how does your life change after marriage

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
July 23, 2008 10:43pm CST
i have heard that your life will change after you get married but i was never told if it was for the better or the worse and i was just wondering if all of you felt the same way that are married...do you really think that your life changes after you are married to that person and if so what do you think changes about it and do you think that its for the better or for the worse? do you like your life better after you got married...please tell us about this because one day i hope to get married and i was just wondering what all of you thought about this...thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and hopefully you will have a great night!
2 people like this
21 responses
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
Your life will never be the same again after marriage. It is your wake up call to reality. You will not think anymore of romantic dates with your partner but your concerns and priorities will be the bills and the kids. You will not think of yourself only like you did when you are still single, you have other persons to think already. This is the reason why you have to be prepared emotionally and financially before getting married. And make sure that the partner you will choose is the one that you want to grow old with. After all, it will be the teamwork between the two of you that will make marriage work.
@ebhjboo (121)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Yes your life changes when you get married. You now have to start thinking for two and make decisions that are not only in your best interests, but also the best interests of your spouse and your relationship together. To me, marriage is having an equal partner in which to live life with. I think that it makes your life more enjoyable to share it with someone than to live it alone, but not everyone believes this, so it is a personal decision. Marriage will teach you patience, tolerance, commitment, love, forgiveness, companionship, negotiating skills, and so much more. No you don't have as much independence as you had when you were single, but to me the positives definately outweigh the negatives. Have a great night too!
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
24 Jul 08
you have really given me an inside to what marriage is and how your life changes when you get married, thanks for the help and the information you have given me, thanks for replying to my discussion!
1 person likes this
• China
25 Jul 08
Maybe it will change,maybe not.I think change depends on the way you two get along with each other whether change or not.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 08
jhl you find that you arent thinking just of yourself, but of your mate.you are less lonely , and happier to. It is for 'the better as you becomeless selfish and more giving. also you have a friend and an alili, someone who cares about you and whom you care about.You find new things out about your mate'and about yourself, you learn to give and to take.Wheyou are blue your mate cheers you up and you do that for him too.Its mostly better believe me. much better.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
25 Jul 08
My fiance's mother has told us that not all that much will change. I suppose it just depends on the commitment that you already share and if you are already thinking like a couple. I believe she told us that nothing will change because we are already saving OUR money, and spending OUR money, and are thinking about US!
• United States
24 Jul 08
I never wanted to get married, EVER, my whole life. And two weeks ago, I did! =D and it's the happiest feeling ever. If you're with the one that you want to be with, and you'll know, then marriage is awesome. My parents have been married for 25+ years, and they're still happy. I've been with my now husband since last October, and I am SO happy that we got married. Marriage will only change people who let it change them. For me, the only difference is that I proudly have his last name. We still cuddle, we still kiss, we still do......other stuff, hehe. And regardless of what anyone may tell you, wedding cake does NOT cause impotence :-x
• United States
24 Jul 08
my life change alot after i got married cause my husband loves me so much. MOre then what he ever had when we was just dating so yes i think your life change after you ger married
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
24 Jul 08
You know, my fiance and I talked about this the other night. I asked him, since we're living together and doing 'married' people stuff, what will be different? why are we getting married anyways? From a man's point of view: 1. It will be different because you'll be protected - should something happen to me (meaning him) I'll be the one making decisions. 2. We will be doing things according to God's will instead of our own. 3. We'll be setting an example to the kids. 4. I get to call you my wife. I thought number 1 was really sweet and considerate. He said that although he could draw up a will and make me his proxy - should his retarded family try to intervene; it's easier and safer if we're married. We still plan on having a will and all that legal mumbo jumbo... Well anyways, things do change, but it should be for the better.
• United States
24 Jul 08
While I have yet to experience it for myself, I think that yes, life definitely changes after you marry. A song comes to mind from the show Company: You don't live for her, you do live with her, you're scared she's starting to drift away; and scared she'll stay. Good things get better, bad get worse- wait, I think I meant that in reverse.
@walijo2008 (4647)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Yes, your life does change after your married, I think its for the better. You will always have someone there for you, when you need them, someone to talk to. At first, its hard trying to get used to each other, and getting used to having their things around you, getting used to their habits good or bad. For me the 1st year of our marriage was hard, I had to get used to him being around all the time, just trying to connect two people and their things and their lives together. Its no longer, me, myself and I, theres two of you now,you try to decide whats best for the both of you, when making decisions. I like my life better now, I have someone to lean on, go places with, and talk to, and share things with. I like it, we've been married for 5 yrs. now and it keeps getting better, I've grown alot in these past years. I can't hardly imagine what my life was like before, I think it was very boring..lol. Have a good day
@luvjabb (58)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I think that for better or worst is in the vows says it all,We all have our good and bad days. All We can do is follow our heart and do the best we can to make our family happy.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
24 Jul 08
I think your life changes in that you no longer must think about just yourself, but you must take your partner and your children into consideration. So being single might mean more freedom, but being married gives you a sense of belonging! I think I am happier being married!
24 Jul 08
It does change once you marry,but thats because there are tow of you ,and where once you only had yourself to consider now there is someone else to be taken into cosideration.But if you sdo a bit of team work then the marriage will go well,do not take each other for granted and help each other out.you will find that you have to compromise in order to keep the peace but it works both ways and he willl have to compromise too.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
24 Jul 08
hubby and i have been married for 20 years and hopefully even before you start thinking of getting married you stop thinking singularily about yourself and think about the other person as well. this was hard for me at the beginning, because i am an only child.
@minnie_98214 (10573)
• United States
24 Jul 08
Well I just celebrated my one year anniversary and well I say nothing has changed for us we are the same as always. Im no expert on this by any means but i think if you let things change they will.
@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Jul 08
Hi ya jhl930 For me life certainly changed after marriage. His expectations of me as his wife increased dramatically though not overnight. I think some people change the second that piece of paper gets signed and they feel they own that person. I don't think it is something you can figure out before you marry cos what are you going to say to your partner 'are you going to change after we wed?' Just because of my bad experience I certainly wouldn't say it is the case for everyone.
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
good day.. I haven't got married yet so I can't contribute to this discussion but I find it interesting though because I'm gonna get married this year and I need some insights as to what married life is like. I'm enjoy reading this very much informative discussion.
@Jade13 (262)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 08
I have been married for more than half a year now. At first, we are not used to it. Living together under one roof. There's always disagreement over some petty issues. But we have talked about it, and both of us are trying to improve ourselves. I have to say that after marriage, our responsibility are more, you get less ME time, but the good thing is, when you are happy/ down/ sad/ angry/ disappointed. there's always your other half sharing it with you.
• India
24 Jul 08
See, it depends on how u take the things. In my case, i found evthing good at last........... means there were arguments/differnce of opinions, discussions ets, and at the end ev thing got sorted out. If end is good, all is good! Life is not bed of roses; afterall - nor it is full of pains too ........
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
24 Jul 08
Hello dear jhl. I love my life after marriage though I enjoyed more freedom before getting married. I love married life because I feel more motivated in my life and work after marriage and I feel more responsible for my family. When I get back home, I have someone to talk to and to share with me my happiness and my other feelings that I have every day. With a child coming into our life, it seems that our life is busier and we are happier because of our child or children. I love my life after marriage and I am happy that I don't have to remain single. I enjoy my marriage. Thank you so much for your nice discussion, dear friend.