happiness is in the doing,not in the getting what you want.

before sunset - When Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine (Julie Delpy) met on a Eurail train, the connection between them was immediate and profound. The 14-hour relationship that followed, as the pair explored the spontaneous and unexpected in Vienna, ended on a train platform where they swore they'd meet
@xialinye (1403)
China
July 23, 2008 11:37pm CST
i don't quite understand what does this line really mean.it's from the lines of the movie "before sunset". there's this guy. And... he's totally depressed! I mean, his great dream was to be a lover, an adventurer, you know, riding motorcycles through South America, and instead he's sitting at a marble table, eating lobster, and he's got a good job and a beautiful wife, right. You know, everything that he needs. But that doesn't matter, 'cause what he wants is to fight for meaning. You know, happiness is in the doing, not in the...getting what you want. what's your opinion,please share with us.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
24 Jul 08
Happiness is in the doing and not getting what u want means, we only care about the process but not the result.. Because we are the one making things happening the way we want and making it as good as possible, not the end results, is not being determined by us alone.. It can be affected by alot of things, and will not end up being happy.. Sometimes, what it seems to be good to others, may not be what we actually wanted in life, because everybody's expectations differs, and that's not the kind of life that one wants too ^_^
@xialinye (1403)
• China
24 Jul 08
we all only care about the result not the process. you both right.
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@agihcam (1916)
• Philippines
24 Jul 08
For me, getting what you want is easy. There are lots of way, even it is in a nice way or the other. I do believe in this, that I was more happy if I've got the things I want with my own little way, without doing a cheat or something. I could not be happy if I did got something but I knew I do some cheating doing so. So, it is more on doing that getting what you wanted.
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@xialinye (1403)
• China
24 Jul 08
got it,now i understand that.thank you very much.
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@zweeb82 (5744)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 08
Many times we as humans are results orientated & too objective driven - thus we just want to get what we want no matter the process. But if we take a step back when we've achieved something, we'd realize that the process is just as much important as the results, in fact sometimes even more important as there are many life's lessons to be learnt along the way we've been through
@xialinye (1403)
• China
28 Jul 08
the process is just as much important as the results,i agree with that. but sometimes,you know,everyone wants to achieve their goals,to get a good score ,medal or invent some new products.but the result is fail,became a loser.they enjoy the process,but they lose.
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@zweeb82 (5744)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 08
Well, if we are optimistic & see every failure as another step closer to success then things may look different. Well, how many bulbs did Thomas Edison burn before inventing it?
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
27 Jul 08
Yeah it is in the doing but the doing has a lot to do with getting what you want, I think. I want security and my own home and a good honest husband and so to get those things I have to do first to earn them. Then when/if I get those things I have to keep doing to keep myself happy and find other goals to reach. Isn't that what life is about, finding the things that make you happy and living them, doing them, as you put it. I hope you and everyone find what makes them happy, but it is never ending as our goals do change as we live our lives. I am 51 years old and I still don't have what I want so I may have to change my goals as well. But I have to continue living doing what I enjoy and what makes me happy, now, too. So we can't compromise living today to get what we want in the future, I think. This is just my opinion, my friend.
@xialinye (1403)
• China
28 Jul 08
i like that:"isn't that what life is about,finding the things that make you happy and living them,doning them,as you put it." i have heard that Steve Jobs said in the Stanford:"Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle." i love his saying:"you've got to find what you love."
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• United States
26 Jul 08
I disagree. getting what you Really want Is happiness. It sounds like the "successful" guy got everything that was suppose to make him happy but it didn't. He didn't follow his bliss.He didn't go for what really would make him happy. So I don't believe happiness is in the doing, unless you are doing what you always wanted to do.
@MizukiZHR (611)
• China
25 Jul 08
Mmm,I think process is more inportant than result.So we can say hapiness is in the doing,not in the getting what you want.And I think if we get something too easy without challenges,we will forget it quickly.
@cjgrooms (4457)
• United States
25 Jul 08
A lot of people has dreams about doing something and really enjoy the journey there, but are not happy being there. Their happiness was in the doing (traveling) not in actually getting what they thought they wanted.
• United States
25 Jul 08
Happiness is fleeting. Most of the time, we are determined in the pursuit of what we want. Take gaming for instance. We will glue ourselves to games for days to beat it. Then once we beat it we are left with the let down of having beat it... What next? You feel happiness for such a short time after you get what you want, then it is onto the next pursuit (or doing in this case). Does that make sense? The happiness comes from doing what you have to to get what you want, but it isn't necessarily in the having got it.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Jul 08
I think that is a bunch of hooey. Happiness is doing what you love to do and being what you intended to be, and if you settle for second best, you will never be happy. I am happy writing my novel, and I will not cease to be happy when the novel is published. I am happy singing and I will not cease being happy hf they make a Cd of my music, etc. So if this guy wanted to be going through the jungle, fighting snakes, and living a life of adventure, that is what he should have worked for, joined the Foreign Legion, volunteered as a mercenary, instead of settling down, and he should have married a nurse or a missionary instead of a girl at home.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
It made me think also what it means. Well an example for that is maybe when you want a computer then you buy it, its true that when you got it it will make you happy but then the process of getting it will fade away as there will be more newer models that will come and you would definitely look for it and want to get some more of it. But doing is something you love to do even when there are circumstances that you're in. An example for that is that if you love to surf the net you will do it despite the fact that your pc is old or slow since you love surfing the net you'll stay there despite where you are. I hope I answered it correctly
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I think it means that getting everything you want does not make you happy, but doing things with the people you love does!