Can you work well with a person who you dislike?

China
July 24, 2008 9:20am CST
My father told me this story:He has a colleague he really dislike,but the work always can be done very quickly when he work with the colleague.So he made this conclusion:A person who you dislike also can be your good partner.Do you agree with my father?Or you have the opposite idea?Please tell me your answer.
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• United States
24 Jul 08
Your dad is right to a certain extent for there are those that we may not like but they are good workers and can get the job done there for you look past the dislikeing part and get the job done that much faster. I have been there and I actually learned to start appreciateing the person more no matter if the person did things to make me not like him/her in the first place.
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• China
24 Jul 08
I agree with you.After all,work and making friends have no relationship.Thanks for your reply,have a nice day.
• Malaysia
25 Jul 08
Hi MizukiZHR, currently i'm working with few people who i dislike also. However, there is not much problem occurred during the work. Might be this could be most of the time i only keep silent and do my part only. I dislike them is not because they bully me, but they will keep saying something insult your feeling when you work for them. Therefore, i did feel that: silence, sometimes is the best solution.
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• China
25 Jul 08
Yes,it is right.
@Wizzywig (7859)
24 Jul 08
I'm fortunate in that there is no-one I really dislike at my workplace. There are some people who I am less comfortable working with and I find that I can work better when they are not around as I'm not waiting for them to be condescending or pushy. I find I can work better in a more friendly atmosphere.
• China
24 Jul 08
You are really very lucky because most of people all have to work with at least one person he/she dislike,they have no choice.Thanks for share.Have a lovely day.
@Wizzywig (7859)
24 Jul 08
maybe I'm just too easy going because there have been few people in my life that I really disliked. There are people whose behaviour or attitude irritates me but I tend to make excuses for them...
• China
25 Jul 08
I think you are a kind person and everyone will like making friends with you.
• China
25 Jul 08
Oh,I'm so sorry.Things like that never have happened on myself.So I have no suggestion to tell you.You can explore it yourself.hahahaha
• China
25 Jul 08
You are really very lucky,gb.
@zhuxia (344)
• China
25 Jul 08
I agree with your father. Dislike somebody can't affect their cooperation.
• China
25 Jul 08
Thanks for your reply.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 08
mizukizhr hi No I could not work wellwith a person whom I disliked as the person was lazy and a whiner who wanted to do everything but what she had hired for. I finally blew up and said i will do my own work, but I will not do yours. do your own assignment or else I will tell the manager. and idid'and she was ultimately fired and I was not.
• China
25 Jul 08
Mmm,I think sometimes we have no choice and should learn to adjust to others,right?Thanks for share.
@baddying (89)
• China
24 Jul 08
My dad often told me such stories too, because I used to say I didn't work with those I didn't like. I think work is totally different from life. I really want to live with those I like. In the past, if I hate someone, I cannot even stay with him for more than five minutes. But now it's better; at least I can work with them. However, I am facing the problem now--I have to live with those I dislike, maybe detest. Someone in our dormitory is talking badly behind my friend's back, and I hate her really. I cannot stand how to forgive this kind of people, though my friend says she's OK with that. It is because of my friend's kindness that makes me detest this mean girl more. Every time I go back to dormitory, I want to get out. I don't want to see her, and I am considering moving out. So I think working with them is OK, but it is absolutely impossible to me to live with them.
• China
24 Jul 08
Maybe you are right.But sometimes we have no choice right?So I think learn to adjust to others is necessary.After all,people in the world who you like is only a small numbers.
• United States
24 Jul 08
In the past I have not been able to work with people I don't like. It made for a very stressful work place. I don't hide my feelings well and that may be part of the problem. That was a few years ago though, I may handle the situation different now that I am a little older.
• China
24 Jul 08
Mmm,I think adjust to others is necessary and congratulations to you because you have learned how to handle the situation.
@keya2468 (289)
• India
24 Jul 08
Well , I think therearevery few people in the world whom we like. that means we don't like most of the people in our surrounding.so we have to adjust with them.
• China
24 Jul 08
In some aspects I agree with you,thanks for share.
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
24 Jul 08
I have a co-worker that I really dislike. He seems to dislike everyone he works with, too. I think that the feeling is mostly mutual. He always wants to take charge, and when I ask him if he needs help, he says no. Then, he will wait until the very last moment to ask for help, usually when he is trying to get a dog back into its run. I think one day, I might just pretend that I didn't hear him and let him handle the situation himself. The dog isn't going to be harmed, it's just going to be loosed within a closed-off room. A lot does get done, because I usually leave him to his own business, and go find something else to do. There is plenty of things to do at work, anyway.
• China
24 Jul 08
I think your colleague's self-respect is too strong and having a talk with him may be helpful.