Commenting On Your Discussions -"If It Doesn't Appy-Let It Fly!"

@Opal26 (17690)
United States
July 23, 2008 11:39am CST
I really don't like to make waves here at mylot, since I know how that goes. But quite honestly I see this happening quite often, especially with a few myloters in particular. As my counselor would say "If it doesn't apply, let it fly!" I am still seeing discussions started one after another and NEVER any comments written by the people starting the discussion. They just go on and start another discussion and then another. This bugs me! It's like they really don't care. Again quantity, not quality! So, give it to me straight-what do you think???
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
23 Jul 08
I have a "three strikes and your out" rule in such cases Opal. I will respond to a maximum of three of a non replier's discussions. If they don't respond I don't post to one of their discussions again. If they come to mine I do respond of course. The matter is not helped by the fact that myLot Guidelines state that there is no point in responding as it won't improve your earnings. Personally I see it as courtesy matter. But there are an increasing number that don't bother with responses.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Jul 08
You're right pike, I still keep commenting on this one person anyway and I shouldn't because it bugs me. I think I will stop so she gets the message, but I think she is clueless!
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@myklj999 (13877)
• Olney, Illinois
23 Jul 08
p1ke, as a matter of fact, I received a reply from myLot this morning about this very thing, and they have stated to me that they do pay us for comments in discussions. So to all of you who think you don't earn for this, you are mistaken. I got it from the people who know; myLot admin.
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@myklj999 (13877)
• Olney, Illinois
23 Jul 08
And this is totally unbelievable, but I give you my word on this: I sent the question about it to them today and they responded back to me about it in less than an hour! Now how often does that happen?
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@novataylor (6572)
• United States
23 Jul 08
It DEFINITELY bugs me, Opal. But now that I've been sticking to only the discussions started by my friends, I don't have that problem anymore. That's also,of course, where I have the most fun! And that, over all, is what I want. Having my replies continuously ignored is most assuredly not my idea of fun, ya know?
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• Canada
23 Jul 08
I'm with ya, darlin'. Not replying is just rude, I think. I like P1ke's cure for the frustration of it. 3 strikes, you're out. Yeah, I like that one.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hey nova, Your are so right. I have stopped answering the person's discussions that I was referring to. She is young and I guess doesn't know better.
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23 Jul 08
Hi Opal26, I haven't noticed that but I always when I do my discussions, not very ofetn, when someone responds I always reply back which is a done thing and good manners but if other don't do that well its up to them. Well never noice anything like that because I'm busy responding to everyone who starts a discussions.Good comments. Tamara
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I know tamara it's good manners and I guess not everyone has them. I guess I expect too much of people sometimes!
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23 Jul 08
Hi Opal26, Nah! you are doing a good job kepping your eye out on things, but your are right. Tamara
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
23 Jul 08
I see this too and I don't usually respond to those discussions. What is the point if they really don't care about the topic and they don't want to discuss it and hear others views. I like quality posts that let me think and give my opinion even if it isn't popular but if someone can't even be bothered to read that opinion what is the point? I am with you on this one.
@myklj999 (13877)
• Olney, Illinois
23 Jul 08
Many people here are of the mistaken opinion that myLot does not pay you for commenting to responses. I have seen so many discussions about this recently that I finally went to the one true source for definitive answers; myLot. I received a message from them today, about 20 minutes ago, that yes, they do pay us to comment to responses in our discussions. Anyone that doesn't believe me, add me as a friend and I will show you either the message here, or if you give me your email address I will forward their response to you. So people, listen up; if you are not commenting back to people in your discussions, you are losing money.
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• Canada
23 Jul 08
DUH, I knew that. Or at least I assumed it to be so and I don't assume very much unless pretty obvious.
• Canada
23 Jul 08
Just hanging around you myklj, makes me want to bold all over the place. I like it the way you do it. I use CAPS more often because it is quicker, I think. Bolding takes too long with the code.
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@myklj999 (13877)
• Olney, Illinois
23 Jul 08
I was told once in one of my discussions that it is rude to use bold text but being the bold person that I am, I continue to use it anyway!
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@ruby222 (4848)
23 Jul 08
I really do not know what to think!!there are lots of topics her on Mylot,and there is plenty of scope for improvement ,but that applies to anything anywhere!if someone chooses to write a question and then not give any replies,then surely thats up to them.We all use the internet in different ways,and maybe someone will post a new topic and then go off and surf the net and just forget all about the question they put on Mylot.So dont take it to heart,just answer what is there and enjoy them.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
You have a point too, ruby. But alot of us feel that at some point it is only right to get back to the people who take the time to comment in a discussion that you have started. Everyone is entitled to their own opion.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jul 08
opal read the mylot rules. they suggest we do not reply to our discussions as they do not pay us for that. of course most of us do make some kind of reply as we think its only courtesy. but the rule is you are not supposed to reply. No harm done if we do, but after 'you have been here awhile and have made a lot of discussions its hard to always keepup with them, and I do not get to them for several days . so dont be upset with us,we do read them and do care.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
23 Jul 08
Hatley. You know how much I love you and you have so much going on with your shingles etc that I won't mind if you don't reply to mine. That said, I think that you have always replied to me. Anyway, have you read Myklj's news above?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
23 Jul 08
You have seen it. Good stuff eh?
