What do you think about spanking?

July 23, 2008 5:31pm CST
Do you believe in spanking or not? Why? If you do, at what age do you think it is appropriate to start. I believe in spanking, but only when the punishment fits the crime. They would have had to do something pretty bad to deserve it. I believe in spanking because I was spanked myself. Most hispanics are firm believers in spankings. I think kids are just get more and more irresponsible because the lack of spanking. Anyway, tell me what you think about the subject as a whole. Thanks!
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• United States
25 Jul 08
my kids are 11 and 13 and i do believe in spanking yes. i am like you though the crime has to fit. now when my kids got to the point of crawling and getting into things i would say no 2 times then after that i would pat there hands. not hard you know. when they hit about 18 months i would swat the diaper if i had to repeat myself more then 2 times. the counting thing usally worked though i could say after that 2nd time of saying no i would say 1 , 2 and by three they usally stopped lol. that worked great till they started counting with me and thought it was a game lol. now after they hit about i guess it was 7 i started grounding and taking stuff away that usally does work. i have swatted them across the butt a few times since but it was over smart mouth etc. it wasnt a spanking it was a swat. most kids today though dont have respect for there parents, others , or even thereselves. i figure i had to do something right my 13 yearold doesnt sneak out, smoke, drink, date, or give me a hard time. she is a good kid same with my 11 year old. i dont think the spanking hurt them at all. in fact my kids never went to the store with me and when i said no about something throw a huge fit. that drives me nuts to go to a store and a kid be yelling and screaming and the parent just sit there and say no over and over, or i will tell your dad, or ok you dont get to do this and the kid just keeps it up. i see alot of my kids friends and the way they talk and treat there parents i would never stand for. the kids are always respectful to me though and if not they wouldnt be welcome in my house and they know it. i think though you have to give a child respect to get it yourself but they have to know that when you say something you mean it.
26 Jul 08
When my mom would take things away when I was younger that never worked for me either. But my mom would spank me with my dads belt. That put the fear of God into me, and stopped me from doing alot of things lol. But I wouldn't spank my kids with a belt though. Thats to the point of child abuse. But back then to be spanked with a belt was like no big thing. We road in the back of pickups, and played on metal playgrounds and we were all the better for it.
@click50 (68)
• United States
23 Jul 08
I think spanking is approriate for kids age 1-3. Before one, the child really doesn't understand if something they are doing is right or wrong; so these kids just need to be redirected. After age 3 they not only know when something that they are doing is right or wrong, they also understand being timed-out or having a privilege removed. If you spank your kids on a regular basis for their mistakes, they learn, first to ignore you and second they learn that hitting is the way to resolve a situation. Time outs and privilege removal for bad behavior as well as a reward system for good behavior seem to me to be the best way to discipline a child.
26 Jul 08
I agree 1 is very young. My husband thinks that I should swat my 11 month olds hand when he is trying to get something he shouldn't. But I don't agree with that. He's little and curious, I really don't think that would stop him from wanting to explore. With my 3 year old if he keeps doing the same thing wrong over a period of time that is when I take away a favorite toy of his or something of that nature. Thanks for the comment!
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
yes i believe in spanking. that is if i warned for three times already. but my child is only two years old and we always make it a point to talk to him and not just do spanking. as what is said in the bible spare the rod spoil the child. if we want to disipline our child a little spanking goes a long long way.... spank not beat. but dont just spank tell them what is the reason behind the spanking
26 Jul 08
I do the same. Thanks for the comment!
@sisco100 (2345)
• United States
2 Aug 08
i dont think tht spank is right it just creats the fear in the child of their parents. witch in turn has a big impact on them as they get older. it many work as a young kid but after a certin age the child knows more about wht is right and wrong. personaly i was spanked as a child and it cased me get into more truble and more independent. i started to belive tht they werent there for me. at one point in my life i was so scared of my dad, tht i hit him in the ribs with a baseball bat cuz i thought tht he was going to spank me. tht was the last time he ever did tht. personaly i think tht spacking permotes violance and some wht teachs tht its ok to hit someone if u feel tht they done something wrong. i think tht there are better ways to teach kids right and wrong with out hitting them. when i have kids i'm not going to spank them no matter how much he may deserve it.
• United States
2 Aug 08
I believe in spanking, but not as the first line of punishment. For me, it was a matter of trying the least harsh thing first, and if that didn't work, it would progress, i.e. warning, time-out, loss of priveledge, and so on and so forth. I was beaten as a child by my stepmother, so I definitely know there's a line that you don't cross. For instance, when it comes to spanking, I would never use anything other than my hand (partially because if I use my hand, it's a bit painful for me to - which is another reminder to not go to far). But they have to screw up pretty bad to get a spanking - and even then, after the spanking and the period of calming down, we have a talk about why they got in trouble in the first place. Parents who don't spank don't bother me in theory - some people can effectively discipline without spanking. But parents who essentially cater to their children or always use reasoning rather than some form of punishment irritate me. I've seen parents watch their kids hit another child and only react by saying, very nicely, "Now, we don't hit, do we?" Not firm at all, but like they're placating them. If you don't want to spank your kid, I have no problem with that, but at least be firm! No sense in acting like you're afraid of your child. My kids know when they've crossed a line. They're not afraid of me in general, but they definitely know when they've messed up, and they know that there will be consequences - whether it be a spanking or a time out or having a priveledge taken away is immaterial - kids need boundaries and consequences.
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I do believe in spanking but only as a last resort when everything else has failed. Other than that I will not spank my kids.