally I see it as courtesy matter. But there are an increasing number that don't bother with responses.

It DEFINITELY bugs me, Opal. But now that I've been sticking to only the discussions started by my friends, I don't have that problem anymore. That's also,of course, where I have the most fun! And that, over all, is what I want. Having my replies continuously ignored is most assuredly not my idea of fun, ya know?

I see this too and I don't usually respond to those discussions. What is the point if they really don't care about the topic and they don't want to discuss it and hear others views. I like quality posts that let me think and give my opinion even if it isn't popular but if someone can't even be bothered to read that opinion what is the point? I am with you on this one.

opal read the mylot rules. they suggest we do not reply to our discussions as they do not pay us for that. of course most of us do make some kind of reply as we think its only courtesy. but the rule is you are not supposed to reply. No harm done if we do, but after 'you have been here awhile and have made a lot of discussions its hard to always keepup with them, and I do not get to them for several days . so dont be upset with us,we do read them and do care.

I really do not know what to think!!there are lots of topics her on Mylot,and there is plenty of scope for improvement ,but that applies to anything anywhere!if someone chooses to write a question and then not give any replies,then surely thats up to them.We all use the internet in different ways,and maybe someone will post a new topic and then go off and surf the net and just forget all about the question they put on Mylot.So dont take it to heart,just answer what is there and enjoy them.

Hi Opal26, I haven't noticed that but I always when I do my discussions, not very ofetn, when someone responds I always reply back which is a done thing and good manners but if other don't do that well its up to them. Well never noice anything like that because I'm busy responding to everyone who starts a discussions.Good comments. Tamara

Eh, I like to reply to my responses, but some people do post a lot of good discussions and it would be eons for them to reply to them all. I know one person got "slammed" for this a lot and she did reply to some of the responses, just not all of them.

I know sometimes I have been guilty of this my life is crazy sometimes and it's amazing I remember my name muchless my mylot discussions! But I don't usually let them sit unanswered forever. I'll remember eventually and comment at least a little bit. I have a few right now that I'm behind on because my time has been limited this week. The kind of thing you're talking about though does somewhat annoy me but not totally, it depends on the user. I try not to judge anymore because some people have good reasons to start discussion and rarely respond and those reasons might only be known by their close friends. I learned that first hand. But, sometimes you do just get a "feel" for a person and you know that they don't care. I just skip over those types of users.

It annoys the heck out of me but there isn't much I can do about it. I make an effort to respond to everyone who replies to my posts. I usually don't get many replies so it's easier for me to respond. I have missed a few on occasion when I can't think of anything to say in response to their comment. Sometimes I find that I repeat myself a lot too. The way I look at it is, if someone took time to answer my discussion, the least I can do is reply to their response. I have also stopped answering a few friends discussions for this very reason.

I try very hard to reply to all comments. I average about 85% I think. Some discussion that I've started really don't need extra comments unless someone asks a question but those are few and far between. Some of course are people who didn't read your post, just the title and have no clue what the discussion is really about. I tend to ignore those also. I can't say that it really bothers me when people don't answer my questions or comments. But if I happen to notice that a person NEVER replies to a comment, I tend to not post to their discussions.

[i]Hello Opal26, Yes, you are right. I don't think these people were really interested for the results of the discussions they started. They mostly only care for the earning they will be getting from the discussions they started. Most of these people earn more by starting several discussion per day than by responding to a discussions. For me, I like to responsed to a discussions than start a new one. I have few discussions that I started and I usually read and provide comments to those who responded. I am interested on what people say and that's the reason why I started the discussion in the firts place. To learned something new from mylotters who are interested to share what they think. Good observation and have a great day![/i]

When I see discussions started by someone and no responses from the starter of the discussion I often wonder if they even are reading them. I understand some of the discussions get very long and it's understandable that they can't reply to all of them but when you never see them in the discussion again you have to wonder why bother responding did they even want to discuss it at all?