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• Canada
23 Jul 08
I agree 100% with myklj. I believe we get paid for conversing, not just thanking. I try to respond to every post to my discussions at least once. But good conversation is the best, really.
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@o2bnocn (2895)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I see this quite often also. It bugs me also. I do have to admit that I have not left comments on a couple of discussions that I have started. Most of the time I do go back and leave comments, even if it is not after everyones response. I will try and at least leave one or two in there somewhere. The reason I don't like when people do it over and over and never leave any comments is because it makes me feel like they didn't even come back to read the discussion. I always read the discussion that I make and I read every response. I might not respond to every response but I read all of them. I am going to try and start leaving at least one or two comments on each discussion I make. Mylot isn't just a site to make money on it is a place to talk and read good discussions.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Unfortunately, I think some people just really don't care and are more interested in the money???
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@ellie333 (21029)
23 Jul 08
Hi Opal, If they are happy with posting this way so be it, I personally, even though behind on answering will respond back to people to turn it into a discussion and feel this is where you can build friendships up. The last couple of days though I have been trying to catch up with discussions posted by friends so that is the reason I am behind. I usually work out who doesn't respond back and stop responding unless I really feel I have something important to say. There is nothing in the rules that say they must respond so if they are happy that is fine but I do also realise that this upsets many people, I just let it go mostly. Just concentrate on the peopl that do respond and move on fromthese if it upsets you. Ellie :D
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Hi ellie, I don't think that we should get upset if we can't get back to a discussion. We don't want anyone to get stressed over it. That will take the fun out of it.
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@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
[i]Hello Opal26, Yes, you are right. I don't think these people were really interested for the results of the discussions they started. They mostly only care for the earning they will be getting from the discussions they started. Most of these people earn more by starting several discussion per day than by responding to a discussions. For me, I like to responsed to a discussions than start a new one. I have few discussions that I started and I usually read and provide comments to those who responded. I am interested on what people say and that's the reason why I started the discussion in the firts place. To learned something new from mylotters who are interested to share what they think. Good observation and have a great day![/i]
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Yes Robert, I know you are one of the people who have the same beliefs as I do. In fact all the people who are answering this discussion do!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
oops, I mean almost all. Don't want to get more people pissed! Oh, let me just shut up!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I know sometimes I have been guilty of this my life is crazy sometimes and it's amazing I remember my name muchless my mylot discussions! But I don't usually let them sit unanswered forever. I'll remember eventually and comment at least a little bit. I have a few right now that I'm behind on because my time has been limited this week. The kind of thing you're talking about though does somewhat annoy me but not totally, it depends on the user. I try not to judge anymore because some people have good reasons to start discussion and rarely respond and those reasons might only be known by their close friends. I learned that first hand. But, sometimes you do just get a "feel" for a person and you know that they don't care. I just skip over those types of users.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Thanks foxy you're right. I usually get a feeling about someone and in this case it's not a bad person just a person posting discussion after discussion and not commenting. I kinda want to tell her, but I don't know how. She's not a mean kid, but she's a kid! There are others that should know better, those are the ones that piss me off!
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@alori61 (344)
• United States
24 Jul 08
When I see discussions started by someone and no responses from the starter of the discussion I often wonder if they even are reading them. I understand some of the discussions get very long and it's understandable that they can't reply to all of them but when you never see them in the discussion again you have to wonder why bother responding did they even want to discuss it at all?
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
That's the point you don't want to make people feel like you're not interested in what they are saying
• United States
23 Jul 08
I try very hard to reply to all comments. I average about 85% I think. Some discussion that I've started really don't need extra comments unless someone asks a question but those are few and far between. Some of course are people who didn't read your post, just the title and have no clue what the discussion is really about. I tend to ignore those also. I can't say that it really bothers me when people don't answer my questions or comments. But if I happen to notice that a person NEVER replies to a comment, I tend to not post to their discussions.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Well now I've decided to only respond to the people who I know take the time to respond most of the time at least.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
24 Jul 08
It annoys the heck out of me but there isn't much I can do about it. I make an effort to respond to everyone who replies to my posts. I usually don't get many replies so it's easier for me to respond. I have missed a few on occasion when I can't think of anything to say in response to their comment. Sometimes I find that I repeat myself a lot too. The way I look at it is, if someone took time to answer my discussion, the least I can do is reply to their response. I have also stopped answering a few friends discussions for this very reason.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Eh, I like to reply to my responses, but some people do post a lot of good discussions and it would be eons for them to reply to them all. I know one person got "slammed" for this a lot and she did reply to some of the responses, just not all of them.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Like I've said, it's common courtesy to respond or people will not feel that you are a serious poster.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I agree with you on that one reinydawn...she replied to me quite often these last few months. Even though it does seem like a courtesy, we aren't really under any obligation to respond to everybody. I think it's great to try, fine to get to some, acceptable to answer a few, and tolorable to answer a couple (depending on home life and what we know about the user). Ignoring it completely though just seems disrespectful to all of us.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Opal - it even states in the myLot terms that you shouldn't reply to every response. If I posted 20 quality discussions a day (this will never happen for me, but does for some) and they each got even 10 responses, that's 200 replies. I don't see having the time for every single response. Now, there are people who do just post discussions and NEVER reply to the responses. And I agree, that's not a very good practice.
