Why is it so hard for a woman, to be friends with another woman?

United States
July 25, 2008 5:55am CST
I am a bit of a tomboy. It is easier for me to get along with men than woman. I in general have more in common with the guys than the woman I have met. I am a mother of four children and still to this day, I have not found a real female friend that I connect with. Dont get me wrong I have had so called female friends in the past, but unfortunatly they had there own agenda. Basically I was a pawn in one way shape or form. My question is this, are there any women out there who have had a good relationship friend wise with another girl? A bond like sisters a real closeness where the other person does not treat you as competition or purposely try to hurt you for reasons unknown. I really want to know if this exsists. I am begining to think its a myth. Can anyone tell me why its so hard for women to get along with other women? I have my own conceptions of why I have had so much difficulty, but I would like to hear what others have to say on this subject.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
25 Jul 08
You mentioned you a a bit of a tomboy, could that be why? I think woman on woman friendship is the strongest bond there is. I know of many marriages that have broken up because the husband feels that his wife is spending more time with her girlfriend than him. I had a friend and we were very close for many many years, there was never any back stabbing, we could talk and had a great relationship. She got involved with a guy, and that did not stop our friendship, but he kind of brought her down financially. She lost her house and we kind of lost touch. I did not hear from her for about two years, then one day my son said she called, I was so happy and called her back on the number he gave me. She was still in a bad financial situation and needed $300.00 as a deposit to move into a new apartment. I was so glad to hear from her, I immediately found out where she was and brought her the money. She said she would pay me back the next week. I have not heard from her since, that was 15 years ago. But I think that there can really be a strong solid friendship between two women. I do not have the same kind of relationship with my friends now that I had with that woman.
• United States
25 Jul 08
thanks for your input it allows for some form of some hope which is what I need. But I also believe that women now adays are very different from myself. Maybe I am to old fashion with my ideas of what a real friend is. I just know the kind of person I am, and have not found anyone else who can respect what I feel a real friendship should be based on. Honesty, is my major downfall when seeking out women as a friend. I am always upfront and honest, but it is never returned. I am very outspoken which could be part of my problem as well, but if you ask for an opinion I will give you an honest one, and I dont feel most women can handle that today. I know that people are not perfect, and I try to take everything into consideration, when making friends. My biggest problem is though I cant stand anyone who lies. That for me wil end a friendship fast. Do you have any ideas or advise for me, am I asking for to much in that aspect?