Hi Opal, If they are happy with posting this way so be it, I personally, even though behind on answering will respond back to people to turn it into a discussion and feel this is where you can build friendships up. The last couple of days though I have been trying to catch up with discussions posted by friends so that is the reason I am behind. I usually work out who doesn't respond back and stop responding unless I really feel I have something important to say. There is nothing in the rules that say they must respond so if they are happy that is fine but I do also realise that this upsets many people, I just let it go mostly. Just concentrate on the peopl that do respond and move on fromthese if it upsets you. Ellie :D

I see this quite often also. It bugs me also. I do have to admit that I have not left comments on a couple of discussions that I have started. Most of the time I do go back and leave comments, even if it is not after everyones response. I will try and at least leave one or two in there somewhere. The reason I don't like when people do it over and over and never leave any comments is because it makes me feel like they didn't even come back to read the discussion. I always read the discussion that I make and I read every response. I might not respond to every response but I read all of them. I am going to try and start leaving at least one or two comments on each discussion I make. Mylot isn't just a site to make money on it is a place to talk and read good discussions.

Some discussions do get quite lengthy and heated but as long as people can remain civil, that is fine. I like a good discussion, but I have started some that were quality that go no or virtually no response, and I don't understand why. I try to respond to answer to discussions, but it is not always easy.

When I start a discussion I enjoy going back and reading the replies made to it. There is such a lot of different thoughts given on the discussion. I like to hear the responses. And I also respond back to them. I can not understand why someone would start a discussion if they are not going to respond back. As you say it seems that they are not interested in the responses. Just posting discussion after discussion just for quanity sake. I like quality instead of quantity. I do get irritated when I see that they are not responding back to discussions that they made.

I have learned not to respond to the people who start a discussion and do not respond to what people way. I have one friend who keeps starting discussions she has never responded to any of the one's I started and she does not comment when anyone responds to here discussions. I am going to take her off my friends list. She is not rude but she is getting profit and not reciprocating to help anyone else. I do not think that is fair.

hi there, Opal.. Sometimes, you have to give people some time before they can comment on the responses..Who knows, they have more important things to do than spend their precious time commenting.. I too, have started a lot of discussions and guilty somehow of what you say..I am a stay at home mom with a 9 year old who needs my attention ASAP and a 10 month old who needs me even more..and a household full of never ending chores that needs to be done and re-done.. Now, you said "to give it to you straight"...I'm not saying that you are referring to me or anyone else but I do want people to understand that some people just can't be here all the time. I do get back on all my responses whenever I have spare time. In fact, for one week I didn't start any discussion but only commented and resolved. My reason was, it's all piling up and i don't want to offend anybody for not commenting or just to even say "thank you". people must have their valid reasons for not getting back asap. Some have different styles in doing their thing on Mylot. Some others just post discussions during weekdays and comments on them on weekends. Some are writing their discussions on notepads and posts them one after the other. What I do is write all my discussions whenever I am resting or when an idea comes up. Then I'll get back whenever i have another resting period..I even stay up late til 2 am just to be able to comment..Eventhough I am tired and have to turn in for the night, I don't because I wanna comment.. People are of different nature..They are not always what we expect them to be..

Hi, I think these people are not doing these discussions for quality conversations but only for the money. I admit that I came here and joined for the money, but I got so enthralled with the concept that now I start discussions and respond to discussions because it is so much fun and I learn so much! I've seen too many discussion lately that start as a simple question and the problem is, the person that is starting the conversation does not even answer their own question with a discussion, opinion or views. They just ask the question. Then they go and start another discussion with another question. It drives me nuts. You see all these questions on the list and that brings down the topics that really might be of interest. Ok, that's twice tonight I've been on my soap box, time to quit. Happy MyLotting, Char

When your talking to someone face to face or even on the phone and you ask a question and they don't answer and look at you with a blind stare, that is what it feels like when people don't answer the messages you respond to. I know I am a bit slow at times to answer, but I try to make sure I respond to every person's response (at least once). Try not to get to carried away so it looks like I have to have the last word. I think if you don't have an interest in what other people have to say then you shouldn't both posting the message.