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@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
hi there, Opal.. Sometimes, you have to give people some time before they can comment on the responses..Who knows, they have more important things to do than spend their precious time commenting.. I too, have started a lot of discussions and guilty somehow of what you say..I am a stay at home mom with a 9 year old who needs my attention ASAP and a 10 month old who needs me even more..and a household full of never ending chores that needs to be done and re-done.. Now, you said "to give it to you straight"...I'm not saying that you are referring to me or anyone else but I do want people to understand that some people just can't be here all the time. I do get back on all my responses whenever I have spare time. In fact, for one week I didn't start any discussion but only commented and resolved. My reason was, it's all piling up and i don't want to offend anybody for not commenting or just to even say "thank you". people must have their valid reasons for not getting back asap. Some have different styles in doing their thing on Mylot. Some others just post discussions during weekdays and comments on them on weekends. Some are writing their discussions on notepads and posts them one after the other. What I do is write all my discussions whenever I am resting or when an idea comes up. Then I'll get back whenever i have another resting period..I even stay up late til 2 am just to be able to comment..Eventhough I am tired and have to turn in for the night, I don't because I wanna comment.. People are of different nature..They are not always what we expect them to be..
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I'm sorry eihdra, I by no means meant that I don't understand that people have lives outside of mylot. Of course I do know that their are busy people who have jobs and children and can't be on mylot for various reasons-I can't either. The discussion was simply about the people who post discussions after discussions with no interest in returning to them.
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
and I do agree with you totally. however busy they may be, there must be some point where they have to comment on their discussions or it wouldn't be called a discussion at all..after all, the comments are being paid also, so if they are in this for the money, commenting would be surely an additional earnings.. i have seen some posts that was started and doesn't have a single comment..and the fact is, the one who started was asking some questions that i think they want to be answered.I dont know what their reasons must be but at least send some signs that it was read. People are exerting efforts and time to respond. Not all of us are here for solely the little money that we get at the end of the month. Most are enjoying what they do and get some kind of comfort and peace whenever they respond.At least show even a little appreciation even a smiley would do..
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• United States
24 Jul 08
When I start a discussion I enjoy going back and reading the replies made to it. There is such a lot of different thoughts given on the discussion. I like to hear the responses. And I also respond back to them. I can not understand why someone would start a discussion if they are not going to respond back. As you say it seems that they are not interested in the responses. Just posting discussion after discussion just for quanity sake. I like quality instead of quantity. I do get irritated when I see that they are not responding back to discussions that they made.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I too like quality before quantity but I'm afraid we are in the minority!
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• United States
24 Jul 08
Opal26, I have come to the same conclussion as you.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
25 Jul 08
Some discussions do get quite lengthy and heated but as long as people can remain civil, that is fine. I like a good discussion, but I have started some that were quality that go no or virtually no response, and I don't understand why. I try to respond to answer to discussions, but it is not always easy.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
25 Jul 08
That happens too Deb. I guess that can't always be helped. When we start a discussion we never know where it's going to go. That's the fun of it.
@meggan79 (436)
• United States
24 Jul 08
When your talking to someone face to face or even on the phone and you ask a question and they don't answer and look at you with a blind stare, that is what it feels like when people don't answer the messages you respond to. I know I am a bit slow at times to answer, but I try to make sure I respond to every person's response (at least once). Try not to get to carried away so it looks like I have to have the last word. I think if you don't have an interest in what other people have to say then you shouldn't both posting the message.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
25 Jul 08
meggan, that is such a great point. It's just so hard to pick and choose.
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• United States
24 Jul 08
I have learned not to respond to the people who start a discussion and do not respond to what people way. I have one friend who keeps starting discussions she has never responded to any of the one's I started and she does not comment when anyone responds to here discussions. I am going to take her off my friends list. She is not rude but she is getting profit and not reciprocating to help anyone else. I do not think that is fair.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
25 Jul 08
Hey tea, It's not and that's the point I am trying to make.
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